Mom brings 11 yr. Old son in women's changing room at pool

[Anonymous]

Seeing a bunch of typical women naked could scar an 11 yr old for life and turn them off of heterosexual sex forever. I'd avoid that if I were the parent of an adolescent boy.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think young kids should be in a locker room alone.

Just google locker room assaults.

https://wjla.com/news/local/woman-alleges-rape-assault-inside-wilson-aquatic-center-locker-room-97400

These are not young kids.

When your 11 yr old is raped in a locker room, lets so how old you think they are.

Well, I hope you’re fine with your 11 year old seeing bare breasts and crotches, then. Because I’m not covering up just because he’s there. You can’t have it both ways.

Not to mention the younger girls in the locker room who don’t want to be naked in front of a male peer. What about their comfort? And their right to not be ogled and not have to see a peer’s penis. Not much different from subway flashers.

Why is your child getting naked in front of any stranger? Do you know there are women predators as well?

This absurd argument. Yes there are women predators. Compared to the number of male predators, women predators are almost nonexistent. It’s like worrying about getting struck by lightning.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think young kids should be in a locker room alone.

Just google locker room assaults.

https://wjla.com/news/local/woman-alleges-rape-assault-inside-wilson-aquatic-center-locker-room-97400

These are not young kids.

When your 11 yr old is raped in a locker room, lets so how old you think they are.

Well, I hope you’re fine with your 11 year old seeing bare breasts and crotches, then. Because I’m not covering up just because he’s there. You can’t have it both ways.

Not to mention the younger girls in the locker room who don’t want to be naked in front of a male peer. What about their comfort? And their right to not be ogled and not have to see a peer’s penis. Not much different from subway flashers.

It has been well established that girls are not allowed to complain about their feelings of privacy or unease about having males naked with them.

Yes, the feelings of the flasher who wants to force trapped women and girls to see his penis matter much more than the dumb feelings of any girls who might be scared of such a man. We have all been taught that lesson.

Actually nudity is not inherently threatening and so if anyone is “afraid” of a penis or breast they were taught to be so by their parents. If parents are so worried about scared kids then maybe they shouldn’t teach them to be scared of the human body.

Right, the millennia of men killing, raping, and torturing women is just imaginary or something. 🙄🙄

What does that have to do with seeing a nude person?

If I am in a state of disrobe, then I am very vulnerable to man, does not matter if he is clothed or not. Especially in an enclosed area like a changing room.

If you are cool with men being around naked kids, then why aren't you sending your precious boy into the men's changing room along? I mean, its just bodies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think bathroom is totally fine, as everything is done behind a locked door. A changing room is trickier…

And if you read the title of this thread...........Women's CHANGING ROOM

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think young kids should be in a locker room alone.

Just google locker room assaults.

https://wjla.com/news/local/woman-alleges-rape-assault-inside-wilson-aquatic-center-locker-room-97400

These are not young kids.

When your 11 yr old is raped in a locker room, lets so how old you think they are.

Well, I hope you’re fine with your 11 year old seeing bare breasts and crotches, then. Because I’m not covering up just because he’s there. You can’t have it both ways.

Not to mention the younger girls in the locker room who don’t want to be naked in front of a male peer. What about their comfort? And their right to not be ogled and not have to see a peer’s penis. Not much different from subway flashers.

It has been well established that girls are not allowed to complain about their feelings of privacy or unease about having males naked with them.

Yes, the feelings of the flasher who wants to force trapped women and girls to see his penis matter much more than the dumb feelings of any girls who might be scared of such a man. We have all been taught that lesson.

Actually nudity is not inherently threatening and so if anyone is “afraid” of a penis or breast they were taught to be so by their parents. If parents are so worried about scared kids then maybe they shouldn’t teach them to be scared of the human body.

Right, the millennia of men killing, raping, and torturing women is just imaginary or something. 🙄🙄

What does that have to do with seeing a nude person?

So do you not think flashing someone is a crime?

The difference is intent.

Not to the woman or girl that has an expectation of privacy away from male bodies in the women's changing room.

