Things are not so bad after all for us divorced guys 45+

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Anonymous wrote:Women in their late mid 30s are advanced maternal age , they are old and not looking to have kids

Not true. Most of my friends had first kids at 40-45. My youngest is 9. I am 46. I am hardly old among moms: you are out of touch.

I was the youngest of my friends to have my first at 34 by accident. Most did not have a kid until 40.

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. A word of caution about your unmarried 35 year old with no kids. If you aren’t interested in starting over with a brand new family make sure you take whatever precautions you need to take to prevent that from happening. I know of three men who got trapped by “oops” pregnancies with their unmarried childless younger girlfriends. Have fun but be careful.

+1000000. Do NOT have another kid if you care about the ones you have.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty similar to you and have found it easiest to date women with kids closer to my age, or women much younger who want to have a family someday, but don't want to consider it for 5-6 years. Current GF is 26.

NP. I get the ick from a 26 year old dating 46 year old…too close to my own daughter’s age.

Good. I’ll smile about that when we’re on our upcoming long weekend getaway.

Why do men think ppl are impressed by their sexual exploits with younger women? Some show of virility or something? It’s super weird.

Its because when they can no longer perform women come here and complain of their erection issues, how they can only go once a week, how they c**m quick etc women are cruel toward men they perceive are not sexually meeting their needs.

Men are equally, if not more, cruel about women, their looks, their sexuality, etc. So gmab.

If women didn't engage in the same criticism of fellow women then perhaps men wouldn't be so judgemental as you correctly pointed out. The way a woman describes another woman she doesn't like is often about her looks sexuality etc. women call other women b**ch etc. so treat your own better first

Wrong. Women only criticize each other due to intra-sexual competition. The men are biologically programmed to pursue the youngest and/or most physically attractive women. I am a very woman and this really depresses me, but it is what it is.

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No, date young hot women! Just be honest. They have agency.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. The discussion about kids did come and I made it clear that I was done having kids. I do not plan to be remarried right away but I do not want to discount that. The lady I am currently seeing said she is unsure whether she wants kids but as of right now she doesn't want to have kids.

If she’s unsure and at the end of her shot you need to walk away. She’s either hoping she can convince you or will one day resent you for making the final deviation for her. No good will come of it. Date women your own age. Be the grown up.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty similar to you and have found it easiest to date women with kids closer to my age, or women much younger who want to have a family someday, but don't want to consider it for 5-6 years. Current GF is 26.

NP. I get the ick from a 26 year old dating 46 year old…too close to my own daughter’s age.

Good. I’ll smile about that when we’re on our upcoming long weekend getaway.

Why do men think ppl are impressed by their sexual exploits with younger women? Some show of virility or something? It’s super weird.

Its because when they can no longer perform women come here and complain of their erection issues, how they can only go once a week, how they c**m quick etc women are cruel toward men they perceive are not sexually meeting their needs.

Men are equally, if not more, cruel about women, their looks, their sexuality, etc. So gmab.

If women didn't engage in the same criticism of fellow women then perhaps men wouldn't be so judgemental as you correctly pointed out. The way a woman describes another woman she doesn't like is often about her looks sexuality etc. women call other women b**ch etc. so treat your own better first

Wrong. Women only criticize each other due to intra-sexual competition. The men are biologically programmed to pursue the youngest and/or most physically attractive women. I am a very woman and this really depresses me, but it is what it is.

A very [what?] woman?

for what it's worth, I tend to think it's the crowd you are in, I find woman much harsher about other woman's appearance than men.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty similar to you and have found it easiest to date women with kids closer to my age, or women much younger who want to have a family someday, but don't want to consider it for 5-6 years. Current GF is 26.

NP. I get the ick from a 26 year old dating 46 year old…too close to my own daughter’s age.

Good. I’ll smile about that when we’re on our upcoming long weekend getaway.

Why do men think ppl are impressed by their sexual exploits with younger women? Some show of virility or something? It’s super weird.

Its because when they can no longer perform women come here and complain of their erection issues, how they can only go once a week, how they c**m quick etc women are cruel toward men they perceive are not sexually meeting their needs.

Men are equally, if not more, cruel about women, their looks, their sexuality, etc. So gmab.

If women didn't engage in the same criticism of fellow women then perhaps men wouldn't be so judgemental as you correctly pointed out. The way a woman describes another woman she doesn't like is often about her looks sexuality etc. women call other women b**ch etc. so treat your own better first

Wrong. Women only criticize each other due to intra-sexual competition. The men are biologically programmed to pursue the youngest and/or most physically attractive women. I am a very woman and this really depresses me, but it is what it is.

A very [what?] woman?

for what it's worth, I tend to think it's the crowd you are in, I find woman much harsher about other woman's appearance than men.

×10000. Men will make disparaging comments for a minute or two. Women on the other hand will go into details about another woman's appearance that she dislikes. If a woman likes you you are golden. If she dislikes you oh boy good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:Women in their late mid 30s are advanced maternal age , they are old and not looking to have kids

Not true. Most of my friends had first kids at 40-45. My youngest is 9. I am 46. I am hardly old among moms: you are out of touch.

I was the youngest of my friends to have my first at 34 by accident. Most did not have a kid until 40.

