DD Missed Try Outs

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you child's excuse was religion (like after sunset on Friday) or medical I think the coach is unreasonable. since the other girls reason was medical then it is reasonable.

Also, whether you like it or not, super stars get to make the team even if they are unable to make tryouts.

Sunset after Friday isn't unreasonable if the kid never told the coach ahead of time which you would have plenty of ability to do. If you just don't show up, the coach has no way of knowing why you didn't show up.

At our school it’s honored.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I hope she isn't a "lower clansman"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I was imagining that the kid was a high school student. I don't know any public schools that have try out based teams for young children.

But, I also would expect the parent who didn't lose a parent to coach their kid through this. If it's a single parent situation, I can see how the parent might have been overwhelmed and not think of it.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry your daughter missed tryouts and I’m especially sorry for your loss. That would certainly be a valid reason in my book but it’s not surprising that in the world of HS athletics, they are inflexible. When one of my kids was in middle school he was registered for a non-school baseball tryout. He’d been really excited about playing but got a concussion a few weeks before. Since the tryout was months in advance of the season I asked if he could have a tryout a week later and was told that they didn’t make any exceptions. That meant waiting another year. He was disappointed but we accepted it. We later learned this was not in fact the policy for everyone. The world of sports is not always fair. My other son plays HS soccer and he has seen injured kids sit out tryouts but put on the roster because the coach had already seen enough the previous year or in preseason workouts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the injured girls were on the team previously that was why their spots were held.

That's not how try outs work. Being on a team one season is not a promise to be on the team another season. You'd think someone on a sports forum would know that.

Yeah, but if the two girls were some of the top players the previous year...clearly, the coach knows their capability and will reserve slots for them.

OP, I don't know what to say. My kid's tryouts were 1 day and the roster was posted that night. HS teams have limitations on how many kids are on the roster at least for my kid's division.

I don't know what my kid's coach would do in your situation, as they would have to cut somebody that they said made the team to allow your DD to participate.

That isn't true with most sports. I've seen baseball teams carry as little as 20 and as many as 40.

It all depends on the league in which your HS plays. As I said, my kid's HS has roster limitations...now, you can move kids between JV and Varsity, but you can't just keep 40 players officially on the Varsity team. It is baseball and they are limited to 25. Your kid's league may have different rules.

Now, how much anyone can confirm your rosters and whether you are monkeying around with the roster...beats me.

+1

Our school teams have roster limitations, and that is even stated upfront at tryouts. Different schools may have different rules. Spots are held for injured players at the coach’s discretion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I hope she isn't a "lower clansman"

Autocorrect is on fire today!

[Anonymous]

For my kid’s spring sport, formal rosters were required to be turned into the athletic director by 10pm on the last day of tryouts. And the roster was capped to a certain number. This was in the handout sent home with the girls on the first day of tryouts. Now I have no clue who makes the above decisions about roster limits , due dates etc…but I doubt it would be easy to just change after the fact. Creating a huge stink probably would not change anything and may or may not tick the coach off enough to remember next year. Not saying it should be held against her next year…but well, we all know how these things can go.

[Anonymous]

At my son's school, the coach added a boy (who isn't very good) to the basketball roster who didn't even show up for the first grade-based "mandatory" elimination tryout. Only my son and another boy made it to the final tryout round. The no-show earned a spot on the team--while my son did not--but no show was a complete bencher.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for your loss, and I feel badly for you and your DD about the team. I’m guessing she is a freshman and you just genuinely didn’t realize how it worked. So many more rules for school teams, and exceptions are usually not made (especially for freshman or players unknown to the coach).

To illustrated My sons friend forgot to turn in his paperwork/physical forms online before baseball tryouts. Sat out for the first 2 days of a 3 day tryout (that is the rule) until his paperwork was turned in. Didn’t make the team. Almost certainly would’ve if he had gotten his stuff turned in on time. But he is a freshman- the coach isn’t going to make any exceptions.

Travel coaches have a lot more power to make exceptions especially for known players. High school coaches much less- they are working on school rules and protocols.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At my son's school, the coach added a boy (who isn't very good) to the basketball roster who didn't even show up for the first grade-based "mandatory" elimination tryout. Only my son and another boy made it to the final tryout round. The no-show earned a spot on the team--while my son did not--but no show was a complete bencher.

I assume the kid let the coach know ahead of time

[Anonymous]

This is probably about the timing.

There has a to be a line somewhere or unfortunately, people would lie about things like funerals. If the coach says no to everyone who didn't notify them before the tryout then the line is clear and there is no playing judge about what warrants a pass (death of an uncle? a grandparent? a parent? a family friend?).

If your daughter is a very strong player I'd advise her to write back something saying thank you for letting me know, I plan to try out next year. I wish I would have emailed you before the tryouts, but I wasn't sure what to do. Thanks again.

Maybe the coach will reconsider? Most kids in this position would ghost after the "no" email.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think it’s reasonable to have a young child think “I need to email my coach” in the middle of a family member dying.

I’d call the principal and ask for a tryout but the coach will be a di$k and say she didn’t make it.

If she’s a lower clansman I’d just stick with the club team since this same coach will be there next year.

I was imagining that the kid was a high school student. I don't know any public schools that have try out based teams for young children.

But, I also would expect the parent who didn't lose a parent to coach their kid through this. If it's a single parent situation, I can see how the parent might have been overwhelmed and not think of it.

LOL. The 'single parent' gets a pass, but the 15 year old girl doesn't. Let me guess, you're a single parent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry your daughter missed tryouts and I’m especially sorry for your loss. That would certainly be a valid reason in my book but it’s not surprising that in the world of HS athletics, they are inflexible. When one of my kids was in middle school he was registered for a non-school baseball tryout. He’d been really excited about playing but got a concussion a few weeks before. Since the tryout was months in advance of the season I asked if he could have a tryout a week later and was told that they didn’t make any exceptions. That meant waiting another year. He was disappointed but we accepted it. We later learned this was not in fact the policy for everyone. The world of sports is not always fair. My other son plays HS soccer and he has seen injured kids sit out tryouts but put on the roster because the coach had already seen enough the previous year or in preseason workouts.

Again, yeah it happens because most coaches are dicks, but thi is not how try outs are suppoesed to go. If Bobby ran a 4.4 40 in 2022 that doesn't mean he will run it in 2023. Ok, kids grow like weeds. They get fatter, slower, more awkward. The point of a try out is to collect data and make a fair decision. Lwtting a previous year player skip that is BS, espcially so if it is at the exclusion of others.

Call the AD. The coach is a public employee and he owes you a valid explanation. Demand it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is probably about the timing.

There has a to be a line somewhere or unfortunately, people would lie about things like funerals. If the coach says no to everyone who didn't notify them before the tryout then the line is clear and there is no playing judge about what warrants a pass (death of an uncle? a grandparent? a parent? a family friend?).

If your daughter is a very strong player I'd advise her to write back something saying thank you for letting me know, I plan to try out next year. I wish I would have emailed you before the tryouts, but I wasn't sure what to do. Thanks again.

Maybe the coach will reconsider? Most kids in this position would ghost after the "no" email.

+1

You never know. At the very least, he may offer to let her practice with them or manage, or put her on the list for off-season workouts etc.