[Anonymous]

I took my son in with me til 7 but told him not to
Look at people, head down etc. if he was legit staring at this person then his mom is to blame for that too.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think young kids should be in a locker room alone.

Just google locker room assaults.

https://wjla.com/news/local/woman-alleges-rape-assault-inside-wilson-aquatic-center-locker-room-97400

These are not young kids.

When your 11 yr old is raped in a locker room, lets so how old you think they are.

Well, I hope you’re fine with your 11 year old seeing bare breasts and crotches, then. Because I’m not covering up just because he’s there. You can’t have it both ways.

Not to mention the younger girls in the locker room who don’t want to be naked in front of a male peer. What about their comfort? And their right to not be ogled and not have to see a peer’s penis. Not much different from subway flashers.

It has been well established that girls are not allowed to complain about their feelings of privacy or unease about having males naked with them.

Yes, the feelings of the flasher who wants to force trapped women and girls to see his penis matter much more than the dumb feelings of any girls who might be scared of such a man. We have all been taught that lesson.

Actually nudity is not inherently threatening and so if anyone is “afraid” of a penis or breast they were taught to be so by their parents. If parents are so worried about scared kids then maybe they shouldn’t teach them to be scared of the human body.

Right, the millennia of men killing, raping, and torturing women is just imaginary or something. 🙄🙄

What does that have to do with seeing a nude person?

So do you not think flashing someone is a crime?

The difference is intent.

So if they just need to air out a little bit and happen to be on the bus, it’s all good with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seeing a bunch of typical women naked could scar an 11 yr old for life and turn them off of heterosexual sex forever. I'd avoid that if I were the parent of an adolescent boy.

Likely but wouldn't seeing a bunch of typical men naked would have some effect?

[Anonymous]

I’m a millennial so maybe my perspective on this is different, but I’m not comfortable changing in front or anyone - 11 YO boy, or woman my age. Locker rooms are gross and I never get naked except in the stall. So this is a moot question

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Anonymous wrote:This would not bother me in the least.

Based on these types of comments, I don’t think most of you have tween and teen daughters. An 11 year old boy should not be in their locker room.

I have twin boy/girl 11yo. I know many of both and it wouldn't bother me save a couple who have always been off. On the other hand, I say I would not mind if someone else did that, my son would not be comfortable going into a women's restroom. He has refused for years so I would not ever ask him to do so.

Many years ago before I had kids I made an assumption about a kid being too old for something and felt so bad when I later discovered they were just the right age but looked older as the child of very tall parents. It's possible that boy is younger than you think.

You kind of proving my point. You are focusing on your own feelings and maturity of your son. I am talking about the feelings of the girls who do not want their males peers in their locker room. Given your attitude, I am not surprised they don't feel comfortable sharing this with you.

[Anonymous]

No boys over 5 in girls locker rooms. End of story.

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Anonymous wrote:Seeing a bunch of typical women naked could scar an 11 yr old for life and turn them off of heterosexual sex forever. I'd avoid that if I were the parent of an adolescent boy.

if your son’s heterosexual, his sexuality is not this delicate.

[Anonymous]

I happen to think open, sexed locker rooms are weird and dated. But given that they exist, understand that you don't know what other people's situation. Maybe the kid was really six years old but has a hormone/growth abnormality that makes him looks 11. Maybe he has a special need that you don't see. Maybe the child was recently sexually assaulted in a locker room. Whatever it is, it's not a big deal. Mind your own business. Go in a private changing space behind a curtain if you prefer. If no such space exists, talk to the manager and lobby for it.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, this is a completely losing position in this day and age of gender nonconformity. Change in a stall if you're uncomfortable.

This. Get over yourself and fast, OP. The world and the locker room does not revolve around you.

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Anonymous wrote:No boys over 5 in girls locker rooms. End of story.

Where does a boy who requires constant adult supervision/help due to special needs change? There often isn’t a family room or gender neutral option. And his dad skipped out long ago because of our child’s challenges.