4 y.o. niece is wonderful birth control. Tell sibling their kid is out of control?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attended a funeral and our 4 y.o. niece was like a wild feral animal during the service. She was rolling all over the floor, crawling under the chairs, screaming during the service, and hitting people in the face who tried to hold her. Absolutely insane behavior and a 1000% advertisement for natural birth control.

The parents (sibling) pretty much did nothing to try to control her behavior the entire time and were simply looking away/hoping someone else would take care of her. We hazard to guess this kind of laissez faire attitude towards parenting has resulted in our horrifically undisciplined neice. I mean she is a real good case for why spanking needs a comeback and why millennials are awful parents. Is it time we speak loud and clear to them that their kid is an awful brat and that their approach towards parenting our neice is pretty much total garbage?

Nice troll..10/10

[Anonymous]

When my dad died I had to bring a 1 and 3 year old from out of state to the wake, and then the burial, which was the day after the wake and in yet another state. It was tons of driving and being out of routine. My kids were too rowdy at the wake, but my 3 year old sat like a statue at the burial while DH walked around the cemetery with the 1 year old. Kids can be unpredictable. I did my very best and I hope nobody was judging me on one of the worst days of my life. Your sibling deserves some grace.

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Anonymous wrote:I knew a situation where the aunts were gossiping about a small child's behavior. Yes, the kid was a little wild. Then, the gossipy aunts had children. Their kids were easily 5x wilder than the kid they had criticized a few years prior. So wild they were asked to leave everything from restaurants to church services.

Y'all have the same gene pool, OP. Chances are the parents are exhausted and at their wit's end. Why don't you step out with the child to the parking lot and run in circles for a bit to let off some energy? The parents will appreciate the respite.

We actually did take her outside to run around and lifted her up at one point, only to get smacked in the face because she has zero qualms about hitting adults.

she hit you because she’s 4 and sensorily overwhelmed and you invaded her space.

clearly she needs more support but you sound like a bad, bad person.

I taught 3 and 4 year olds for years and I was never once slapped in the face. And I had plenty of kids with sensory issues.

Kids need more structure and parents are afraid of enforcing boundaries. It’s gotten really bad because there always always excuses “it’s sensory overload, not his fault!” and rarely “do not hit, hitting hurts. No hutting”

Why have parents become SO afraid of parenting?

you probably didn’t suddenly grab one of them and pick them up during a meltdown.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like the parents are the problem. Whether or not she is special needs- the parents weren't doing their part to remove her from the activities when she was losing it. I think this would best come from her parents honestly or siblings with kids so they don't give you the old 'what would you know?'

[Anonymous]

Personally yes, I would have said something about how they should have removed their child from the funeral when she behaved in such a distracting way. The only exception I would make is if the parents were in so much grief that they weren’t able to function well and this was an exception to their usual parenting behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:I knew a situation where the aunts were gossiping about a small child's behavior. Yes, the kid was a little wild. Then, the gossipy aunts had children. Their kids were easily 5x wilder than the kid they had criticized a few years prior. So wild they were asked to leave everything from restaurants to church services.

Y'all have the same gene pool, OP. Chances are the parents are exhausted and at their wit's end. Why don't you step out with the child to the parking lot and run in circles for a bit to let off some energy? The parents will appreciate the respite.

We actually did take her outside to run around and lifted her up at one point, only to get smacked in the face because she has zero qualms about hitting adults.

she hit you because she’s 4 and sensorily overwhelmed and you invaded her space.

clearly she needs more support but you sound like a bad, bad person.

I taught 3 and 4 year olds for years and I was never once slapped in the face. And I had plenty of kids with sensory issues.

Kids need more structure and parents are afraid of enforcing boundaries. It’s gotten really bad because there always always excuses “it’s sensory overload, not his fault!” and rarely “do not hit, hitting hurts. No hutting”

Why have parents become SO afraid of parenting?

you probably didn’t suddenly grab one of them and pick them up during a meltdown.

This happened repeatedly with different adults. Stop pretending that this level of physical hitting and tantrumming is expected or normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally yes, I would have said something about how they should have removed their child from the funeral when she behaved in such a distracting way. The only exception I would make is if the parents were in so much grief that they weren’t able to function well and this was an exception to their usual parenting behavior.

The spouse that didn't just lose their parent needs to be the point person here to pick up the slack. There's no amount of grief for an inlaw that makes it acceptable to completely ignore and drop the ball with your own kid. You still have to be a parent and do your job, even when it's hard.

[Anonymous]

Do you make a habit of meddling in other people’s business or taking responsibility for problems that are not yours routinely or just with the parents of this child?

This is a classic example of “not my problem”. MYOB and don’t give it another thought.

This is also a situation that is entirely separate from your own reproduction or lack therof. That is your business alone.

