Does it ever work out for the women whose boyfriends don’t propose?

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Anonymous wrote:"out of wedlock" lol. What is this, 1958?

My DH and I were together for 14 years before we got married. He was divorced (no kids, and no big terrible story -- just figured out they wanted different lives) and just didn't feel the need to do it again. I didn't feel strongly about it one way or the other. At some point we changed our minds and got married, just the two of us on a beach in Hawaii. We lived together for about 10 years before getting married, and 5 of them were in a house we bought together. We don't have kids.

It's 2024. People aren't feeling the need to have the state rubber-stamp their relationship.

You don’t have kids so you can’t understand a person who wants to have kids. Most women would want a commitment from the man.

Honestly, is marriage “a commitment” these days any more than cohabitation?

Actually it is. You stand in front of your family and friends and exchange vows to spend the rest of your life together. You are becoming one another’s family. You are legally married.

I used to think it didn’t really matter. Now that I am older I understand the financial aspect of marriage, the status of being married. It is very different than just being a girlfriend or partner. I know in our circles, we don’t take girlfriends as serious as wives. The guys may bring a new girlfriend around every year or so. Very different when it is a wife.

Well yeah, you’re a kunt. Of course you look down on others.

Wow, you seem very upset by a not big deal comment. We are in our mid forties. We have been together for over 20 years. We have teen kids and most of our friends have been married for 10-20 years. Our colleagues are all married. The very few who are not or are divorced may being a girlfriend to a holiday party or birthday occasionally. If we never see her again because they broke up or the coworker never brings her again, we can’t get to know her. The wives we see for decades.

We see your character. And now you’re backpedaling from your original comment.

I’m not backpedaling at all. If my divorced girlfriend has a new guy, I don’t take him seriously either. I am not really interested in hanging out for someone who may only be in her life for a few months. You only have so much time.

My BIL is single. We used to meet his girlfriends over the years. Now I’m not so interested. He seems to have a serious girlfriend now. He has a few girlfriends per year.

Yaas queen! Stand in your ignorance!

What ignorance? Most of our friends and colleagues are married with children. A few are divorced. If I’m catching up with an old friend who happens to now be single and divorced and she or he is dating someone that they don’t make a big deal out of. I’m not that interested in that person they are dating. By the next time we get together comes along, they are no longer dating. This seems more like how it goes in post divorced life.

Keep digging that grave sweetheart. You being a boorish ahole isn't the flex you think it

This is a parenting forum. I have 3 kids. A lot of our socializing is with married family friends and their kids. We don’t really hang out with single childless people and their significant others. If Dh and I are double dating, which is super rare, it is usually a good friend and his wife. We do have a widower friend who had a girlfriend we have hung out with. They must have been together for a few years but we probably met and hung out with her twice. It is kind of like introducing someone to your kids. If you just started dating and it is relatively short, you don’t introduce this person to your professional colleagues or family friends.

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Anonymous wrote:"out of wedlock" lol. What is this, 1958?

My DH and I were together for 14 years before we got married. He was divorced (no kids, and no big terrible story -- just figured out they wanted different lives) and just didn't feel the need to do it again. I didn't feel strongly about it one way or the other. At some point we changed our minds and got married, just the two of us on a beach in Hawaii. We lived together for about 10 years before getting married, and 5 of them were in a house we bought together. We don't have kids.

It's 2024. People aren't feeling the need to have the state rubber-stamp their relationship.

You don’t have kids so you can’t understand a person who wants to have kids. Most women would want a commitment from the man.

Honestly, is marriage “a commitment” these days any more than cohabitation?

Actually it is. You stand in front of your family and friends and exchange vows to spend the rest of your life together. You are becoming one another’s family. You are legally married.

I used to think it didn’t really matter. Now that I am older I understand the financial aspect of marriage, the status of being married. It is very different than just being a girlfriend or partner. I know in our circles, we don’t take girlfriends as serious as wives. The guys may bring a new girlfriend around every year or so. Very different when it is a wife.

Well yeah, you’re a kunt. Of course you look down on others.

Wow, you seem very upset by a not big deal comment. We are in our mid forties. We have been together for over 20 years. We have teen kids and most of our friends have been married for 10-20 years. Our colleagues are all married. The very few who are not or are divorced may being a girlfriend to a holiday party or birthday occasionally. If we never see her again because they broke up or the coworker never brings her again, we can’t get to know her. The wives we see for decades.

