DD Missed Try Outs

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

Honestly, 99% of the time it is the current coach's whim.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

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The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

How are you going to bring up past rosters from pp (that's not me)'s school?
MaxPreps isn't always 100% accurate, FYI.

You can get team pictures and count. Some schools have past rosters.

Because kids are never absent on team picture day?

You guys are really desperate to believe there is an exact number every year on a roster, there isn't

NP here. Ok, so what determines the roster size then each year? Is there ever a ceiling? Does the state or school districts set caps? How does this work?

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

How are you going to bring up past rosters from pp (that's not me)'s school?
MaxPreps isn't always 100% accurate, FYI.

You can get team pictures and count. Some schools have past rosters.

Because kids are never absent on team picture day?

You guys are really desperate to believe there is an exact number every year on a roster, there isn't

Leagues set limits for rosters. Anyone who knows anything about sports knows this. Not sure why these aggressive ignoramuses are so persistent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

Did she contact the coach to let them know she had to miss for a family funeral? Or did she not contact them until after tryouts were over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coach was not notified.... before her grandfather died... that he would die around try out.

There was no registration. It was "Be at Madison field 4pm Monday."

She reached out after the funeral, explained the family emergency, and her response was basically too bad so sad.

All FCPS sports require registration— which includes concussion education, the emergency care card, and the VHSL physical.

[Anonymous]

I don't get why the coach wasn't emailed or if you don't have the coach's email then email the athletic director at the school in between the death and the funeral. Is OP saying the death happened in the morning and the funeral was held the same afternoon? My FIL was in hospice then died two months ago. My high school sons both emailed all their teachers letting them know the funeral would be in one week and they would be missing school and might miss another day because family was flying in and there was a family memorial.
All their teachers were understanding except one and then by having proof he sent an email my son could advocate for himself.

The emails took less than 5 minutes for my kids to send.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

How are you going to bring up past rosters from pp (that's not me)'s school?
MaxPreps isn't always 100% accurate, FYI.

You can get team pictures and count. Some schools have past rosters.

Because kids are never absent on team picture day?

You guys are really desperate to believe there is an exact number every year on a roster, there isn't

Leagues set limits for rosters. Anyone who knows anything about sports knows this. Not sure why these aggressive ignoramuses are so persistent.

Limits aren't always met. You know that right? Especially in baseball, many coaches try and get by with the bare minimum. They think they look like big daddy with a stripped bench. They do this mostly because they have huge egos and little d*cks, but there ya go.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

+1. West Potomac Baseball roster has varied by 13 spots in the last 4 years.

A roster is never full.

Ah… now I get it. You’re trolling. No one actually thinks that they can reason from one team at one high school to every sport/school.

This is like the 5th time you have missed the point.

You keep stating that rosters are full and there is a finite number. You can easily Google WP's baseball team to verify that you are FOS.

But is there any reason to think thie WPB roster rules are applicable to every other sport? There are super strict rules on basketball rosters in many local leagues, for instance.

These rules are NOT equitable. Why - in 2024 - can’t everyone be on the team?

As a society, we cannot achieve diversity, equity, and inclusion unless we truly begin to live it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

+1. West Potomac Baseball roster has varied by 13 spots in the last 4 years.

A roster is never full.

Ah… now I get it. You’re trolling. No one actually thinks that they can reason from one team at one high school to every sport/school.

This is like the 5th time you have missed the point.

You keep stating that rosters are full and there is a finite number. You can easily Google WP's baseball team to verify that you are FOS.

But is there any reason to think thie WPB roster rules are applicable to every other sport? There are super strict rules on basketball rosters in many local leagues, for instance.

These rules are NOT equitable. Why - in 2024 - can’t everyone be on the team?

As a society, we cannot achieve diversity, equity, and inclusion unless we truly begin to live it.

You know why? because 3/4 of the kids who are added under your rules don't know how to play the game, won't pay attention, and will be disruptive on the bench because they are bored/are only there because their parents made them/don't feel that the rules apply to them and their parents will back them up that they can't be expected to act with any type of good sportmanship or decorum.

The same rules will apply to life. You are not doing your kids any favors by teaching them that they are the most amazing special thing in the world who never has to follow the rules. This will not play out well for them in jobs and in relationships.

There were multiple opportunities for your child to reach out to the coach. I can guarantee you that if you talked to the kids who made the team that at least one is dealing with greater hardship and managed to make it work. They have another opportunity to make the team next year. If this is truly so important to them, then they can work hard and come back next year with a shot to make the team. Or they can whine for the next year about how much they are a victim, alienate the AD, coach, and teammates and still not make the team. It is your job as a parent to help them navigate this with grace.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

+1. West Potomac Baseball roster has varied by 13 spots in the last 4 years.

A roster is never full.

Ah… now I get it. You’re trolling. No one actually thinks that they can reason from one team at one high school to every sport/school.

