Boyfriend and I have been arguing and I asked for a break; he's immediately out dating other women

[Anonymous]

Why did he have to repost the social media post on the date?

How old are you? I can’t imagine men doing this. It is so disrespectful. Going on a date? Fine. Posting about it for everyone to see? Not ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did he have to repost the social media post on the date?

How old are you? I can’t imagine men doing this. It is so disrespectful. Going on a date? Fine. Posting about it for everyone to see? Not ok.

What if he was upset to be summarily put on a shelf with zero consideration and is lashing out.

How hard would it have been for OP to say "hey, a bit stressed, can you stay at yours a few days and we'll catch back up this weekend?". Instead she dumps him, which typically is prelude to the dumper testing the waters with a new man. I'd be pissed too.

[Anonymous]

This is how my DH and I met and married. He had a girlfriend he liked but she’d get mad about stuff and dump him for awhile, then they’d get back together again. During one of the dumplings we met and he realized I was nice, unlike the GF. She tried hard at that point to break us up to get him back (he really was a great guy) but the rest is history.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Im sorry OP.
I think i would break up with him, his behaviour sucks you are right.

re-read the original post by OP...she did ask for a break up (with him) and he accepted her request. Now she's hurt that he's enjoying himself ever since she broke up with him.

That’s called woman logic.

You are called misogynist.

Resorting to ad hominem attacks says more about you than about me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Im sorry OP.
I think i would break up with him, his behaviour sucks you are right.

re-read the original post by OP...she did ask for a break up (with him) and he accepted her request. Now she's hurt that he's enjoying himself ever since she broke up with him.

That’s called woman logic.

You are called misogynist.

Resorting to ad hominem attacks says more about you than about me.

NP. You dont know what "ad hominem attack" means.

[Anonymous]

He's a loser if he's posting about it. He was trying to hurt you and a man who loves you wouldnt do that. You're lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's a loser if he's posting about it. He was trying to hurt you and a man who loves you wouldnt do that. You're lucky.

This should have been a 5 page post. It is now 10. I have no idea if he loved her or not but when she asked for a break he was done. Love or no love. I would say he did love her which is why he posted because she hurt him. Probably a lot. So he wanted to return the favor.

[Anonymous]

Who cares how he feels? His behavior is vindictive and disgusting, and that’s all that matters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well in case anyone cares he's now texted me from the date and attempted to call me. When I texted him back he just wanted to argue again. Anyway, it's probably for the best that this has happened. It certainly makes moving on easier for me

How old are you guys?

This seems very juvenile.

+1

This seems like high school drama

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

Yes it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

Yes it is.

NP. Certainly not. The number of people who apparently don’t understand this is dumbfounding to me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

Yes it is.

NP. Certainly not. The number of people who apparently don’t understand this is dumbfounding to me.

I'm surprised at the number of supposedly adult women who think this behavior is okay.

It is. people are not toys that you put away when you're bored or frustrated. You can choose to work on your problems or you can break up. It's not fair to say "I'm mad at you right now. I'm not sure I want to be your gf anymore. So I'm going to take an undetermined amount of time to figure that out. In the meantime you can't see anybody else in case I decide I do want to still be your girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here... to update he was texting me/calling me throughout the "date". We met up yesterday and he assured me nothing happened and it was just a friendly thing which I truly do believe and I questioned him many times about it. I also cant imagine they were having wild passionate sex in the midst of him texting me every 20 minutes. I am annoyed he went out with her to one of our spots though and will not be going out to that place again with him. I'm honestly not sure who is in the wrong- I get that what I said was foolish but Im also very angry that he's done this in a public place and also reposted the story to his instagram even though he says he sees her as just a friend. He says I broke up with him. I'm just trying to put a positive face on it and not get mad at him again but it's hard

Just be done with each other. Just end it foe good. BOTH of you are very immature and this relationship is toxic. You have a lot of maturing to do before you should be in a relationship OP.

I'd really urge you to look into healthy relationship behaviors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

A break is not a breakup

Yes it is.

NP. Certainly not. The number of people who apparently don’t understand this is dumbfounding to me.

A break means just that -- a stopping. If the other party wanted they could wait to see where you get to. But there is no obligation to do so. Here, the guy was also at the end point so used the break just to move on (in a revenge sort of way) or he was so hurt by what was said now hates OP. So either he was just not that into you or your discussion on the break caused him not to be into you. A majority of dating guys have a plan B. Women that have made it known they are interested. Most of those guys will do nothing about that if in a relationship. But if you break they will move on it. Why? Because break is either the end or the start of the end or a difficult period that the guy may want no part of.

If the guy had decided you are the one -- he might wait. If he has not reached that conclusion then your break is a breakup.