Things are not so bad after all for us divorced guys 45+

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Anonymous wrote:Women in their late mid 30s are advanced maternal age , they are old and not looking to have kids


Not true. Most of my friends had first kids at 40-45. My youngest is 9. I am 46. I am hardly old among moms: you are out of touch.

I was the youngest of my friends to have my first at 34 by accident. Most did not have a kid until 40.


+1 I have plenty of single girl friends in their late thirties that have frozen their eggs and still hope to have children once they find a partner.


It's a medical term and proven. moron!

Advanced maternal age (AMA) is defined as pregnancy at age 35 or older. As women age, the risks of pregnancy increase, and AMA is considered a risk factor for adverse outcomes. For example, women over 35 are more likely to experience ectopic pregnancies, gestational diabetes, and hypertension disorders. Other complications include: Miscarriage, Congenital disorders, High cholesterol, and Thyroid disease.

Genetic risks
Genetic risks are more common in pregnancies of older women. One of the biggest risks we talk about with mothers 35 and older is the chance of carrying a baby with Down syndrome. As mentioned, that risk increases as a mother ages.

If you’re considered of advanced maternal age, it’s a good idea to sit down with a genetics counselor early in pregnancy – typically between 11 and 13 weeks.

At the Methodist Perinatal Center, this is the first thing we go over with mothers 35 and older. The goal is to give families as much information as they need to choose the genetic testing plan that best meets their needs.


Fetal risks
An ultrasound routinely follows the genetic counseling session. If a family chooses to undergo screening, the ultrasound often makes up a part of that. It’s also used to begin addressing the fetal risks in pregnancy.

Expect your doctor to evaluate early fetal anatomy, as every mother, no matter her age, has a 3 percent risk of giving birth to a baby with a congenital anomaly (birth defect, disorder or malformation). After the ultrasound, labs will be drawn to complete any testing.

Once results are available, the nurses or genetic counselors will follow up to determine what next steps are needed. If your results are normal, your next visit is usually around 20 weeks. If the opposite is true, rest assured that your health care team will work to make sure a plan is in place to meet your specific needs.

Additional fetal risks include:

Miscarriage
Abnormal growth
Stillbirth
Your perinatology team commonly recommends follow-up ultrasound exams to ensure that your baby is growing normally. We usually also recommend targeted stillbirth testing later in pregnancy.


Maternal risks
Routine prenatal care is designed to find medical complications of pregnancy, so it’s important that you continue to see your general OB/GYN.

Just as genetic and fetal risks tend to increase with age, so do many maternal risks such as:

Preterm birth
C-section
High blood pressure
Gestational diabetes
The specifics of any and all risks are different for every family. A key job of your perinatal team is communicating the one(s) most relevant to you.


Start reading (and women have had babies well into their late 30s and early 40s for at least 100 years now…second kid accident at 37 in one time sex in years…age 35 like it fall off a cliff had been debunked). Stop espousing decades old info.

Many articles on this:

Grazia Daily UKhttps://graziadaily.co.uk › life › m...We've Been Sold A Lie About The Fertility Cliff

The Guardianhttps://www.theguardian.com › aprIt is time to reassess our obsession with women's fertility and the number 35

BBChttps://www.bbc.com › article › 20...Women's fertility is more complicated than you might have heard

Slatehttps://slate.com › 2023/11 › infert...Don't Call It “Infertility”

Slatehttps://slate.com › 2020/08 › fertili...Age 35 Isn't a Fertility Cliff. Why Do We Think It Is?

Coveteurhttps://coveteur.com › fertility-cliffIs the Fertility Cliff a Myth?

Women's Healthhttps://www.womenshealthmag.com › ...No, Women's Fertility Isn't Suddenly Doomed At Age 35





those are not credible articles here are real medical articles and studies

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8364335/
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/advanced-maternal-age
https://www.acog.org/clinical/clinical-guidance/obstetric-care-consensus/articles/2022/08/pregnancy-at-age-35-years-or-older


And more for you:

https://www.axios.com/2024/04/09/pregnant-35-older-advanced-maternal-age-geriatric

From this story about the number 35:
“But that's a "dated paradigm" and "there's nothing really particularly magic" about age 35, says Alison Cahill, professor and associate dean of translation research at the Department of Women's Health at Dell Medical School, University of Texas at Austin.

Reality check: Pregnancy risks do increase with age. But the effects are much more pronounced after age 40, compared to 35.
* New ACOG guidelines emphasize that pregnancy risks should be considered among patients in five-year age groups — ages 35-39, 40-44, etc. — instead of in one big advanced maternal age group.
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It would actually be better for OP to date a twenty something than a thirty something
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I was a divorced dad at 38, and for three years dated 31-33yo childless women.

It took me that long to realize that as a tall, weightlifting and successful man with a high-profile career, I could also date 22-26yo women who aren’t ready for kids yet. They’ll do that with the next guy.

Never looked back.
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