Things are not so bad after all for us divorced guys 45+

[Anonymous]

I am 46 and have been divorced for 2 years now. I have 2 kids boy 15 and girl 13. I spent the last 2 years really focusing on my kids and my career and also saving to buy a new house. I am now back on the dating scene and I am honestly surprised by the women that have shown interest in me. In he last 2 months I have been on 4 dates and I am now spending more time with the second lady I went on a date with. She is 35 and she has no kids and has never been married.

I am surprised because there are a lot of comments here from some women who for whatever reasons discount men like me 45+ who are paying child support.

Perhaps I have been lucky and for this reason ill make sure not to mess things up with the lady I am currently seeing. So far so good.

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP. A word of caution about your unmarried 35 year old with no kids. If you aren’t interested in starting over with a brand new family make sure you take whatever precautions you need to take to prevent that from happening. I know of three men who got trapped by “oops” pregnancies with their unmarried childless younger girlfriends. Have fun but be careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for you OP. A word of caution about your unmarried 35 year old with no kids. If you aren’t interested in starting over with a brand new family make sure you take whatever precautions you need to take to prevent that from happening. I know of three men who got trapped by “oops” pregnancies with their unmarried childless younger girlfriends. Have fun but be careful.

yeah that 35 year old woman is wasting her time with you if she wants kids. Unless you are willing to have more. If I were her friend I would tell her not to date you.

I date divorced dads but only started doing that at age 44.

No way would I hav done that at age 35.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you want to have more kids? If not, you are better off targeting women in their forties who don't want kids.

[Anonymous]

I am your exact age and we know several divorced dads in your same position. Dh has a good friend and he is a fit good looking single dad and never had problems finding women to date. The problem with the never married single women in their thirties is that they still want to get married and have kids. Dh has one friend who got remarried to woman in her mid thirties and they got divorced so now the 50 year old has two teens with his first wife and now a toddler with his second ex wife. He has to pay child support to both.

[Anonymous]

OP, how did you meet them? OLD? Or real life?

[Anonymous]

Rare to find a 30-something who doesn’t want kids, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how did you meet them? OLD? Or real life?

OP here I met them on OLD

[Anonymous]

OP here. The discussion about kids did come and I made it clear that I was done having kids. I do not plan to be remarried right away but I do not want to discount that. The lady I am currently seeing said she is unsure whether she wants kids but as of right now she doesn't want to have kids.

[Anonymous]

OP divorced women past 40 have far better outlook then men the same age. Perhaps that's why they they are so confident about their post divorce life. Women who are 40+ are far less likely to come across men who want children and/or get married. Further they are more likely to come cross men who are just happy hooking up without any commitment. For men it's a different story. Women even the ones who claim that they are happy hooking up will quickly expect more out of the relationship. And of they don't have kids and/or have never been married they expect that. Most women will not care that you were previously married and/or have kids. They just want to experience the same thing you had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 46 and have been divorced for 2 years now. I have 2 kids boy 15 and girl 13. I spent the last 2 years really focusing on my kids and my career and also saving to buy a new house. I am now back on the dating scene and I am honestly surprised by the women that have shown interest in me. In he last 2 months I have been on 4 dates and I am now spending more time with the second lady I went on a date with. She is 35 and she has no kids and has never been married.

I am surprised because there are a lot of comments here from some women who for whatever reasons discount men like me 45+ who are paying child support.

Perhaps I have been lucky and for this reason ill make sure not to mess things up with the lady I am currently seeing. So far so good.

You are exactly the kind of guy I was looking for/went out with when I was dating as a divorced mom. Being a dad was a requirement as was paying child support for obvious reasons.

[Anonymous]

When I was 35 I was looking for someone without prior kids who wanted to start a first family.

[Anonymous]

That’s great, OP. I’m a F who is your age who dates the same age group of men that you do women- but not for a LTR.

I hope you’ve had a vasectomy or plan to have one soon if you don’t mean to have kids you should definitely do this for you and your partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was 35 I was looking for someone without prior kids who wanted to start a first family.

There is a big mismatch today between men and women in their 30s. Namely far more women want to start a family in that age group compared to men. Women wait until their 30s for obvious good reasons but then once they get there they realize how small the pool of men looking the same thing as them is.

[Anonymous]

No way would I have dated a forty something divorced dad when I was 35.

If that woman you are dating wants to get married, she is dumb for dating you. I feel bad for her. She is wasting her time.