+1 I have plenty of single girl friends in their late thirties that have frozen their eggs and still hope to have children once they find a partner.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting...a woman the same age proudly (and is even encouraged) date a younger man of the same age but a man doing so suddenly it's a flood of comments telling me to rethink his position. Aren't men entitled to enjoy dating a younger person as well? Please someone explain to me like I am 2 years old. A 46 years old woman dates an early 30 years old guy and even encouraged other divorced women to do so but then they tell the 46 years old guy to date women the same age as him or older. Some even call an older man dating a younger woman creepy or gross. What about the woman dating younger? Interesting

These things are not comparable. Older man dating a younger woman who probably wants children is completely different than an older woman dating a younger man when they know exactly what they are doing, and it’s clear that they’re not going to have a long-term relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting...a woman the same age proudly (and is even encouraged) date a younger man of the same age but a man doing so suddenly it's a flood of comments telling me to rethink his position. Aren't men entitled to enjoy dating a younger person as well? Please someone explain to me like I am 2 years old. A 46 years old woman dates an early 30 years old guy and even encouraged other divorced women to do so but then they tell the 46 years old guy to date women the same age as him or older. Some even call an older man dating a younger woman creepy or gross. What about the woman dating younger? Interesting

These things are not comparable. Older man dating a younger woman who probably wants children is completely different than an older woman dating a younger man when they know exactly what they are doing, and it’s clear that they’re not going to have a long-term relationship.

When I date younger women they know exactly what they are doing (they know that the moment they swipe right) and it’s clear we’re not going to have a long-term relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Rare to find a 30-something who doesn’t want kids, OP.

I seemed to find them all the time when I was a never married 30-something guy who wanted kids. Maybe the DC area was an anomaly.

I had to dip down and find a 20something woman who wanted kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Rare to find a 30-something who doesn’t want kids, OP.

I seemed to find them all the time when I was a never married 30-something guy who wanted kids. Maybe the DC area was an anomaly.

I had to dip down and find a 20something woman who wanted kids.

Used to be they waited until 25 then 30 then 35 then 40. 20 years from now do not be shocked if most women have their first child at 45.

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Get a vasectomy and you can date all the 35 year olds you want, you just need to tell them early on. If they are fine with it, party on!

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Anonymous wrote:Women in their late mid 30s are advanced maternal age , they are old and not looking to have kids

Not true. Most of my friends had first kids at 40-45. My youngest is 9. I am 46. I am hardly old among moms: you are out of touch.

I was the youngest of my friends to have my first at 34 by accident. Most did not have a kid until 40.

+1 I have plenty of single girl friends in their late thirties that have frozen their eggs and still hope to have children once they find a partner.

It's a medical term and proven. moron!

Advanced maternal age (AMA) is defined as pregnancy at age 35 or older. As women age, the risks of pregnancy increase, and AMA is considered a risk factor for adverse outcomes. For example, women over 35 are more likely to experience ectopic pregnancies, gestational diabetes, and hypertension disorders. Other complications include: Miscarriage, Congenital disorders, High cholesterol, and Thyroid disease.

Genetic risks
Genetic risks are more common in pregnancies of older women. One of the biggest risks we talk about with mothers 35 and older is the chance of carrying a baby with Down syndrome. As mentioned, that risk increases as a mother ages.

If you’re considered of advanced maternal age, it’s a good idea to sit down with a genetics counselor early in pregnancy – typically between 11 and 13 weeks.

At the Methodist Perinatal Center, this is the first thing we go over with mothers 35 and older. The goal is to give families as much information as they need to choose the genetic testing plan that best meets their needs.


Fetal risks
An ultrasound routinely follows the genetic counseling session. If a family chooses to undergo screening, the ultrasound often makes up a part of that. It’s also used to begin addressing the fetal risks in pregnancy.

Expect your doctor to evaluate early fetal anatomy, as every mother, no matter her age, has a 3 percent risk of giving birth to a baby with a congenital anomaly (birth defect, disorder or malformation). After the ultrasound, labs will be drawn to complete any testing.

Once results are available, the nurses or genetic counselors will follow up to determine what next steps are needed. If your results are normal, your next visit is usually around 20 weeks. If the opposite is true, rest assured that your health care team will work to make sure a plan is in place to meet your specific needs.

Additional fetal risks include:

Miscarriage
Abnormal growth
Stillbirth
Your perinatology team commonly recommends follow-up ultrasound exams to ensure that your baby is growing normally. We usually also recommend targeted stillbirth testing later in pregnancy.


Maternal risks
Routine prenatal care is designed to find medical complications of pregnancy, so it’s important that you continue to see your general OB/GYN.

Just as genetic and fetal risks tend to increase with age, so do many maternal risks such as:

Preterm birth
C-section
High blood pressure
Gestational diabetes
The specifics of any and all risks are different for every family. A key job of your perinatal team is communicating the one(s) most relevant to you.

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Anonymous wrote:No way would I have dated a forty something divorced dad when I was 35.

If that woman you are dating wants to get married, she is dumb for dating you. I feel bad for her. She is wasting her time.

Things are very different from even pre-Covid.

You have no idea how many women are out there and available who want a handsome guy who treats them well who they can post on Instagram taking them to nice places. For men who fit that bill, it is extremely easy.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting...a woman the same age proudly (and is even encouraged) date a younger man of the same age but a man doing so suddenly it's a flood of comments telling me to rethink his position. Aren't men entitled to enjoy dating a younger person as well? Please someone explain to me like I am 2 years old. A 46 years old woman dates an early 30 years old guy and even encouraged other divorced women to do so but then they tell the 46 years old guy to date women the same age as him or older. Some even call an older man dating a younger woman creepy or gross. What about the woman dating younger? Interesting

These things are not comparable. Older man dating a younger woman who probably wants children is completely different than an older woman dating a younger man when they know exactly what they are doing, and it’s clear that they’re not going to have a long-term relationship.

When I date younger women they know exactly what they are doing (they know that the moment they swipe right) and it’s clear we’re not going to have a long-term relationship.

Explain this to OP