Things are not so bad after all for us divorced guys 45+

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The discussion about kids did come and I made it clear that I was done having kids. I do not plan to be remarried right away but I do not want to discount that. The lady I am currently seeing said she is unsure whether she wants kids but as of right now she doesn't want to have kids.

lol. Until she surprisingly ends up pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The discussion about kids did come and I made it clear that I was done having kids. I do not plan to be remarried right away but I do not want to discount that. The lady I am currently seeing said she is unsure whether she wants kids but as of right now she doesn't want to have kids.

Women often say what men want to hear and hope he changes his mind. And if he doesn't, surprise!

Tale as old as time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The discussion about kids did come and I made it clear that I was done having kids. I do not plan to be remarried right away but I do not want to discount that. The lady I am currently seeing said she is unsure whether she wants kids but as of right now she doesn't want to have kids.

If she thinks she may want kids, she'll want them, so you should stop wasting her time. She won't be satisfying playing stepmom.

[Anonymous]

I won't date my own age. I am 46.

Of course 30s women like you...they want kids. And probably your income.

I don't need a man for money and I certainly don't want another kid.

I date much younger. I don't want to remarry. It is logistically easier for me to date never married men without kids. I don't want to deal with another custody schedule.

The scenario you describe is really not ideal...unless you want to get married again and have more kids.

My ex, age 50, has stopped dating because all women 30s and 40s even that he met wanted to get married again. He does not want more kids and does not want to blend families with current kids (same philosophy as me). He found that while he got interest, they all wanted marriage and/or blending families and that was a hard no. So, it is not really as peachy as you make it sound.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty similar to you and have found it easiest to date women with kids closer to my age, or women much younger who want to have a family someday, but don't want to consider it for 5-6 years. Current GF is 26.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty similar to you and have found it easiest to date women with kids closer to my age, or women much younger who want to have a family someday, but don't want to consider it for 5-6 years. Current GF is 26.

NP. I get the ick from a 26 year old dating 46 year old…too close to my own daughter’s age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The discussion about kids did come and I made it clear that I was done having kids. I do not plan to be remarried right away but I do not want to discount that. The lady I am currently seeing said she is unsure whether she wants kids but as of right now she doesn't want to have kids.

Then +1 on you taking your own precautions to prevent pregnancy if it’s not what you want. I’m not saying women trap men, because men can make their own choices, but like some of the PPs, I’ve seen a lot of “oops” in this kind of dynamic.

[Anonymous]

No woman wants to live with you and deal with your child support/alimony payments.

You say she’s childless. Have you shown her your checking account statements with your deductions yet?

If not, come back and tell us how that goes.

She has issues too (I have friends like this so I know), but that’s not one. She doesn’t get it if you haven’t been financially naked yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The discussion about kids did come and I made it clear that I was done having kids. I do not plan to be remarried right away but I do not want to discount that. The lady I am currently seeing said she is unsure whether she wants kids but as of right now she doesn't want to have kids.

lol. Until she surprisingly ends up pregnant.

It will only be a surprise to him.

Guys are so gullible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The discussion about kids did come and I made it clear that I was done having kids. I do not plan to be remarried right away but I do not want to discount that. The lady I am currently seeing said she is unsure whether she wants kids but as of right now she doesn't want to have kids.

Lol okay

You’re gonna be 50 with an infant.

Suckers are born every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The discussion about kids did come and I made it clear that I was done having kids. I do not plan to be remarried right away but I do not want to discount that. The lady I am currently seeing said she is unsure whether she wants kids but as of right now she doesn't want to have kids.

lol. Until she surprisingly ends up pregnant.

It will only be a surprise to him.

Guys are so gullible.

How are they so stupid

Vasectomy quick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty similar to you and have found it easiest to date women with kids closer to my age, or women much younger who want to have a family someday, but don't want to consider it for 5-6 years. Current GF is 26.

NP. I get the ick from a 26 year old dating 46 year old…too close to my own daughter’s age.

Good. I’ll smile about that when we’re on our upcoming long weekend getaway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm pretty similar to you and have found it easiest to date women with kids closer to my age, or women much younger who want to have a family someday, but don't want to consider it for 5-6 years. Current GF is 26.

NP. I get the ick from a 26 year old dating 46 year old…too close to my own daughter’s age.

Good. I’ll smile about that when we’re on our upcoming long weekend getaway.

I’m sure NAMBLA feels the same gitty for the weekend with the troop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I won't date my own age. I am 46.

Of course 30s women like you...they want kids. And probably your income.

I don't need a man for money and I certainly don't want another kid.

I date much younger. I don't want to remarry. It is logistically easier for me to date never married men without kids. I don't want to deal with another custody schedule.

The scenario you describe is really not ideal...unless you want to get married again and have more kids.

My ex, age 50, has stopped dating because all women 30s and 40s even that he met wanted to get married again. He does not want more kids and does not want to blend families with current kids (same philosophy as me). He found that while he got interest, they all wanted marriage and/or blending families and that was a hard no. So, it is not really as peachy as you make it sound.

OP what she is saying is very true. She reiterated the point another imposter made that divorced men are more likely to come across women who want marriage and/or kids. For this reason post divorce options for men who do not want to marry and/or have children are honestly bleak. Part of the reason is that so many women wait into their mid to late 30s and now even early 40s to seel marriage or children. But by then men the men left are either never married 30 something who are struggling with mental health issues and enjoying the forever bachelor life or divorced men. Women may not want to admit it but the truth is that when they wait until their 30s and early 40s the competition to get the very few never married no kids good career 30s men is FIERCE. Their backup option is guys like you. But then guys like you went through a tough divorce and don't want to even here the word marriage let alone become a dad at 50.

[Anonymous]

Lol - enjoy your second family.