DD Missed Try Outs

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I don't think it's reasonable to have a "young child" in high school. Maybe 13 at the youngest.

She's clearly not a senior, she is 15 years old. Yes that is a young child.

[Anonymous]

I suggest she offer to be the team manager.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

After the fact?
That's absurd. Jews observing the sabbath isn't something that just started last week. Observant Jews know in advance that they will not be able to make soccer tryouts after sundown on a Friday and should tell the coach ahead of time, not after the fact.

Our coaches are not so stupid they need to be told it's the Sabbath.

Then it wouldn't be a problem in the first place, right? Nothing to be "honored" because tryouts on the sabbath wouldn't have happened anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coach was not notified.... before her grandfather died... that he would die around try out.

There was no registration. It was "Be at Madison field 4pm Monday."

She reached out after the funeral, explained the family emergency, and her response was basically too bad so sad.

I mean, that's a tough life lesson. But, no, you don't go to the AD. Don't be like the Sigler family in Loudoun, suing the district after being denied a waiver to play lacrosse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

The sun doesn't set at 4 p.m. anymore.

[Anonymous]

Coaches are not nurturing. You put up with them through bared teeth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

After the fact?
That's absurd. Jews observing the sabbath isn't something that just started last week. Observant Jews know in advance that they will not be able to make soccer tryouts after sundown on a Friday and should tell the coach ahead of time, not after the fact.

Our coaches are not so stupid they need to be told it's the Sabbath.

Then it wouldn't be a problem in the first place, right? Nothing to be "honored" because tryouts on the sabbath wouldn't have happened anyway.

It's happens. Then you show up to the next one. Coaches often give a tryout on the 1st practice especially for fall sports, mom's plan vacations over that time.

Rosters are not supreme court positions there is not a hard and fast limit. People are acting crazy to think he can't add 1 more if she is good enough.

Yall are wildin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

The sun doesn't set at 4 p.m. anymore.

Tryouts ended at 4 pm?

[Anonymous]

Most coaches are understanding and reasonable and if someone had reached out before the first tryout saying there was a death in the family he probably would have accommodated a tryout upon her return. He had no knowledge that someone wanted to tryout so he held his tryouts and set his team. If he let her tryout after the fact how many others would ask for the same. If the parent presses the AD for a tryout unless the kid is a rock star, chances are the coach is going to say sorry there isn’t space plus remember the situation for the next year.

It’s a tough learning lesson but it’s hard to change things after the fact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

The sun doesn't set at 4 p.m. anymore.

Tryouts ended at 4 pm?

They start after school, which is about 4 p.m. Sunset today is 6:01. Tryouts don't last longer than two hours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

After the fact?
That's absurd. Jews observing the sabbath isn't something that just started last week. Observant Jews know in advance that they will not be able to make soccer tryouts after sundown on a Friday and should tell the coach ahead of time, not after the fact.

Our coaches are not so stupid they need to be told it's the Sabbath.

Then it wouldn't be a problem in the first place, right? Nothing to be "honored" because tryouts on the sabbath wouldn't have happened anyway.

It's happens. Then you show up to the next one. Coaches often give a tryout on the 1st practice especially for fall sports, mom's plan vacations over that time.

Rosters are not supreme court positions there is not a hard and fast limit. People are acting crazy to think he can't add 1 more if she is good enough.

Yall are wildin.

The "next one" is in a year, in some cases. Wouldn't it be easier to just reach out to the coach ahead of time and let him know you can't make the Friday 7 pm tryouts as you'll be observing the sabath, and can you arrange another time? At least at my kid's school, tryout times are posted to the website, posted to social media, said over the loud speaker in afternoon announcements, and emailed and texted to the parents literally weeks (or even months) in advance. There is no excuse from just reaching out to the coach ahead of time if you have an unavoidable conflict.
To just remain silent and then demand to be "honored" after tryouts and team selection is just vile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I don't think it's reasonable to have a "young child" in high school. Maybe 13 at the youngest.

She's clearly not a senior, she is 15 years old. Yes that is a young child.

I think the issue for me is that if she was too young to be expected to do it herself, then it is the parent’s responsibility. I have one kid who is old enough to communicate with his coach, that is on him. I have one kid that isn't old enough to be that independent. That doesn’t mean we don’t communicate with the coach, that means a parent is responsible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I don't think it's reasonable to have a "young child" in high school. Maybe 13 at the youngest.

She's clearly not a senior, she is 15 years old. Yes that is a young child.

I think the issue for me is that if she was too young to be expected to do it herself, then it is the parent’s responsibility. I have one kid who is old enough to communicate with his coach, that is on him. I have one kid that isn't old enough to be that independent. That doesn’t mean we don’t communicate with the coach, that means a parent is responsible.

A high schooler is not too young to communicate directly with the coach. In fact the majority of coaches strongly prefer that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

After the fact?
That's absurd. Jews observing the sabbath isn't something that just started last week. Observant Jews know in advance that they will not be able to make soccer tryouts after sundown on a Friday and should tell the coach ahead of time, not after the fact.

Our coaches are not so stupid they need to be told it's the Sabbath.

Huh? My kid's team had tryouts on a Friday evening. No observant Jewish kids (I guess) as there were no complaints.

Would you not agree it depends on the school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

After the fact?
That's absurd. Jews observing the sabbath isn't something that just started last week. Observant Jews know in advance that they will not be able to make soccer tryouts after sundown on a Friday and should tell the coach ahead of time, not after the fact.

Our coaches are not so stupid they need to be told it's the Sabbath.

Most coaches aren't going to make assumptions about people's religions and their level of observation, and hold spaces. They need to be told "I observe the Sabbath, and can't attend try outs on X date." in advance.