Boyfriend and I have been arguing and I asked for a break; he's immediately out dating other women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

Yes it is.

NP. Certainly not. The number of people who apparently don’t understand this is dumbfounding to me.

The number of people on here who have differing views as to what a “break” is or is not should prove that both are right. It’s unclear.

Having said that, was the OPs bf “entitled” to date during the break? Arguably yes. But that’s beside the point. That he did so IMMEDIATELY and then proceeded to run in in her face reveals something about him. None of it good. He proved impulsive, and that he resorts to humiliation and being cruel when times get tough.

Dump his a$$ for that. Not the date itself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

Yes it is.

NP. Certainly not. The number of people who apparently don’t understand this is dumbfounding to me.

The number of people on here who have differing views as to what a “break” is or is not should prove that both are right. It’s unclear.

Having said that, was the OPs bf “entitled” to date during the break? Arguably yes. But that’s beside the point. That he did so IMMEDIATELY and then proceeded to run in in her face reveals something about him. None of it good. He proved impulsive, and that he resorts to humiliation and being cruel when times get tough.

Dump his a$$ for that. Not the date itself.

The only thing he did wrong was attempting to hurt her with the social media

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

Yes it is.

NP. Certainly not. The number of people who apparently don’t understand this is dumbfounding to me.

The number of people on here who have differing views as to what a “break” is or is not should prove that both are right. It’s unclear.

Having said that, was the OPs bf “entitled” to date during the break? Arguably yes. But that’s beside the point. That he did so IMMEDIATELY and then proceeded to run in in her face reveals something about him. None of it good. He proved impulsive, and that he resorts to humiliation and being cruel when times get tough.

Dump his a$$ for that. Not the date itself.

The only thing he did wrong was attempting to hurt her with the social media

Which is what I said. Though I’d argue that the rush to date the next day was also intended to hurt her. Because lbh- it was. Even if “allowed” to do so. He meant to hurt her by doing so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

Yes it is.

NP. Certainly not. The number of people who apparently don’t understand this is dumbfounding to me.

The number of people on here who have differing views as to what a “break” is or is not should prove that both are right. It’s unclear.

Having said that, was the OPs bf “entitled” to date during the break? Arguably yes. But that’s beside the point. That he did so IMMEDIATELY and then proceeded to run in in her face reveals something about him. None of it good. He proved impulsive, and that he resorts to humiliation and being cruel when times get tough.

Dump his a$$ for that. Not the date itself.

This poster has common sense.
Finally

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

Yes it is.

NP. Certainly not. The number of people who apparently don’t understand this is dumbfounding to me.

The number of people on here who have differing views as to what a “break” is or is not should prove that both are right. It’s unclear.

Having said that, was the OPs bf “entitled” to date during the break? Arguably yes. But that’s beside the point. That he did so IMMEDIATELY and then proceeded to run in in her face reveals something about him. None of it good. He proved impulsive, and that he resorts to humiliation and being cruel when times get tough.

Dump his a$$ for that. Not the date itself.

The only thing he did wrong was attempting to hurt her with the social media

Which is what I said. Though I’d argue that the rush to date the next day was also intended to hurt her. Because lbh- it was. Even if “allowed” to do so. He meant to hurt her by doing so.

It was cruel to the OP and also probably to the other woman, who presumably has a date with a man she has had a crush on for a while and is really excited about. Meanwhile he’s only doing it to upset OP and thinking of her/calling her the whole time. Selfish and cruel all around

[Anonymous]

Immature clown. Block his number and move on

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why did he have to repost the social media post on the date?

How old are you? I can’t imagine men doing this. It is so disrespectful. Going on a date? Fine. Posting about it for everyone to see? Not ok.

What if he was upset to be summarily put on a shelf with zero consideration and is lashing out.

How hard would it have been for OP to say "hey, a bit stressed, can you stay at yours a few days and we'll catch back up this weekend?". Instead she dumps him, which typically is prelude to the dumper testing the waters with a new man. I'd be pissed too.

and how hard would it have been for him to not react like a child, find someone immediately, and post publicly about it?

Do you always blame the person being lashed out at?

[Anonymous]

Oh FFS--you broke up! Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Good for him. Sounds like he can do better than you!

[Anonymous]

A break is a break-up.

Fine to ask for space to not have him there for a few nights. Not sleeping together isn't the same as a break. If you just wanted a couple days without him in the apartment, that isn't giving the relationship a break. You don't have to be together 24/7 to be in a relationship.

But yes taking a break from the relationship (vs space from him or to have a few days on your own) is a break up