Mom brings 11 yr. Old son in women's changing room at pool

[Anonymous]

My sons would have been absolutely mortified if had brought them through a women’s locker room.

If you are that concerned and must change after swimming then use the family changing room or stand outside the men’s locker room while you son gets changed.

I used to just have my kids towel off, throw on a tee shirt at poolside and then sit on a towel on the drive home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Family changing rooms are there for folks who want to group up in ways that might cut against locker room expectations of others. Use them. I don't want my 9yo DD under observation by your 11yo DS, and fixing that is up to OP, not me.

But there are plenty of pools that don’t have them. Our local pool has two paths from the front desk to the pool deck. Through the men’s or through the women’s. We have a young transgender teen boy in our family. If he walks through the women’s side, in his suit he is open to the reaction here, but if he went the other way people would claim he is on the wrong side, and violence against trans men and boys in male spaces is a huge problem. We send him through the men’s side with an adult or older teen male, but we’re lucky that our family composition allows that.

Another reason why there _need_ to be family changing rooms or locker areas. Our pool doesn't have an all-gender entry either (the buildings are very old), but I wonder whether folks in a similar position could ask for a front desk member or lifeguard just to walk through with them? Not an ideal solution, but maybe a bandaid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We've discussed this before and most agree that using a family changing room, if available, or bring boys already in swim trunks. An 11 yr old, who is not SN, should not be brought into women's changing room at pool or restroom in a public place. Personally, I do not even thing a SN 11 yr. old boy should be in women changing room or rest room.

https://nypost.com/2024/04/05/lifestyle/mom-divides-parents-after-bringing-her-11-year-old-son-into-a-womens-changing-room/

I stopped swimming at the indoor MLK pool in the winter because I teach 6th grade and moms were bringing their 10-11 year old boys into the women’s changing room. I don’t want a current or future male student to see me naked or in my underwear. In the summer, I just wear my damp suit home.

Why are you prancing around naked? Aren't there stall doors for privacy? I am a woman and I don't get this walking around. I don't want anyone seeing me undressed so I close the door and change in private. Btw no kid boy or girl should be subject to see an adult naked its gross cover yourself when there are kids around.

Locker rooms are an entirely appropriate place for nudity. If you don’t expect to see that, I don’t know what to tell you. I mean, that’s the whole point of gender-segregated locker rooms. Toilet stalls are for using the toilet, not changing.

A teacher here in the community my kids go to school. I don't go about naked as I don't want my kids or their parents seeing me undressed. My pool locker room has individual stalls that you can close with curtain and change. Idk where these communal locker rooms where everyone is hanging around naked!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've discussed this before and most agree that using a family changing room, if available, or bring boys already in swim trunks. An 11 yr old, who is not SN, should not be brought into women's changing room at pool or restroom in a public place. Personally, I do not even thing a SN 11 yr. old boy should be in women changing room or rest room.

https://nypost.com/2024/04/05/lifestyle/mom-divides-parents-after-bringing-her-11-year-old-son-into-a-womens-changing-room/

I stopped swimming at the indoor MLK pool in the winter because I teach 6th grade and moms were bringing their 10-11 year old boys into the women’s changing room. I don’t want a current or future male student to see me naked or in my underwear. In the summer, I just wear my damp suit home.

Why are you prancing around naked? Aren't there stall doors for privacy? I am a woman and I don't get this walking around. I don't want anyone seeing me undressed so I close the door and change in private. Btw no kid boy or girl should be subject to see an adult naked its gross cover yourself when there are kids around.

Locker rooms are an entirely appropriate place for nudity. If you don’t expect to see that, I don’t know what to tell you. I mean, that’s the whole point of gender-segregated locker rooms. Toilet stalls are for using the toilet, not changing.

A teacher here in the community my kids go to school. I don't go about naked as I don't want my kids or their parents seeing me undressed. My pool locker room has individual stalls that you can close with curtain and change. Idk where these communal locker rooms where everyone is hanging around naked!