We see your character. And now you’re backpedaling from your original comment.

I’m not backpedaling at all. If my divorced girlfriend has a new guy, I don’t take him seriously either. I am not really interested in hanging out for someone who may only be in her life for a few months. You only have so much time.

My BIL is single. We used to meet his girlfriends over the years. Now I’m not so interested. He seems to have a serious girlfriend now. He has a few girlfriends per year.

Yaas queen! Stand in your ignorance!

What ignorance? Most of our friends and colleagues are married with children. A few are divorced. If I’m catching up with an old friend who happens to now be single and divorced and she or he is dating someone that they don’t make a big deal out of. I’m not that interested in that person they are dating. By the next time we get together comes along, they are no longer dating. This seems more like how it goes in post divorced life.

Keep digging that grave sweetheart. You being a boorish ahole isn't the flex you think it

This is a parenting forum. I have 3 kids. A lot of our socializing is with married family friends and their kids. We don’t really hang out with single childless people and their significant others. If Dh and I are double dating, which is super rare, it is usually a good friend and his wife. We do have a widower friend who had a girlfriend we have hung out with. They must have been together for a few years but we probably met and hung out with her twice. It is kind of like introducing someone to your kids. If you just started dating and it is relatively short, you don’t introduce this person to your professional colleagues or family friends.

You’re jumping around making all sorts of excuses for your nasty comment.

[Anonymous]

We’ve been together for 36 yrs. Started dating at 16. 4 kids and now 1 grandkid. Honestly, we just never got around to getting married. Occasionally one of us brings it up and the other agrees. And then we move on and another few years go by. We’ve raised our kids, buried our parents, been through major medical scares.

He out earns me but we both do well on our own (900/250) We are each others beneficiaries on all policies and have joint bank and brokerage accounts. Our close friends know and everyone else just assumes we are married.

I think our situation only works when it’s okay for both people.

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Anonymous wrote:"out of wedlock" lol. What is this, 1958?

My DH and I were together for 14 years before we got married. He was divorced (no kids, and no big terrible story -- just figured out they wanted different lives) and just didn't feel the need to do it again. I didn't feel strongly about it one way or the other. At some point we changed our minds and got married, just the two of us on a beach in Hawaii. We lived together for about 10 years before getting married, and 5 of them were in a house we bought together. We don't have kids.

It's 2024. People aren't feeling the need to have the state rubber-stamp their relationship.

You don’t have kids so you can’t understand a person who wants to have kids. Most women would want a commitment from the man.

Honestly, is marriage “a commitment” these days any more than cohabitation?

Actually it is. You stand in front of your family and friends and exchange vows to spend the rest of your life together. You are becoming one another’s family. You are legally married.

I used to think it didn’t really matter. Now that I am older I understand the financial aspect of marriage, the status of being married. It is very different than just being a girlfriend or partner. I know in our circles, we don’t take girlfriends as serious as wives. The guys may bring a new girlfriend around every year or so. Very different when it is a wife.

Well yeah, you’re a kunt. Of course you look down on others.

Wow, you seem very upset by a not big deal comment. We are in our mid forties. We have been together for over 20 years. We have teen kids and most of our friends have been married for 10-20 years. Our colleagues are all married. The very few who are not or are divorced may being a girlfriend to a holiday party or birthday occasionally. If we never see her again because they broke up or the coworker never brings her again, we can’t get to know her. The wives we see for decades.

We see your character. And now you’re backpedaling from your original comment.

I’m not backpedaling at all. If my divorced girlfriend has a new guy, I don’t take him seriously either. I am not really interested in hanging out for someone who may only be in her life for a few months. You only have so much time.

My BIL is single. We used to meet his girlfriends over the years. Now I’m not so interested. He seems to have a serious girlfriend now. He has a few girlfriends per year.

Yaas queen! Stand in your ignorance!

What ignorance? Most of our friends and colleagues are married with children. A few are divorced. If I’m catching up with an old friend who happens to now be single and divorced and she or he is dating someone that they don’t make a big deal out of. I’m not that interested in that person they are dating. By the next time we get together comes along, they are no longer dating. This seems more like how it goes in post divorced life.