This is like the 5th time you have missed the point.

You keep stating that rosters are full and there is a finite number. You can easily Google WP's baseball team to verify that you are FOS.

But is there any reason to think thie WPB roster rules are applicable to every other sport? There are super strict rules on basketball rosters in many local leagues, for instance.

These rules are NOT equitable. Why - in 2024 - can’t everyone be on the team?

As a society, we cannot achieve diversity, equity, and inclusion unless we truly begin to live it.

You know why? because 3/4 of the kids who are added under your rules don't know how to play the game, won't pay attention, and will be disruptive on the bench because they are bored/are only there because their parents made them/don't feel that the rules apply to them and their parents will back them up that they can't be expected to act with any type of good sportmanship or decorum.

The same rules will apply to life. You are not doing your kids any favors by teaching them that they are the most amazing special thing in the world who never has to follow the rules. This will not play out well for them in jobs and in relationships.

There were multiple opportunities for your child to reach out to the coach. I can guarantee you that if you talked to the kids who made the team that at least one is dealing with greater hardship and managed to make it work. They have another opportunity to make the team next year. If this is truly so important to them, then they can work hard and come back next year with a shot to make the team. Or they can whine for the next year about how much they are a victim, alienate the AD, coach, and teammates and still not make the team. It is your job as a parent to help them navigate this with grace.

1. You aren't addressing the OP.
2. The OP's DD didn't break any rules, moron. He frigging grandfather died.
3. This is literally about children playing a game with a ball.
4. Get a grip.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

+1. West Potomac Baseball roster has varied by 13 spots in the last 4 years.

A roster is never full.

Ah… now I get it. You’re trolling. No one actually thinks that they can reason from one team at one high school to every sport/school.

This is like the 5th time you have missed the point.

You keep stating that rosters are full and there is a finite number. You can easily Google WP's baseball team to verify that you are FOS.

But is there any reason to think thie WPB roster rules are applicable to every other sport? There are super strict rules on basketball rosters in many local leagues, for instance.

These rules are NOT equitable. Why - in 2024 - can’t everyone be on the team?

As a society, we cannot achieve diversity, equity, and inclusion unless we truly begin to live it.

You know why? because 3/4 of the kids who are added under your rules don't know how to play the game, won't pay attention, and will be disruptive on the bench because they are bored/are only there because their parents made them/don't feel that the rules apply to them and their parents will back them up that they can't be expected to act with any type of good sportmanship or decorum.

The same rules will apply to life. You are not doing your kids any favors by teaching them that they are the most amazing special thing in the world who never has to follow the rules. This will not play out well for them in jobs and in relationships.

There were multiple opportunities for your child to reach out to the coach. I can guarantee you that if you talked to the kids who made the team that at least one is dealing with greater hardship and managed to make it work. They have another opportunity to make the team next year. If this is truly so important to them, then they can work hard and come back next year with a shot to make the team. Or they can whine for the next year about how much they are a victim, alienate the AD, coach, and teammates and still not make the team. It is your job as a parent to help them navigate this with grace.

1. You aren't addressing the OP.
2. The OP's DD didn't break any rules, moron. He frigging grandfather died.
3. This is literally about children playing a game with a ball.
4. Get a grip.

DP here
Not all sports involve a ball. OP never specified which sport her daughter wanted to do.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

+1. West Potomac Baseball roster has varied by 13 spots in the last 4 years.

A roster is never full.

Ah… now I get it. You’re trolling. No one actually thinks that they can reason from one team at one high school to every sport/school.

This is like the 5th time you have missed the point.

You keep stating that rosters are full and there is a finite number. You can easily Google WP's baseball team to verify that you are FOS.

But is there any reason to think thie WPB roster rules are applicable to every other sport? There are super strict rules on basketball rosters in many local leagues, for instance.

These rules are NOT equitable. Why - in 2024 - can’t everyone be on the team?

As a society, we cannot achieve diversity, equity, and inclusion unless we truly begin to live it.

You know why? because 3/4 of the kids who are added under your rules don't know how to play the game, won't pay attention, and will be disruptive on the bench because they are bored/are only there because their parents made them/don't feel that the rules apply to them and their parents will back them up that they can't be expected to act with any type of good sportmanship or decorum.

The same rules will apply to life. You are not doing your kids any favors by teaching them that they are the most amazing special thing in the world who never has to follow the rules. This will not play out well for them in jobs and in relationships.

There were multiple opportunities for your child to reach out to the coach. I can guarantee you that if you talked to the kids who made the team that at least one is dealing with greater hardship and managed to make it work. They have another opportunity to make the team next year. If this is truly so important to them, then they can work hard and come back next year with a shot to make the team. Or they can whine for the next year about how much they are a victim, alienate the AD, coach, and teammates and still not make the team. It is your job as a parent to help them navigate this with grace.