It's fine if YOU don't want to get naked in the locker room, but to imply that other people doing so are inappropriate is ridiculous. I live in NYC and locker rooms are tiny, with no changing stalls. We all change out in the open, and seeing a pair of tits or an ass is nbd. We all live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've discussed this before and most agree that using a family changing room, if available, or bring boys already in swim trunks. An 11 yr old, who is not SN, should not be brought into women's changing room at pool or restroom in a public place. Personally, I do not even thing a SN 11 yr. old boy should be in women changing room or rest room.

https://nypost.com/2024/04/05/lifestyle/mom-divides-parents-after-bringing-her-11-year-old-son-into-a-womens-changing-room/

I stopped swimming at the indoor MLK pool in the winter because I teach 6th grade and moms were bringing their 10-11 year old boys into the women’s changing room. I don’t want a current or future male student to see me naked or in my underwear. In the summer, I just wear my damp suit home.

Why are you prancing around naked? Aren't there stall doors for privacy? I am a woman and I don't get this walking around. I don't want anyone seeing me undressed so I close the door and change in private. Btw no kid boy or girl should be subject to see an adult naked its gross cover yourself when there are kids around.

Locker rooms are an entirely appropriate place for nudity. If you don’t expect to see that, I don’t know what to tell you. I mean, that’s the whole point of gender-segregated locker rooms. Toilet stalls are for using the toilet, not changing.

A teacher here in the community my kids go to school. I don't go about naked as I don't want my kids or their parents seeing me undressed. My pool locker room has individual stalls that you can close with curtain and change. Idk where these communal locker rooms where everyone is hanging around naked!

Literally every lockerroom Ive ever been to.

But its not that people are just hanging out naked. You change. During that process, you are naked. Maybe you shower, as you are towelling of and putting on your clothes, you are naked. This isn't some European spa, but its not weird that people are naked in a lockerroom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've discussed this before and most agree that using a family changing room, if available, or bring boys already in swim trunks. An 11 yr old, who is not SN, should not be brought into women's changing room at pool or restroom in a public place. Personally, I do not even thing a SN 11 yr. old boy should be in women changing room or rest room.

https://nypost.com/2024/04/05/lifestyle/mom-divides-parents-after-bringing-her-11-year-old-son-into-a-womens-changing-room/

I stopped swimming at the indoor MLK pool in the winter because I teach 6th grade and moms were bringing their 10-11 year old boys into the women’s changing room. I don’t want a current or future male student to see me naked or in my underwear. In the summer, I just wear my damp suit home.

Why are you prancing around naked? Aren't there stall doors for privacy? I am a woman and I don't get this walking around. I don't want anyone seeing me undressed so I close the door and change in private. Btw no kid boy or girl should be subject to see an adult naked its gross cover yourself when there are kids around.

Locker rooms are an entirely appropriate place for nudity. If you don’t expect to see that, I don’t know what to tell you. I mean, that’s the whole point of gender-segregated locker rooms. Toilet stalls are for using the toilet, not changing.

A teacher here in the community my kids go to school. I don't go about naked as I don't want my kids or their parents seeing me undressed. My pool locker room has individual stalls that you can close with curtain and change. Idk where these communal locker rooms where everyone is hanging around naked!

Good for you! In high school I saw my PE teacher walking around naked in the locker room of a Sport and Health. It was traumatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've discussed this before and most agree that using a family changing room, if available, or bring boys already in swim trunks. An 11 yr old, who is not SN, should not be brought into women's changing room at pool or restroom in a public place. Personally, I do not even thing a SN 11 yr. old boy should be in women changing room or rest room.

https://nypost.com/2024/04/05/lifestyle/mom-divides-parents-after-bringing-her-11-year-old-son-into-a-womens-changing-room/

I stopped swimming at the indoor MLK pool in the winter because I teach 6th grade and moms were bringing their 10-11 year old boys into the women’s changing room. I don’t want a current or future male student to see me naked or in my underwear. In the summer, I just wear my damp suit home.