Keep digging that grave sweetheart. You being a boorish ahole isn't the flex you think it

This is a parenting forum. I have 3 kids. A lot of our socializing is with married family friends and their kids. We don’t really hang out with single childless people and their significant others. If Dh and I are double dating, which is super rare, it is usually a good friend and his wife. We do have a widower friend who had a girlfriend we have hung out with. They must have been together for a few years but we probably met and hung out with her twice. It is kind of like introducing someone to your kids. If you just started dating and it is relatively short, you don’t introduce this person to your professional colleagues or family friends.

You’re jumping around making all sorts of excuses for your nasty comment.

I’m not jumping around at all. I’m not interested in meeting a short term temporary person. Like I said, we are in our mid late forties and we hang out with mostly families.

You seem very offended for no reason. I don’t know if you are single, divorced, have a partner or maybe the person that some man didn’t bring around to family or professional events. When you become middle aged and already divorced, I don’t think these men and women are falling head over heels. If they are not that excited or serious, why would we care?

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Anonymous wrote:We’ve been together for 36 yrs. Started dating at 16. 4 kids and now 1 grandkid. Honestly, we just never got around to getting married. Occasionally one of us brings it up and the other agrees. And then we move on and another few years go by. We’ve raised our kids, buried our parents, been through major medical scares.

He out earns me but we both do well on our own (900/250) We are each others beneficiaries on all policies and have joint bank and brokerage accounts. Our close friends know and everyone else just assumes we are married.

I think our situation only works when it’s okay for both people.

If both people are on the same page, it is totally fine and acceptable. The problem is when the woman wants to get married and have kids and they are getting older. Be in love and not ready for marriage in your twenties? Fine. When you are in your mid thirties? Not fine anymore.

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Anonymous wrote:"out of wedlock" lol. What is this, 1958?

My DH and I were together for 14 years before we got married. He was divorced (no kids, and no big terrible story -- just figured out they wanted different lives) and just didn't feel the need to do it again. I didn't feel strongly about it one way or the other. At some point we changed our minds and got married, just the two of us on a beach in Hawaii. We lived together for about 10 years before getting married, and 5 of them were in a house we bought together. We don't have kids.

It's 2024. People aren't feeling the need to have the state rubber-stamp their relationship.

You don’t have kids so you can’t understand a person who wants to have kids. Most women would want a commitment from the man.

Honestly, is marriage “a commitment” these days any more than cohabitation?

Actually it is. You stand in front of your family and friends and exchange vows to spend the rest of your life together. You are becoming one another’s family. You are legally married.

I used to think it didn’t really matter. Now that I am older I understand the financial aspect of marriage, the status of being married. It is very different than just being a girlfriend or partner. I know in our circles, we don’t take girlfriends as serious as wives. The guys may bring a new girlfriend around every year or so. Very different when it is a wife.

Well yeah, you’re a kunt. Of course you look down on others.

Wow, you seem very upset by a not big deal comment. We are in our mid forties. We have been together for over 20 years. We have teen kids and most of our friends have been married for 10-20 years. Our colleagues are all married. The very few who are not or are divorced may being a girlfriend to a holiday party or birthday occasionally. If we never see her again because they broke up or the coworker never brings her again, we can’t get to know her. The wives we see for decades.

We see your character. And now you’re backpedaling from your original comment.

I’m not backpedaling at all. If my divorced girlfriend has a new guy, I don’t take him seriously either. I am not really interested in hanging out for someone who may only be in her life for a few months. You only have so much time.

My BIL is single. We used to meet his girlfriends over the years. Now I’m not so interested. He seems to have a serious girlfriend now. He has a few girlfriends per year.

Yaas queen! Stand in your ignorance!

What ignorance? Most of our friends and colleagues are married with children. A few are divorced. If I’m catching up with an old friend who happens to now be single and divorced and she or he is dating someone that they don’t make a big deal out of. I’m not that interested in that person they are dating. By the next time we get together comes along, they are no longer dating. This seems more like how it goes in post divorced life.

Keep digging that grave sweetheart. You being a boorish ahole isn't the flex you think it

This is a parenting forum. I have 3 kids. A lot of our socializing is with married family friends and their kids. We don’t really hang out with single childless people and their significant others. If Dh and I are double dating, which is super rare, it is usually a good friend and his wife. We do have a widower friend who had a girlfriend we have hung out with. They must have been together for a few years but we probably met and hung out with her twice. It is kind of like introducing someone to your kids. If you just started dating and it is relatively short, you don’t introduce this person to your professional colleagues or family friends.