1. You aren't addressing the OP.
2. The OP's DD didn't break any rules, moron. He frigging grandfather died.
3. This is literally about children playing a game with a ball.
4. Get a grip.

DP here
Not all sports involve a ball. OP never specified which sport her daughter wanted to do.

I think they call that hyperbole.

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Anonymous wrote:What's the legitimate reason?

Her grandfather died and she was at the Funeral in Ohio.

And was the coach notified before or after she missed tryouts? Was she registered to try out?

Some sports are cut sports and a student not showing up is an easy way to make a cut.

Anyone who is not an ahole piece of sh-- would cut the kid some slack and let her try out or make an accommodation. Even if they did not tell the coach, "contacting the HS lax coach" is not high on the list when a family member passes. This is not the NCAA, NFL. It's HS.

Contact the AD.

But logistically, what is the coach going to do after this extra try-out?

All the athletes have been notified that they've made the team already. Is the coach going to rescind an offer to one of those girls if OP's daughter does well at the tryout. How do you think that poor girls family would react to that scenario?

Coach is not being an a-hole. He held his tryout and he assembled his roster. This is just the way it work

Coach is being an ahole. THERE WAS A DEATH in the family, for Fs sake. Kid wasn't in Cancun.

Unless there are no spots available -and that is a valid point- there is no reason not to let the kid have a try out or practice with the team. None. Zero. And at our school, which has some very good sports teams, there are always spots available. They may not dress but they can practice, show up, and vie to dress.

Again, this is high school. There is no reasons for this type of behavior by some wanna-be Nick Saban.

I'm not the OP or the person you quoted.

At my kid's current high school, the only sports that do NOT have a limited number of spots is cross country and track. My older kids went to a different high school than my current high school student, and it was the same there. From what I've heard from friends with high school kids at other schools, it's the same at those schools too.
There just isn't an unlimited amount of spots for sports like soccer, tennis, softball, etc.

+1

The poster that keeps saying "just add her to the roster" either has a child that doesnt play in one of the more competitive sports, or has a child that goes to a school that doesnt routinely fill out a roster

If you have a HS of over 2,000 kids, and they have a few hundred show up to a baseball or softball or basketball tryout, there are going to be cuts.

You can't simply "add a person to the roster after tryouts". It would be incredibly unfair to all the kids that came to the tryout, did their best, but didn't make the team.

And the alternative (cutting an athlete that has already made the team) is even worst.

The only sport that has serious restriction for roster is Basketball and since that is not a spring sport we are not talking about basketball.

I can bring up rosters from your HS from each year and show you there is not an exact number.

What is your school?

+1. West Potomac Baseball roster has varied by 13 spots in the last 4 years.

A roster is never full.

Ah… now I get it. You’re trolling. No one actually thinks that they can reason from one team at one high school to every sport/school.

This is like the 5th time you have missed the point.

You keep stating that rosters are full and there is a finite number. You can easily Google WP's baseball team to verify that you are FOS.

But is there any reason to think thie WPB roster rules are applicable to every other sport? There are super strict rules on basketball rosters in many local leagues, for instance.

These rules are NOT equitable. Why - in 2024 - can’t everyone be on the team?

As a society, we cannot achieve diversity, equity, and inclusion unless we truly begin to live it.

You know why? because 3/4 of the kids who are added under your rules don't know how to play the game, won't pay attention, and will be disruptive on the bench because they are bored/are only there because their parents made them/don't feel that the rules apply to them and their parents will back them up that they can't be expected to act with any type of good sportmanship or decorum.

The same rules will apply to life. You are not doing your kids any favors by teaching them that they are the most amazing special thing in the world who never has to follow the rules. This will not play out well for them in jobs and in relationships.

There were multiple opportunities for your child to reach out to the coach. I can guarantee you that if you talked to the kids who made the team that at least one is dealing with greater hardship and managed to make it work. They have another opportunity to make the team next year. If this is truly so important to them, then they can work hard and come back next year with a shot to make the team. Or they can whine for the next year about how much they are a victim, alienate the AD, coach, and teammates and still not make the team. It is your job as a parent to help them navigate this with grace.

1. You aren't addressing the OP.
2. The OP's DD didn't break any rules, moron. He frigging grandfather died.
3. This is literally about children playing a game with a ball.
4. Get a grip.

I’m pretty sure the rule is if you want to make the team to need to tryout. If you can’t tryout, you need to seek an alternative before the tryout. Again, how was the coach even supposed to know OPs daughter wanted to tryout and that he should consider holding a spot for her if she didn’t tell him?

My daughter is a freshman in high school. She communicates with her coaches - HS and club. We have taught her how to do this.

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Anonymous wrote:My freshman/sophomore students frequently email me when they are going to miss class (for a funeral, wedding, medical appointment, when they wake up with an illness that morning). And that’s math class, there are 90 of them in a year and you can’t be kicked out.