Why are you prancing around naked? Aren't there stall doors for privacy? I am a woman and I don't get this walking around. I don't want anyone seeing me undressed so I close the door and change in private. Btw no kid boy or girl should be subject to see an adult naked its gross cover yourself when there are kids around.

Locker rooms are an entirely appropriate place for nudity. If you don’t expect to see that, I don’t know what to tell you. I mean, that’s the whole point of gender-segregated locker rooms. Toilet stalls are for using the toilet, not changing.

A teacher here in the community my kids go to school. I don't go about naked as I don't want my kids or their parents seeing me undressed. My pool locker room has individual stalls that you can close with curtain and change. Idk where these communal locker rooms where everyone is hanging around naked!

Good for you! In high school I saw my PE teacher walking around naked in the locker room of a Sport and Health. It was traumatic.

This is a total misuse of the term “trauma.” Get over yourself, you pathetic prude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think young kids should be in a locker room alone.

Just google locker room assaults.

https://wjla.com/news/local/woman-alleges-rape-assault-inside-wilson-aquatic-center-locker-room-97400

These are not young kids.

When your 11 yr old is raped in a locker room, lets so how old you think they are.

Well, I hope you’re fine with your 11 year old seeing bare breasts and crotches, then. Because I’m not covering up just because he’s there. You can’t have it both ways.

:roll: It seems you get your jollies by showing your breasts and crotch to young boys. Now, you can imagine if you as a woman are so very perverted, how terrible the males would be in a men's locker room.

My kids and I, have always showered and changed in a way that we avoid seeing the saggy boobs and patchy gray crotches of the older women. And that we take care to be fully dressed or covered and enter and exit the area in a way that we don't see the creepy people in the changing room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think young kids should be in a locker room alone.

Just google locker room assaults.

https://wjla.com/news/local/woman-alleges-rape-assault-inside-wilson-aquatic-center-locker-room-97400

These are not young kids.

When your 11 yr old is raped in a locker room, lets so how old you think they are.

Well, I hope you’re fine with your 11 year old seeing bare breasts and crotches, then. Because I’m not covering up just because he’s there. You can’t have it both ways.

:roll: It seems you get your jollies by showing your breasts and crotch to young boys. Now, you can imagine if you as a woman are so very perverted, how terrible the males would be in a men's locker room.

My kids and I, have always showered and changed in a way that we avoid seeing the saggy boobs and patchy gray crotches of the older women. And that we take care to be fully dressed or covered and enter and exit the area in a way that we don't see the creepy people in the changing room.

You are despicable. It's a changing room for women. Not boys, not tweens, WOMEN. There is nothing wrong with a woman changing. 11 year olds are perfectly capable of changing on their own in the men's room. I have a son and would have never brought him into a women's changing room past 7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've discussed this before and most agree that using a family changing room, if available, or bring boys already in swim trunks. An 11 yr old, who is not SN, should not be brought into women's changing room at pool or restroom in a public place. Personally, I do not even thing a SN 11 yr. old boy should be in women changing room or rest room.

https://nypost.com/2024/04/05/lifestyle/mom-divides-parents-after-bringing-her-11-year-old-son-into-a-womens-changing-room/

I stopped swimming at the indoor MLK pool in the winter because I teach 6th grade and moms were bringing their 10-11 year old boys into the women’s changing room. I don’t want a current or future male student to see me naked or in my underwear. In the summer, I just wear my damp suit home.

Why are you prancing around naked? Aren't there stall doors for privacy? I am a woman and I don't get this walking around. I don't want anyone seeing me undressed so I close the door and change in private. Btw no kid boy or girl should be subject to see an adult naked its gross cover yourself when there are kids around.

