Mom brings 11 yr. Old son in women's changing room at pool

[Anonymous]

As someone who hated locker rooms as a tween, I felt safer when families with kids were present. I’d rather have the potential awkward embarrassment seeing a classmate enter the room while I hurriedly changed behind my towel over a potential threat to personal safety.

[Anonymous]

If your 12 year old son is willingly going to the ladies room with mommy to go peepee, then you have utterly failed as a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your 12 year old son is willingly going to the ladies room with mommy to go peepee, then you have utterly failed as a parent.

This. If your child is old enough to masturbate, they should not be in the opposite gender’s locker room.

[Anonymous]

I will always have to bring my SN son in with me. You don't want make the mistake of trying to confront me about it, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No boys over 5 in girls locker rooms. End of story.

Well, it’s too late for that. Most of the posters here have been advocating for grown men in women’s locker rooms and changing spaces. An 11-year-old is nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your 12 year old son is willingly going to the ladies room with mommy to go peepee, then you have utterly failed as a parent.

Do you still wear pink on Wednesdays or did you misunderstand the scenario?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 11 year old self would've loved scoping out all the old saggy baggies in the women's changing rooms

You're bragging about your son being a developing pervert?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What makes you think it’s a boy? And also, all they have to say is that they identify as a girl and then they can be in the women’s changing room.

Most places now have family dressing rooms so there is no reason to bring a male child over age 6 into women's c the singing room. There is no reason why he can't already be in his swim trunks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will always have to bring my SN son in with me. You don't want make the mistake of trying to confront me about it, either.

You adult SN son?

I think if I had a child with that level of need, I’d bring him already changed to the pool and skip the locker room. Pools usually also have regular restrooms apart from the changing room, so if we had to change, I’d use that. But no, it’s not ok to have any male over 5-6 in a women’s changing area. Regular bathroom fine, but not a changing area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your 12 year old son is willingly going to the ladies room with mommy to go peepee, then you have utterly failed as a parent.

This. If your child is old enough to masturbate, they should not be in the opposite gender’s locker room.

Since when did the pool locker room at swim lessons become dens of iniquity?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your 12 year old son is willingly going to the ladies room with mommy to go peepee, then you have utterly failed as a parent.

Do you still wear pink on Wednesdays or did you misunderstand the scenario?

What’s the scenario where your middle school son needs to pee with you? One of you needs help wiping?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will always have to bring my SN son in with me. You don't want make the mistake of trying to confront me about it, either.

You adult SN son?

I think if I had a child with that level of need, I’d bring him already changed to the pool and skip the locker room. Pools usually also have regular restrooms apart from the changing room, so if we had to change, I’d use that. But no, it’s not ok to have any male over 5-6 in a women’s changing area. Regular bathroom fine, but not a changing area.

Exactly!

I have teenage sons. Once they were older than 3 or 4, I felt it was rude to bring them into the women’s changing room at the pool. So, if my husband wasn’t with us, I’d bring them and myself to the pool in a swimsuit with a cover up. Then, when we left, we’d sit by the pool to dry off for a bit, then put the cover ups back on and go home to change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No boys over 5 in girls locker rooms. End of story.

Where does a boy who requires constant adult supervision/help due to special needs change? There often isn’t a family room or gender neutral option. And his dad skipped out long ago because of our child’s challenges.

Good lord. You put your child in swim.trunks at home. Common sense 101!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: What’s the scenario where your middle school son needs to pee with you? One of you needs help wiping?

In your scenario, the parent with the SN son has had strength training that your spin class hasn’t prepared you for, so count your blessings.

[Anonymous]

Lol, do you seriously have nothing better to clutch your pearls over? Change in a private space and get a life.