I would expect anyone in high school to know to email ahead of time if they are going to miss try outs, regardless of the reason.

It sucks, but it’s a good lesson to learn now before she misses a medical appointment with a specialist with a 6 month wait, forgets to tell the court she’s out of town and can’t serve jury duty, or misses out on a job because she missed the interview. I’m sure there are tears and frustration, but it’s a learning moment where you can model how to handle big emotions and find alternative ways to access the sport she likes.

NP. I agree with you that this a good life lesson for OP’s dd, but there’s a difference between an event that was planned in advance or an appointment that you’ve scheduled versus the unexpected death of a loved one. Funerals are often held within 72 hours of a death. A high school student may not have ever lost a loved one before. Expecting them to handle their affairs like an adult is a stretch. OP, did you ask your dd about upcoming commitments and advise her on all the people she should notify that she’d be out of town for a funeral? Probably not because you were grieving and had your own commitments to take care of and people to notify. This is the kind of situation where people, especially young and inexperienced people, need a little extra grace.

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Anonymous wrote:My freshman/sophomore students frequently email me when they are going to miss class (for a funeral, wedding, medical appointment, when they wake up with an illness that morning). And that’s math class, there are 90 of them in a year and you can’t be kicked out.

I would expect anyone in high school to know to email ahead of time if they are going to miss try outs, regardless of the reason.

It sucks, but it’s a good lesson to learn now before she misses a medical appointment with a specialist with a 6 month wait, forgets to tell the court she’s out of town and can’t serve jury duty, or misses out on a job because she missed the interview. I’m sure there are tears and frustration, but it’s a learning moment where you can model how to handle big emotions and find alternative ways to access the sport she likes.

NP. I agree with you that this a good life lesson for OP’s dd, but there’s a difference between an event that was planned in advance or an appointment that you’ve scheduled versus the unexpected death of a loved one. Funerals are often held within 72 hours of a death. A high school student may not have ever lost a loved one before. Expecting them to handle their affairs like an adult is a stretch. OP, did you ask your dd about upcoming commitments and advise her on all the people she should notify that she’d be out of town for a funeral? Probably not because you were grieving and had your own commitments to take care of and people to notify. This is the kind of situation where people, especially young and inexperienced people, need a little extra grace.

I agree with giving grace in a situation like being able to make up a math test or have an extension on a paper. But with tryouts, the team is set. How is it fair to ask for a new tryout for the 20 girls who were there for 2 or 3 days of tryouts and made it on the team? Or for girls who perhaps had a club conflict and we’re not able to tryout? Do they get a separate tryout too? And if OP’s daughter turns out to be great (which honestly I somehow doubt), how is coach going to go back and tell a girl who tried out on time and made the team that she is off the team because of an exception? Sorry but I think this is just a lesson learned for OP’s DD and for OP. I’d OP wants handholding for her daughter, she needs to do it herself next time and take on the responsibility of following up with all teachers and coaches herself, before the fact.

Then again, you have nuts like a PP (maybe Op) claiming that as an adult, she told her boss she had to leave for a family death/emergency and then had zero contact with work for TWO WEEKS until her boss finally reached out. So adults are crazy and entitled too.

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Anonymous wrote:My freshman/sophomore students frequently email me when they are going to miss class (for a funeral, wedding, medical appointment, when they wake up with an illness that morning). And that’s math class, there are 90 of them in a year and you can’t be kicked out.

I would expect anyone in high school to know to email ahead of time if they are going to miss try outs, regardless of the reason.

It sucks, but it’s a good lesson to learn now before she misses a medical appointment with a specialist with a 6 month wait, forgets to tell the court she’s out of town and can’t serve jury duty, or misses out on a job because she missed the interview. I’m sure there are tears and frustration, but it’s a learning moment where you can model how to handle big emotions and find alternative ways to access the sport she likes.

NP. I agree with you that this a good life lesson for OP’s dd, but there’s a difference between an event that was planned in advance or an appointment that you’ve scheduled versus the unexpected death of a loved one. Funerals are often held within 72 hours of a death. A high school student may not have ever lost a loved one before. Expecting them to handle their affairs like an adult is a stretch. OP, did you ask your dd about upcoming commitments and advise her on all the people she should notify that she’d be out of town for a funeral? Probably not because you were grieving and had your own commitments to take care of and people to notify. This is the kind of situation where people, especially young and inexperienced people, need a little extra grace.

What kind of "grace" do you recommend the coach show OP's kid? The team roster has been set. Let's say, for example, that the coach selected 15 students because the school has 15 sets of equipment/uniforms for this sport.
Do you suggest that the coach allow OP"s daughter to try out now, and if she is in fact better than one of the previously selected athletes, the coach should kick that girl off the team?