Locker rooms are an entirely appropriate place for nudity. If you don’t expect to see that, I don’t know what to tell you. I mean, that’s the whole point of gender-segregated locker rooms. Toilet stalls are for using the toilet, not changing.

A teacher here in the community my kids go to school. I don't go about naked as I don't want my kids or their parents seeing me undressed. My pool locker room has individual stalls that you can close with curtain and change. Idk where these communal locker rooms where everyone is hanging around naked!

It's fine if YOU don't want to get naked in the locker room, but to imply that other people doing so are inappropriate is ridiculous. I live in NYC and locker rooms are tiny, with no changing stalls. We all change out in the open, and seeing a pair of tits or an ass is nbd. We all live.

Same in DC. There are not really “changing stalls.” No, I do not want to change in the bathroom stall. My kid just turned 12 and would be mortified.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think young kids should be in a locker room alone.

Just google locker room assaults.

https://wjla.com/news/local/woman-alleges-rape-assault-inside-wilson-aquatic-center-locker-room-97400

These are not young kids.

When your 11 yr old is raped in a locker room, lets so how old you think they are.

Well, I hope you’re fine with your 11 year old seeing bare breasts and crotches, then. Because I’m not covering up just because he’s there. You can’t have it both ways.

:roll: It seems you get your jollies by showing your breasts and crotch to young boys. Now, you can imagine if you as a woman are so very perverted, how terrible the males would be in a men's locker room.

My kids and I, have always showered and changed in a way that we avoid seeing the saggy boobs and patchy gray crotches of the older women. And that we take care to be fully dressed or covered and enter and exit the area in a way that we don't see the creepy people in the changing room.

Damn, what is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think young kids should be in a locker room alone.

Just google locker room assaults.

https://wjla.com/news/local/woman-alleges-rape-assault-inside-wilson-aquatic-center-locker-room-97400

These are not young kids.

When your 11 yr old is raped in a locker room, lets so how old you think they are.

Well, I hope you’re fine with your 11 year old seeing bare breasts and crotches, then. Because I’m not covering up just because he’s there. You can’t have it both ways.

:roll: It seems you get your jollies by showing your breasts and crotch to young boys. Now, you can imagine if you as a woman are so very perverted, how terrible the males would be in a men's locker room.

My kids and I, have always showered and changed in a way that we avoid seeing the saggy boobs and patchy gray crotches of the older women. And that we take care to be fully dressed or covered and enter and exit the area in a way that we don't see the creepy people in the changing room.

Damn, what is wrong with you?

It’s a very weird take! “Naked women are gross! I will take my 11 year old boy into an area where naked women customarily are but you are gross if you are a naked woman there!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think young kids should be in a locker room alone.

Just google locker room assaults.

https://wjla.com/news/local/woman-alleges-rape-assault-inside-wilson-aquatic-center-locker-room-97400

These are not young kids.

When your 11 yr old is raped in a locker room, lets so how old you think they are.

Well, I hope you’re fine with your 11 year old seeing bare breasts and crotches, then. Because I’m not covering up just because he’s there. You can’t have it both ways.

:roll: It seems you get your jollies by showing your breasts and crotch to young boys. Now, you can imagine if you as a woman are so very perverted, how terrible the males would be in a men's locker room.

My kids and I, have always showered and changed in a way that we avoid seeing the saggy boobs and patchy gray crotches of the older women. And that we take care to be fully dressed or covered and enter and exit the area in a way that we don't see the creepy people in the changing room.

You are despicable. It's a changing room for women. Not boys, not tweens, WOMEN. There is nothing wrong with a woman changing. 11 year olds are perfectly capable of changing on their own in the men's room. I have a son and would have never brought him into a women's changing room past 7.

You do you PP but your anger is misplaced. The prior PP crudely talking about exposing herself was being disgusting at best and a perv at worst. These are all just normal body parts and nothing to be ashamed of. As long as one is not suddenly feels like exhibiting in front of others and just carries along their normal business its all good.