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Things are not so bad after all for us divorced guys 45+
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Anonymous
No kidding! I made that mistake at 30 then got my head on straight. Doing that at 35 is not great. |
Anonymous
grossss |
Anonymous
| This is an interesting thread. Do women have an easier time when they start a second family compared to men? And if so, why? |
Anonymous
| You are really gullible. I recommend a vasectomy if you don’t want any more kids. A 35 year old woman who says she is not sure whether she wants kids…. Is most likely to want kids. Enjoy your second family. |
Anonymous
| I’m 39 with elementary age kids and I end up dating either 20 somethings or (more commonly) other divorced dads 50+. The men within 10 years of my own age either still are married with small kids or haven’t even started yet! Obviously they have less of a biological clock but I still don’t care to be wasting both of our time when we both know they need to be focused on settling down. |
Anonymous
| OP is not necessarily gullible we just underestimate the motivation of women. When women are determined to achieve a goal they are BRILLIANT! It has more to do with the psychology of men and how they respond to women who show interest in them. |
Anonymous
They’re not stupid, they just play that way. I mean, the Jezebel trapping a man is a tale as old as whatever stupid and misogynistic meme you want to believe. Love how men have so much agency in everything until It comes to reproduction. |
Anonymous
Why are you being so demeaning to women? Adult women are not children. They are competent, capable beings who can make their own decisions, including complex ones. They can take on responsibilities in their personal and professional lives. They have autonomy and can make choices that best suit them, regardless of how it is perceived by others. Saying a 26 year old woman is a child is just so misogynistic and disrespectful to women. |
Anonymous
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Bottom line OP is that if the woman you’re dating isn’t sure if she wants kids definitely wants kids. Like someone mentioned earlier, they tell you what you want to hear hoping you’ll change your mind.
One guy I know dated a woman similar to yours and she got pregnant within a few months of meeting- they’re unhappily married and he’s sending his oldest kids off to college while attending elementary school events. Another was literally going to break up with his girlfriend when she told him she was pregnant. He’s an idiot and married her and has been miserable ever since. Lots of women seem to conveniently forget how birth control works when they meet someone who would be a decent father to their hypothetical kids. |
Anonymous
Men need to understand that some and I repeat some women not all want the child more than they want the relationship. Women are naturally good at raising children and in our society today it's perfectly normal for kids to have only 1 parent. For these women some of are self sufficient financially and won't even seek child support are perfectly happy getting pregnant with a guy they have no intention to marry. |
Anonymous
This doesn't even make sense. Are you going for homophobia, misogyny, or all three? |
Anonymous
they need therapy if they are dating an old man and you know that. Clear signs of abuse. |
Anonymous
What does NAMBLA have to do with gay people? |
Anonymous
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LOL OP have fun paying for a second family. That 35 year old is going to decide she needs to have a kid at 38. In 2 years. And you'll be 48. You'll never be able to retire!!
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Anonymous
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Yes, what you're going to discover is that the roles have been reversed. In your 20s, the ladies could be selective and you often had multiple guys chasing after one or two desirable women. In your 40s, it's the opposite -- a desirable guy will have his choice of women.
Pro-tip: The ones in OLD who say "no hookups" are usually totally DTF on the first date. Ask me how I know. |