You’re jumping around making all sorts of excuses for your nasty comment.

I’m not jumping around at all. I’m not interested in meeting a short term temporary person. Like I said, we are in our mid late forties and we hang out with mostly families.

You seem very offended for no reason. I don’t know if you are single, divorced, have a partner or maybe the person that some man didn’t bring around to family or professional events. When you become middle aged and already divorced, I don’t think these men and women are falling head over heels. If they are not that excited or serious, why would we care?

Why would anyone care what you think?

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Anonymous wrote:We’ve been together for 36 yrs. Started dating at 16. 4 kids and now 1 grandkid. Honestly, we just never got around to getting married. Occasionally one of us brings it up and the other agrees. And then we move on and another few years go by. We’ve raised our kids, buried our parents, been through major medical scares.

He out earns me but we both do well on our own (900/250) We are each others beneficiaries on all policies and have joint bank and brokerage accounts. Our close friends know and everyone else just assumes we are married.

I think our situation only works when it’s okay for both people.

If both people are on the same page, it is totally fine and acceptable. The problem is when the woman wants to get married and have kids and they are getting older. Be in love and not ready for marriage in your twenties? Fine. When you are in your mid thirties? Not fine anymore.

Then she should find a guy who wants that, age doesn't matter.

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If they are having sex and making money who cares

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Anonymous wrote:We’ve been together for 36 yrs. Started dating at 16. 4 kids and now 1 grandkid. Honestly, we just never got around to getting married. Occasionally one of us brings it up and the other agrees. And then we move on and another few years go by. We’ve raised our kids, buried our parents, been through major medical scares.

He out earns me but we both do well on our own (900/250) We are each others beneficiaries on all policies and have joint bank and brokerage accounts. Our close friends know and everyone else just assumes we are married.

I think our situation only works when it’s okay for both people.

You guys are great!

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Anonymous wrote:"out of wedlock" lol. What is this, 1958?

My DH and I were together for 14 years before we got married. He was divorced (no kids, and no big terrible story -- just figured out they wanted different lives) and just didn't feel the need to do it again. I didn't feel strongly about it one way or the other. At some point we changed our minds and got married, just the two of us on a beach in Hawaii. We lived together for about 10 years before getting married, and 5 of them were in a house we bought together. We don't have kids.

It's 2024. People aren't feeling the need to have the state rubber-stamp their relationship.

You don’t have kids so you can’t understand a person who wants to have kids. Most women would want a commitment from the man.

Honestly, is marriage “a commitment” these days any more than cohabitation?

Actually it is. You stand in front of your family and friends and exchange vows to spend the rest of your life together. You are becoming one another’s family. You are legally married.

I used to think it didn’t really matter. Now that I am older I understand the financial aspect of marriage, the status of being married. It is very different than just being a girlfriend or partner. I know in our circles, we don’t take girlfriends as serious as wives. The guys may bring a new girlfriend around every year or so. Very different when it is a wife.

Well yeah, you’re a kunt. Of course you look down on others.

Wow, you seem very upset by a not big deal comment. We are in our mid forties. We have been together for over 20 years. We have teen kids and most of our friends have been married for 10-20 years. Our colleagues are all married. The very few who are not or are divorced may being a girlfriend to a holiday party or birthday occasionally. If we never see her again because they broke up or the coworker never brings her again, we can’t get to know her. The wives we see for decades.

We see your character. And now you’re backpedaling from your original comment.

I’m not backpedaling at all. If my divorced girlfriend has a new guy, I don’t take him seriously either. I am not really interested in hanging out for someone who may only be in her life for a few months. You only have so much time.

My BIL is single. We used to meet his girlfriends over the years. Now I’m not so interested. He seems to have a serious girlfriend now. He has a few girlfriends per year.

Yaas queen! Stand in your ignorance!

What ignorance? Most of our friends and colleagues are married with children. A few are divorced. If I’m catching up with an old friend who happens to now be single and divorced and she or he is dating someone that they don’t make a big deal out of. I’m not that interested in that person they are dating. By the next time we get together comes along, they are no longer dating. This seems more like how it goes in post divorced life.