Classic boundaries would be helpful here.

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Anonymous wrote:I knew a situation where the aunts were gossiping about a small child's behavior. Yes, the kid was a little wild. Then, the gossipy aunts had children. Their kids were easily 5x wilder than the kid they had criticized a few years prior. So wild they were asked to leave everything from restaurants to church services.

Y'all have the same gene pool, OP. Chances are the parents are exhausted and at their wit's end. Why don't you step out with the child to the parking lot and run in circles for a bit to let off some energy? The parents will appreciate the respite.

We actually did take her outside to run around and lifted her up at one point, only to get smacked in the face because she has zero qualms about hitting adults.

she hit you because she’s 4 and sensorily overwhelmed and you invaded her space.

clearly she needs more support but you sound like a bad, bad person.

I taught 3 and 4 year olds for years and I was never once slapped in the face. And I had plenty of kids with sensory issues.

Kids need more structure and parents are afraid of enforcing boundaries. It’s gotten really bad because there always always excuses “it’s sensory overload, not his fault!” and rarely “do not hit, hitting hurts. No hutting”

Why have parents become SO afraid of parenting?

you probably didn’t suddenly grab one of them and pick them up during a meltdown.

This happened repeatedly with different adults. Stop pretending that this level of physical hitting and tantrumming is expected or normal.

I didn’t say it was normal. I said the child was sensorily overwhelmed and melting down, which means likely on the spectrum.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids? Four is a tough age, even if she didn't have her schedule disrupted by (possible travel and) an adult event. The parents should not have brought her, or should have left the room with her, but her antics do not in themselves mean she's a brat. Nor is it clear how spanking would help here.

The funeral was for the grandmother of our neice, i.e. the mom of myself and all of my siblings. Bringing the granddaughter was warranted.

Is this a ChatGPT troll?

the mom of myself
not “my mom”
I have never said “I am going to the mom of myself’s house.” Siblings is inferred. Mom is typically the mom of siblings.

How does this work? The question is placed in the field?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Attended a funeral and our 4 y.o. niece was like a wild feral animal during the service. She was rolling all over the floor, crawling under the chairs, screaming during the service, and hitting people in the face who tried to hold her. Absolutely insane behavior and a 1000% advertisement for natural birth control.

The parents (sibling) pretty much did nothing to try to control her behavior the entire time and were simply looking away/hoping someone else would take care of her. We hazard to guess this kind of laissez faire attitude towards parenting has resulted in our horrifically undisciplined neice. I mean she is a real good case for why spanking needs a comeback and why millennials are awful parents. Is it time we speak loud and clear to them that their kid is an awful brat and that their approach towards parenting our neice is pretty much total garbage?

Troll fail. Try using less colorful language next time.

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Anonymous wrote:I knew a situation where the aunts were gossiping about a small child's behavior. Yes, the kid was a little wild. Then, the gossipy aunts had children. Their kids were easily 5x wilder than the kid they had criticized a few years prior. So wild they were asked to leave everything from restaurants to church services.

Y'all have the same gene pool, OP. Chances are the parents are exhausted and at their wit's end. Why don't you step out with the child to the parking lot and run in circles for a bit to let off some energy? The parents will appreciate the respite.

We actually did take her outside to run around and lifted her up at one point, only to get smacked in the face because she has zero qualms about hitting adults.

she hit you because she’s 4 and sensorily overwhelmed and you invaded her space.

clearly she needs more support but you sound like a bad, bad person.

I taught 3 and 4 year olds for years and I was never once slapped in the face. And I had plenty of kids with sensory issues.

Kids need more structure and parents are afraid of enforcing boundaries. It’s gotten really bad because there always always excuses “it’s sensory overload, not his fault!” and rarely “do not hit, hitting hurts. No hutting”

Why have parents become SO afraid of parenting?

you probably didn’t suddenly grab one of them and pick them up during a meltdown.

This happened repeatedly with different adults. Stop pretending that this level of physical hitting and tantrumming is expected or normal.

I didn’t say it was normal. I said the child was sensorily overwhelmed and melting down, which means likely on the spectrum.

All day long? You said the adult caused this by picking them up. And having a kid on the spectrum doesn't mean you just give up and do nothing.

[Anonymous]

Good point about the colorful language. No one would say “is it finally time”? that final provocative sentence. Oh yeah, you nailed it, detective.

Troll fail indeed.

[Anonymous]

Can someone tell me the likely sociopathy and make up of someone who fictionalizes conflicts in first person narratives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone tell me the likely sociopathy and make up of someone who fictionalizes conflicts in first person narratives?

There's no sociopathy involved. It's just boredom, opportunity, a desire to write creatively and a willing audience who rewards the OP with many pages of comments as if their story were legitimate.