Does it ever work out for the women whose boyfriends don’t propose?

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for over a decade. They met in college and are now 34. The boyfriend claims he loves her but is not ready for marriage. I personally would have left long ago. They have lived together for 10 years and basically act like a married couple except they are not married.

Does it ever work out for women who never get the ring?

Do they eventually leave? Have kids out of wedlock?

[Anonymous]

Statistically? No, it doesn't work out.

I do know two couples who dated over a decade and, are, for now, still married. But honestly I think their lives and journey is sad. The woman was miserable (and is still?) For years.

[Anonymous]

The girls I know became women in their 30s and the guys broke up with them married and had kids. One girl married later. The other women are still single 50s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for over a decade. They met in college and are now 34. The boyfriend claims he loves her but is not ready for marriage. I personally would have left long ago. They have lived together for 10 years and basically act like a married couple except they are not married.

Does it ever work out for women who never get the ring?

Do they eventually leave? Have kids out of wedlock?

If one wants marriage but the other doesn't the one that does usually grows resentful. If both are on the same page then it's not a problem.
I know many women who live with their boyfriends as a married couple, but have no interest in marriage as a legal institution. Does your friend want marriage or you're assuming she does?

[Anonymous]

Does your friend want to get married and/or have babies? If not, sounds like a great arrangement. If yes, time to move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for over a decade. They met in college and are now 34. The boyfriend claims he loves her but is not ready for marriage. I personally would have left long ago. They have lived together for 10 years and basically act like a married couple except they are not married.

Does it ever work out for women who never get the ring?

Do they eventually leave? Have kids out of wedlock?

If one wants marriage but the other doesn't the one that does usually grows resentful. If both are on the same page then it's not a problem.
I know many women who live with their boyfriends as a married couple, but have no interest in marriage as a legal institution. Does your friend want marriage or you're assuming she does?

She wants marriage and kids. Her family is pressuring her big time. They are younger than me so I always thought of her as like a fresh college grad but now she is approaching advanced maternal age. Her family is telling her to have a baby now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for over a decade. They met in college and are now 34. The boyfriend claims he loves her but is not ready for marriage. I personally would have left long ago. They have lived together for 10 years and basically act like a married couple except they are not married.

Does it ever work out for women who never get the ring?

Do they eventually leave? Have kids out of wedlock?

If one wants marriage but the other doesn't the one that does usually grows resentful. If both are on the same page then it's not a problem.
I know many women who live with their boyfriends as a married couple, but have no interest in marriage as a legal institution. Does your friend want marriage or you're assuming she does?

She wants marriage and kids. Her family is pressuring her big time. They are younger than me so I always thought of her as like a fresh college grad but now she is approaching advanced maternal age. Her family is telling her to have a baby now.

What her family wants should be irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

There’s a big difference between people who are together for 10 years and unmarried because the my are happy with their lives and don’t want kids and don’t see the need to get married and people who are together for 10 years with one wanting to get married and the other always putting it off for a year or two.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a big difference between people who are together for 10 years and unmarried because the my are happy with their lives and don’t want kids and don’t see the need to get married and people who are together for 10 years with one wanting to get married and the other always putting it off for a year or two.

The guy is doing very well professionally. She has moved with him with no ring. They moved three years ago. I think everyone expected them to get engaged and married but it never happened. Now she is getting older. They both want kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a big difference between people who are together for 10 years and unmarried because the my are happy with their lives and don’t want kids and don’t see the need to get married and people who are together for 10 years with one wanting to get married and the other always putting it off for a year or two.

The guy is doing very well professionally. She has moved with him with no ring. They moved three years ago. I think everyone expected them to get engaged and married but it never happened. Now she is getting older. They both want kids.

How do you know they both want kids? Such a weird post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a big difference between people who are together for 10 years and unmarried because the my are happy with their lives and don’t want kids and don’t see the need to get married and people who are together for 10 years with one wanting to get married and the other always putting it off for a year or two.

The guy is doing very well professionally. She has moved with him with no ring. They moved three years ago. I think everyone expected them to get engaged and married but it never happened. Now she is getting older. They both want kids.

