Re-entering the dating scene. Are brazilian waxes an expectation now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men slightly prefer bare, but they certainly aren’t going to turn down “mostly shaved” or “neatly trimmed” so long as it’s not a full jungle down there. It’s not a deal breaker for most men.

Let’s be real. A hetero man with the typical male sex drive isn’t turning away the untamed jungle, either. Maybe it’s not his ideal, but there are probably things about his body that aren’t his partner’s ideal, either.

This is true. I really don’t think men care at all. They are fine with whatever makes you the most comfortable and uninhibited!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men prefer hair: but tamed. Wax the bikini line and maybe a trim if needed, but don’t wax it all off.

IMO men that want totally bare are usually the ones that watch way way too much porn. Not great boyfriend material.

Here is another woman telling us what men prefer. So dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men slightly prefer bare, but they certainly aren’t going to turn down “mostly shaved” or “neatly trimmed” so long as it’s not a full jungle down there. It’s not a deal breaker for most men.

Let’s be real. A hetero man with the typical male sex drive isn’t turning away the untamed jungle, either. Maybe it’s not his ideal, but there are probably things about his body that aren’t his partner’s ideal, either.

This is true. I really don’t think men care at all. They are fine with whatever makes you the most comfortable and uninhibited!

They care. Every guy I've ever been with told me what his preference was. They don't all prefer the same thing of course, but they do care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men slightly prefer bare, but they certainly aren’t going to turn down “mostly shaved” or “neatly trimmed” so long as it’s not a full jungle down there. It’s not a deal breaker for most men.

Let’s be real. A hetero man with the typical male sex drive isn’t turning away the untamed jungle, either. Maybe it’s not his ideal, but there are probably things about his body that aren’t his partner’s ideal, either.

This is true. I really don’t think men care at all. They are fine with whatever makes you the most comfortable and uninhibited!

They care. Every guy I've ever been with told me what his preference was. They don't all prefer the same thing of course, but they do care.

They have a “preference,” but I think the point is it isn’t necessarily a “deal breaker.”

[Anonymous]

My advice is to what makes you feel comfortable. Personally, I keep it neat and trim and did laser hair removal around the bikini line, but but that was because I like to be able to put on a swimsuit and not have to shave that area and get ingrown hairs and bumps and what not that I used to get years ago, pre-laser hair removal. I never got a full wax and have never received feedback that I should. My husband jokes that he has a landing strip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men slightly prefer bare, but they certainly aren’t going to turn down “mostly shaved” or “neatly trimmed” so long as it’s not a full jungle down there. It’s not a deal breaker for most men.

Let’s be real. A hetero man with the typical male sex drive isn’t turning away the untamed jungle, either. Maybe it’s not his ideal, but there are probably things about his body that aren’t his partner’s ideal, either.

This is true. I really don’t think men care at all. They are fine with whatever makes you the most comfortable and uninhibited!

They care. Every guy I've ever been with told me what his preference was. They don't all prefer the same thing of course, but they do care.

They have a “preference,” but I think the point is it isn’t necessarily a “deal breaker.”

They aren't rushing to go down on wildebeest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My advice is to what makes you feel comfortable. Personally, I keep it neat and trim and did laser hair removal around the bikini line, but but that was because I like to be able to put on a swimsuit and not have to shave that area and get ingrown hairs and bumps and what not that I used to get years ago, pre-laser hair removal. I never got a full wax and have never received feedback that I should. My husband jokes that he has a landing strip.

every guy calls it that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here. We don't want you to look like a child. That's gross. Neat and tidy is fine.

I didn't read all the pages of the thread so this comment might have already been discussed. If so, pardon me.

As a grown woman, this is what I've always thought: Men should not want women to look prepubescent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Man here. We don't want you to look like a child. That's gross. Neat and tidy is fine.

I didn't read all the pages of the thread so this comment might have already been discussed. If so, pardon me.

As a grown woman, this is what I've always thought: Men should not want women to look prepubescent.

Men (and women) who keep associating no hair down there with children are sick. You are the ones that keep bringing this up. A man is not with a 50 year old woman in an exclusive relationship because he likes 10 years olds. Please stop.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I didn’t burn my bra 100 years ago, so that women are basing “painful “ decisions about what they do with their body on their dating chances.
If it’s a deal breaker not to go through a Brazilian wax, it’s a good way to weed out the guys that are wrong

But what if we, women, prefer it bare? It's easier to go to the pool without thinking if hair is sticking out of my swimsuit. It's easier to keep clean. I enjoy sex more. So to each her own?

DP. It’s one thing if a woman prefers to go bare for her own reasons, but that’s obviously not OP or else she wouldn’t be worrying about whether guys expect it.

I think some guys may prefer it, but if it’s an expectation or requirement rather than a mild preference, that’s a red flag. Not because it means he’s a pedo (I don’t think that is the case) but because he probably has all manner of rigid and fussy expectations of a woman’s appearance and/or he watches too much porn.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men slightly prefer bare, but they certainly aren’t going to turn down “mostly shaved” or “neatly trimmed” so long as it’s not a full jungle down there. It’s not a deal breaker for most men.

Let’s be real. A hetero man with the typical male sex drive isn’t turning away the untamed jungle, either. Maybe it’s not his ideal, but there are probably things about his body that aren’t his partner’s ideal, either.

This is true. I really don’t think men care at all. They are fine with whatever makes you the most comfortable and uninhibited!

They care. Every guy I've ever been with told me what his preference was. They don't all prefer the same thing of course, but they do care.

They have a “preference,” but I think the point is it isn’t necessarily a “deal breaker.”

They aren't rushing to go down on wildebeest

My DH is a fan of the ungroomed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, I didn’t burn my bra 100 years ago, so that women are basing “painful “ decisions about what they do with their body on their dating chances.
If it’s a deal breaker not to go through a Brazilian wax, it’s a good way to weed out the guys that are wrong

But what if we, women, prefer it bare? It's easier to go to the pool without thinking if hair is sticking out of my swimsuit. It's easier to keep clean. I enjoy sex more. So to each her own?

DP. It’s one thing if a woman prefers to go bare for her own reasons, but that’s obviously not OP or else she wouldn’t be worrying about whether guys expect it.

I think some guys may prefer it, but if it’s an expectation or requirement rather than a mild preference, that’s a red flag. Not because it means he’s a pedo (I don’t think that is the case) but because he probably has all manner of rigid and fussy expectations of a woman’s appearance and/or he watches too much porn.

+1 definitely. If he expects a completely smooth bikini area, dollars to donuts he also expects women to be at a certain weight all the time, wear makeup, doesn’t like casual clothes … it’s a sign of a guy who is overly critical of a woman’s appearance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most men prefer hair: but tamed. Wax the bikini line and maybe a trim if needed, but don’t wax it all off.

IMO men that want totally bare are usually the ones that watch way way too much porn. Not great boyfriend material.

Nope.

Most men will take what they can get. Plenty are happy with neat and trim.

Brazilians = more pleasure (more sensitivity), easier to keep clean. Most men are fine with whatever, but once they start dating someone with a Brazilian, they enjoy the positives. And they perform plenty of *ral.

Not true that men who grow to like them are bad boyfriends. Grow up, PP.

[Anonymous]

I’m a millennial, 35, and I haven’t been single for 10yrs now but this was not an expectation when I was dating. It is also not something my single friends feel they need to do now.

I’ve tried it but it’s not an everyday look for me. If I were you I’d keep things trimmed and neat but no need to get a full wax. You don’t want to end up with a guy who thinks any hair down there is “gross”.

[Anonymous]

UTIs and hair removal down there
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10624866/