Keep digging that grave sweetheart. You being a boorish ahole isn't the flex you think it

This is a parenting forum. I have 3 kids. A lot of our socializing is with married family friends and their kids. We don’t really hang out with single childless people and their significant others. If Dh and I are double dating, which is super rare, it is usually a good friend and his wife. We do have a widower friend who had a girlfriend we have hung out with. They must have been together for a few years but we probably met and hung out with her twice. It is kind of like introducing someone to your kids. If you just started dating and it is relatively short, you don’t introduce this person to your professional colleagues or family friends.

You’re jumping around making all sorts of excuses for your nasty comment.

I’m not jumping around at all. I’m not interested in meeting a short term temporary person. Like I said, we are in our mid late forties and we hang out with mostly families.

You seem very offended for no reason. I don’t know if you are single, divorced, have a partner or maybe the person that some man didn’t bring around to family or professional events. When you become middle aged and already divorced, I don’t think these men and women are falling head over heels. If they are not that excited or serious, why would we care?

Why would anyone care what you think?

Well you seem to care calling anonymous people on the internet names for not caring.

I find myself being much more old fashioned as I get older. I used to think it wasn’t a big deal to get married. Marriage and family is everything.

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Anonymous wrote:If they are having sex and making money who cares

Why would you care about their financial or private matters?

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Anonymous wrote:"out of wedlock" lol. What is this, 1958?

My DH and I were together for 14 years before we got married. He was divorced (no kids, and no big terrible story -- just figured out they wanted different lives) and just didn't feel the need to do it again. I didn't feel strongly about it one way or the other. At some point we changed our minds and got married, just the two of us on a beach in Hawaii. We lived together for about 10 years before getting married, and 5 of them were in a house we bought together. We don't have kids.

It's 2024. People aren't feeling the need to have the state rubber-stamp their relationship.

You don’t have kids so you can’t understand a person who wants to have kids. Most women would want a commitment from the man.

Honestly, is marriage “a commitment” these days any more than cohabitation?

Actually it is. You stand in front of your family and friends and exchange vows to spend the rest of your life together. You are becoming one another’s family. You are legally married.

I used to think it didn’t really matter. Now that I am older I understand the financial aspect of marriage, the status of being married. It is very different than just being a girlfriend or partner. I know in our circles, we don’t take girlfriends as serious as wives. The guys may bring a new girlfriend around every year or so. Very different when it is a wife.

Well yeah, you’re a kunt. Of course you look down on others.

Wow, you seem very upset by a not big deal comment. We are in our mid forties. We have been together for over 20 years. We have teen kids and most of our friends have been married for 10-20 years. Our colleagues are all married. The very few who are not or are divorced may being a girlfriend to a holiday party or birthday occasionally. If we never see her again because they broke up or the coworker never brings her again, we can’t get to know her. The wives we see for decades.

We see your character. And now you’re backpedaling from your original comment.

I’m not backpedaling at all. If my divorced girlfriend has a new guy, I don’t take him seriously either. I am not really interested in hanging out for someone who may only be in her life for a few months. You only have so much time.

My BIL is single. We used to meet his girlfriends over the years. Now I’m not so interested. He seems to have a serious girlfriend now. He has a few girlfriends per year.

Yaas queen! Stand in your ignorance!

What ignorance? Most of our friends and colleagues are married with children. A few are divorced. If I’m catching up with an old friend who happens to now be single and divorced and she or he is dating someone that they don’t make a big deal out of. I’m not that interested in that person they are dating. By the next time we get together comes along, they are no longer dating. This seems more like how it goes in post divorced life.

Keep digging that grave sweetheart. You being a boorish ahole isn't the flex you think it

This is a parenting forum. I have 3 kids. A lot of our socializing is with married family friends and their kids. We don’t really hang out with single childless people and their significant others. If Dh and I are double dating, which is super rare, it is usually a good friend and his wife. We do have a widower friend who had a girlfriend we have hung out with. They must have been together for a few years but we probably met and hung out with her twice. It is kind of like introducing someone to your kids. If you just started dating and it is relatively short, you don’t introduce this person to your professional colleagues or family friends.

You’re jumping around making all sorts of excuses for your nasty comment.

I’m not jumping around at all. I’m not interested in meeting a short term temporary person. Like I said, we are in our mid late forties and we hang out with mostly families.

You seem very offended for no reason. I don’t know if you are single, divorced, have a partner or maybe the person that some man didn’t bring around to family or professional events. When you become middle aged and already divorced, I don’t think these men and women are falling head over heels. If they are not that excited or serious, why would we care?

