Boyfriend and I have been arguing and I asked for a break; he's immediately out dating other women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You pulled the trigger and you get what our reap. He’s being a jerk so now you need to deal with it.

Is he being a jerk though? OP has nothing to suggest he slept with the other girl, other than OP’s own insecurities.

And if OP agrees he’s being a jerk, isn’t he really just doing OP a favor, so she can move on while she’s still young enough to have kids?

[Anonymous]

If someone asks for a break, that is a break up. I don't know what you expect. I am a woman. Just move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A break is a breakup. You can't have it both ways.

Is this Rachel from Friends?

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're better off without him.

But, a lesson for you is don't say or ask for things you don't really mean.

Don't ask for a break if you don't want to see them dating someone else.


A break is a breakup

+1

[Anonymous]

You guys sound immature. You’re not right for each other or not mature enough for a relationship. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

If the situation was reversed your bff's would be like You go girl! for doing the same thing he's doing. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pulled the trigger and you get what our reap. He’s being a jerk so now you need to deal with it.

Is he being a jerk though? OP has nothing to suggest he slept with the other girl, other than OP’s own insecurities.

And if OP agrees he’s being a jerk, isn’t he really just doing OP a favor, so she can move on while she’s still young enough to have kids?

Considering he's texting her from his date it's doubtful he did sleep with the lady. Probably just trying to make OP jealous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break. What did you expect? I think you could have asked for him to come over without actually breaking up.

When Dh and I took a break, I saw another guy and slept with him. The guy happened to be Dh’s friend’s friend so Dh found out. I ended up getting back together with Dh and eventually got married. I am fairly certain Dh thinks of it as a betrayal even though we were on a break! We haven’t talked about it in decades but he always made me feel like I cheated on him and betrayed him because I should not have moved on so quickly.

I agree with your husband. Unless you were broken up, it was a betrayal. Going without sex for a few days/weeks should not have been that big of a burden. If you felt that strongly about having sex, even with some random guy you saw, you should have at least respected your DH enough to breakup.

Instead you basically told your DH that if he wouldn’t give you sex, you’d get it from somewhere else - no feelings or commitment necessary. You made it clear that it wasn’t him as a person that you valued, it was him as somebody you could sleep with that was interchangeable with anyone else willing to sleep with you.

Do you have the same judgement for OP's boyfriend or just women who do it?

Same judgement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the situation was reversed your bff's would be like You go girl! for doing the same thing he's doing. Get over it.

No one would be cheering it on. It's immature behavior no matter how you cut it

[Anonymous]

This guy is awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This guy is awesome.

Does the fact that he's texting OP from his date instead of banging the other girl ruin your perception of this "cool alpha bro"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pulled the trigger and you get what our reap. He’s being a jerk so now you need to deal with it.

Is he being a jerk though? OP has nothing to suggest he slept with the other girl, other than OP’s own insecurities.

And if OP agrees he’s being a jerk, isn’t he really just doing OP a favor, so she can move on while she’s still young enough to have kids?

Considering he's texting her from his date it's doubtful he did sleep with the lady. Probably just trying to make OP jealous

This is nonsense. He can toss off a text in a few moments. Do you think that the time he's spending texting is somehow preventing him from banging his date? Of course he's having sex with these other women. And he's so bold and arrogant he's telling OP about the dates. Do you actually believe he ever meant to keep the "promise" OP said he made that he wouldn't have sex with other women during their "break"? You sweet summer child. How naive. I hope OP's already blocked him and moved on.

[Anonymous]

Im sorry OP.
I think i would break up with him, his behaviour sucks you are right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the situation was reversed your bff's would be like You go girl! for doing the same thing he's doing. Get over it.

Bullsh--.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This guy is awesomely a douch.