Boyfriend and I have been arguing and I asked for a break; he's immediately out dating other women

[Anonymous]

You asked for a break and broke up with him. He said specially he would date others if you break up. Learn to communicate like an adult and this wouldn’t happen. To him and most people on this thread you broke up, so he is free to date whomever he wants.

Don’t follow him on social if you don’t want to see how he is living his life after the breakup. He is not rubbing it in, people post everything. You are reading too much into it. He posts his life the girls lost theirs with him. You don’t want to look into that window simply “unfollow”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He either had this person on the line already while you were dating, or he ran out of your argument and asked out a stranger to rub your face in it.

I don't think I'd want to date either of those men, but you seem to have a very dramatic lifestyle so maybe this is fun for you.

He has a lot of girls who are interested in him, back from his days of being a partier and on the social scene. Some of them still message him, tag him in their stories, etc, but since we spend all our time together it doesnt usually bother me as I know he's with me. It was easy for him to get this woman out on a date, as I knew it would be, because he has a long list of these kind of "groupie" women who are obsessed with him. I just didn't expect him to actually go through with it. I dont care about these girls, I DO care about his disloyalty.

Yeah, like I said: you clearly like drama. So revel in it, I guess?

[Anonymous]

You think he being cruel posting but he probably didn’t even check to see if you viewed the post. It’s a break up he moved on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He either had this person on the line already while you were dating, or he ran out of your argument and asked out a stranger to rub your face in it.

I don't think I'd want to date either of those men, but you seem to have a very dramatic lifestyle so maybe this is fun for you.

No. OP sounds like my ex-gf. When she did that to me, I re-joined Hinge that night and was dating in a few days and I was in bed with a beautiful young lady two weeks after the breakup. Took me a year to find a permanent gf.

[Anonymous]

Well he showed you who he was right now which makes things a whole lot easier.

You know what to do now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He either had this person on the line already while you were dating, or he ran out of your argument and asked out a stranger to rub your face in it.

I don't think I'd want to date either of those men, but you seem to have a very dramatic lifestyle so maybe this is fun for you.

No. OP sounds like my ex-gf. When she did that to me, I re-joined Hinge that night and was dating in a few days and I was in bed with a beautiful young lady two weeks after the breakup. Took me a year to find a permanent gf.

I said he either ran out of the argument and asked out a stranger, and you say "No. . . I re-joined Hinge that night" - those are the same thing, sir. Identical, even.

[Anonymous]

You asked for a break. What did you expect? I think you could have asked for him to come over without actually breaking up.

When Dh and I took a break, I saw another guy and slept with him. The guy happened to be Dh’s friend’s friend so Dh found out. I ended up getting back together with Dh and eventually got married. I am fairly certain Dh thinks of it as a betrayal even though we were on a break! We haven’t talked about it in decades but he always made me feel like I cheated on him and betrayed him because I should not have moved on so quickly.

[Anonymous]

You made your bed. Now it's time to sleep in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You made your bed. Now it's time to sleep in it.

Kind of. Lots of people have pointed out that it may have been his "right" but that he did so speaks volumes as to the type of person he is. And in such a public manner made it cruel and targeted.

I'd personally be fine sleeping in that bed all alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He either had this person on the line already while you were dating, or he ran out of your argument and asked out a stranger to rub your face in it.

I don't think I'd want to date either of those men, but you seem to have a very dramatic lifestyle so maybe this is fun for you.

No. OP sounds like my ex-gf. When she did that to me, I re-joined Hinge that night and was dating in a few days and I was in bed with a beautiful young lady two weeks after the breakup. Took me a year to find a permanent gf.

I said he either ran out of the argument and asked out a stranger, and you say "No. . . I re-joined Hinge that night" - those are the same thing, sir. Identical, even.

I just posted that I dated someone when I was on a break but eventually married Dh.

I used to use new guys to cope with being hurt. In hindsight, it was probably a bad way to deal with heartache. Some girls cry, starve, binge eat, work out. I would go out with a new guy. This was before dating apps. I always had guys asking me out or guy friends. I would go out with friends and if I met a new cute guy, I would agree to go out on a date. This was back in Boston and nyc in my twenties so if you went out on any given day, I may meet tens of decent guys on any day.

I always wonder why people say they can’t meet people in real life. Maybe they are in the wrong city.

[Anonymous]

I do think him posting on social media is disrespectful as your mutual friends can see. I think him dating is fair game since you broke up.

Then when you get married, you can be separated and living separately but people may judge if you are legally married.

[Anonymous]

It's over. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Well in case anyone cares he's now texted me from the date and attempted to call me. When I texted him back he just wanted to argue again. Anyway, it's probably for the best that this has happened. It certainly makes moving on easier for me

[Anonymous]

Is ChatGPT writing a bunch of these really stupid OPs today? Is this ragebait to generate ad clicks for DCUM? Stay Tuned!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're better off without him.

But, a lesson for you is don't say or ask for things you don't really mean.

Don't ask for a break if you don't want to see them dating someone else.


A break is a breakup

This. You could have just asked him not to sleepover for a couple nights rather than a “break.” But it sounds like relationship wasn’t great if you were fighting so much.