Why would anyone care what you think?

Well you seem to care calling anonymous people on the internet names for not caring.

I find myself being much more old fashioned as I get older. I used to think it wasn’t a big deal to get married. Marriage and family is everything.

Calling you out on your name was the right thing. As you keep proving over and over.

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If a couple is monogamous and there are no kids involved, why would anyone else care?

Plenty of unhappy married people, coupled people, single people, and also plenty of happy married/coupled/singles as well.

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Anonymous wrote:"out of wedlock" lol. What is this, 1958?

My DH and I were together for 14 years before we got married. He was divorced (no kids, and no big terrible story -- just figured out they wanted different lives) and just didn't feel the need to do it again. I didn't feel strongly about it one way or the other. At some point we changed our minds and got married, just the two of us on a beach in Hawaii. We lived together for about 10 years before getting married, and 5 of them were in a house we bought together. We don't have kids.

It's 2024. People aren't feeling the need to have the state rubber-stamp their relationship.

You don’t have kids so you can’t understand a person who wants to have kids. Most women would want a commitment from the man.

Honestly, is marriage “a commitment” these days any more than cohabitation?

Actually it is. You stand in front of your family and friends and exchange vows to spend the rest of your life together. You are becoming one another’s family. You are legally married.

I used to think it didn’t really matter. Now that I am older I understand the financial aspect of marriage, the status of being married. It is very different than just being a girlfriend or partner. I know in our circles, we don’t take girlfriends as serious as wives. The guys may bring a new girlfriend around every year or so. Very different when it is a wife.

Well yeah, you’re a kunt. Of course you look down on others.

Wow, you seem very upset by a not big deal comment. We are in our mid forties. We have been together for over 20 years. We have teen kids and most of our friends have been married for 10-20 years. Our colleagues are all married. The very few who are not or are divorced may being a girlfriend to a holiday party or birthday occasionally. If we never see her again because they broke up or the coworker never brings her again, we can’t get to know her. The wives we see for decades.

We see your character. And now you’re backpedaling from your original comment.

I’m not backpedaling at all. If my divorced girlfriend has a new guy, I don’t take him seriously either. I am not really interested in hanging out for someone who may only be in her life for a few months. You only have so much time.

My BIL is single. We used to meet his girlfriends over the years. Now I’m not so interested. He seems to have a serious girlfriend now. He has a few girlfriends per year.

Yaas queen! Stand in your ignorance!

What ignorance? Most of our friends and colleagues are married with children. A few are divorced. If I’m catching up with an old friend who happens to now be single and divorced and she or he is dating someone that they don’t make a big deal out of. I’m not that interested in that person they are dating. By the next time we get together comes along, they are no longer dating. This seems more like how it goes in post divorced life.

Keep digging that grave sweetheart. You being a boorish ahole isn't the flex you think it

This is a parenting forum. I have 3 kids. A lot of our socializing is with married family friends and their kids. We don’t really hang out with single childless people and their significant others. If Dh and I are double dating, which is super rare, it is usually a good friend and his wife. We do have a widower friend who had a girlfriend we have hung out with. They must have been together for a few years but we probably met and hung out with her twice. It is kind of like introducing someone to your kids. If you just started dating and it is relatively short, you don’t introduce this person to your professional colleagues or family friends.

You’re jumping around making all sorts of excuses for your nasty comment.

I’m not jumping around at all. I’m not interested in meeting a short term temporary person. Like I said, we are in our mid late forties and we hang out with mostly families.

You seem very offended for no reason. I don’t know if you are single, divorced, have a partner or maybe the person that some man didn’t bring around to family or professional events. When you become middle aged and already divorced, I don’t think these men and women are falling head over heels. If they are not that excited or serious, why would we care?

Why would anyone care what you think?

Well you seem to care calling anonymous people on the internet names for not caring.

I find myself being much more old fashioned as I get older. I used to think it wasn’t a big deal to get married. Marriage and family is everything.

Calling you out on your name was the right thing. As you keep proving over and over.

And you seem low class.

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Anonymous wrote:If a couple is monogamous and there are no kids involved, why would anyone else care?

Plenty of unhappy married people, coupled people, single people, and also plenty of happy married/coupled/singles as well.

In this case, the woman does want kids.