I noticed you mentioned how her family wants them to get married and to have children, and now you're saying that everyone expected them to get married, which makes me wonder: why do you think these expectations others have for this couple relevant?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a big difference between people who are together for 10 years and unmarried because the my are happy with their lives and don’t want kids and don’t see the need to get married and people who are together for 10 years with one wanting to get married and the other always putting it off for a year or two.

The guy is doing very well professionally. She has moved with him with no ring. They moved three years ago. I think everyone expected them to get engaged and married but it never happened. Now she is getting older. They both want kids.

I noticed you mentioned how her family wants them to get married and to have children, and now you're saying that everyone expected them to get married, which makes me wonder: why do you think these expectations others have for this couple relevant?

I am a family friend. It doesn’t matter what I think. I already said I would have left long ago. The only thing that matters is that this man has not proposed or married my friend. She wants to get married and have kids. He supposedly does one day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a big difference between people who are together for 10 years and unmarried because the my are happy with their lives and don’t want kids and don’t see the need to get married and people who are together for 10 years with one wanting to get married and the other always putting it off for a year or two.

The guy is doing very well professionally. She has moved with him with no ring. They moved three years ago. I think everyone expected them to get engaged and married but it never happened. Now she is getting older. They both want kids.

I noticed you mentioned how her family wants them to get married and to have children, and now you're saying that everyone expected them to get married, which makes me wonder: why do you think these expectations others have for this couple relevant?

I am a family friend. It doesn’t matter what I think. I already said I would have left long ago. The only thing that matters is that this man has not proposed or married my friend. She wants to get married and have kids. He supposedly does one day.

Your friend probably likes this man more than she likes marriage and kids. If she wanted both as badly as you say she does she wouldn't have stayed with him for what I assume to be 10+ years. Not really sure why you seem to be so invested in their relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s a big difference between people who are together for 10 years and unmarried because the my are happy with their lives and don’t want kids and don’t see the need to get married and people who are together for 10 years with one wanting to get married and the other always putting it off for a year or two.

The guy is doing very well professionally. She has moved with him with no ring. They moved three years ago. I think everyone expected them to get engaged and married but it never happened. Now she is getting older. They both want kids.

I noticed you mentioned how her family wants them to get married and to have children, and now you're saying that everyone expected them to get married, which makes me wonder: why do you think these expectations others have for this couple relevant?

I am a family friend. It doesn’t matter what I think. I already said I would have left long ago. The only thing that matters is that this man has not proposed or married my friend. She wants to get married and have kids. He supposedly does one day.

Your friend probably likes this man more than she likes marriage and kids. If she wanted both as badly as you say she does she wouldn't have stayed with him for what I assume to be 10+ years. Not really sure why you seem to be so invested in their relationship.

I’m married with 3 kids. I know women who have met, married and had 2-3 kids in 5 years. I don’t think I know anyone who was with their husband for over 10 years and then got married and had kids. I do know men who weren’t ready and then they marry and have kids right after not being ready with said long term girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:[twitter]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a big difference between people who are together for 10 years and unmarried because the my are happy with their lives and don’t want kids and don’t see the need to get married and people who are together for 10 years with one wanting to get married and the other always putting it off for a year or two.

The guy is doing very well professionally. She has moved with him with no ring. They moved three years ago. I think everyone expected them to get engaged and married but it never happened. Now she is getting older. They both want kids.

I noticed you mentioned how her family wants them to get married and to have children, and now you're saying that everyone expected them to get married, which makes me wonder: why do you think these expectations others have for this couple relevant?

I am a family friend. It doesn’t matter what I think. I already said I would have left long ago. The only thing that matters is that this man has not proposed or married my friend. She wants to get married and have kids. He supposedly does one day.

Your friend probably likes this man more than she likes marriage and kids. If she wanted both as badly as you say she does she wouldn't have stayed with him for what I assume to be 10+ years. Not really sure why you seem to be so invested in their relationship.

I’m married with 3 kids. I know women who have met, married and had 2-3 kids in 5 years. I don’t think I know anyone who was with their husband for over 10 years and then got married and had kids. I do know men who weren’t ready and then they marry and have kids right after not being ready with said long term girlfriend.

I have a gorgeous, smart, charismatic friend who was in a similar situation. She finally broke up with him, and within a year, met her now husband at 35 thru OLD, and a year after that they had a baby. Her husband is cute and rich and she seems happy. Imagine if she stayed with the other guy.