I told my friend about the business I’m starting and she crapped all over it
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Anonymous
Op here. It’s not. It’s in the tech/AI/cybersecurity space. |
Anonymous
Agreed, she may also have had too many friends try to push MLMs on her and is lashing out, even if you aren't one. |
Anonymous
Op here. I don’t want her involvement and I’m not asking her for anything. We were on a walk and I was describing feeling stretched thin between work/a sick kiddo/and my side project which I then took 30 seconds to describe before her diatribe started. |
Anonymous
Yes and she's had a bad experience with something similar. Either you extend her grace and accept an apology, like someone who cared about the friendship, or cut her loose. She's not likely to come beg your forgiveness any more than she has. |
Anonymous
| Lol is this person’s initials MT? Sounds like my cousin. |
Anonymous
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Op I totally get it.
It’s not that she apologized and you should move on… it seems like she hasn’t really apologized at all. You can give a non apology a million times and it’s not going to change how you feel unless she says “hey, I was wrong for how and what I said. I’m sorry I hurt you”. Not “I’m sorry IF…” or “I’m sorry that you….”. That’s BS. Everyone here insisting she’s apologized multiple times must be the types who give those types of apologies and wonder why other won’t “get over it”. |
Anonymous
OP, I understand the rooting for you, so maybe you should tell her. Our brains are wired to protect us, and her own anxiety came out. Forgive her. But, tell her to stop apologizing and be the cheerleader you need. |
Anonymous
| Just ignore it and then roll up to her place in your new Lamborghini when the money rolls in and honk the horn. |
Anonymous
Op here. Of course I hope my project turns into something and I’d love money. But I want those things because I want them for myself and my family, not to prove something to my friend. To me that is not friendship at all and I don’t live my life for other people. |
Anonymous
+1 I’d give her a second chance and tell her you definitely 100% don’t want her advice. As a rule, she needs to learn you don’t give advice unless asked. |
Anonymous
| There’s a 90% chance she’s right. |
Anonymous
Yeah, I think many of us need lessons in how to apologize appropriately. I didn’t grow up in a family where it was safe to be wrong or to apologize, so I learned as an adult. OP can cut this person out yet that doesn’t give them a chance to do better. OP’s choice. |
Anonymous
Op here. No, but that would be a crazy small world! |
Anonymous
| More people are starting businesses. We should. Local, small business keeps everything from becoming Ama-Wal-Alpha-Tes-Meta-Appl |
Anonymous
There's a high statistical chance that OP's business venture will fail because most businesses fail. That doesn't mean her friend was right. To be honest, it sounds like her friend was just triggered by some aspect of the business and was just ranting out her a$$ about it, because OP didn't share enough info with her to have a reasoned opinion on the business. I also think there's a chance that the friends was so negative because hearing about OP's new venture made her feel envious or left behind or something. I say this because it's sometimes a feeling I have when a friend tells me about something new and exciting in their life, if I might be in a more stagnant place. I think it's a normal emotional response. But feeling that way is one thing, responding to it by crapping all over your friend's new business is another. I am self-aware enough that when this happens to me, I recognize it as a message that I need to do things that are exciting in my own life, not criticize the exciting thing happening in my own life. |