Having kids sucks!

[Anonymous]

I guess it depends on whether you think about as being “worth it” for you or worth it for them.
I feel like it’s worth some sacrifice on my part for my kids to get a chance at life.

I do think that people who give up everything to take care of kids who are profoundly disabled are crazy.

[Anonymous]

I can’t relate. I was mid- thirties when I had kids. I had a lot of fun in my twenties- traveled a lot. Job was secure.
I can’t imagine now what I will do with my time when kids are out of the house in 3 years.

What is it that you need to do? Play video games? Watch useless TV? Spend 2 hours at the gym?

HS years are much easier (time wise, NOT emotionally).

[Anonymous]

I can definitely relate. Two kids under 10, both with ASD (levels 1 and 2). I knew kids would be expensive and hard, but I didn't expect anything like this. Ever day I wish I didn't have them.

[Anonymous]

OP - cut back on the sports and enrichment activities. You don't need to do all of that time-sucking extra stuff. Your kids will probably be better off with more relaxed parents than being a bit better at soccer or math.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

Oh, honey, just send them to boarding school. Game changing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

Oh, honey, just send them to boarding school. Game changing.

If only. Boarding school would cost close to $100k/yr for my kids.

[Anonymous]

This reminds me of the other thread about what “masculine” means.
OP whining about how his life is hard and blaming his own kids for it is not manly.
Stop complaining, stop telling everyone you hate the life your kids have given you, and get to work changing your attitude to one of gratitude.

[Anonymous]

I love my kids but I kind of hate being a mom. If I had the money to outsource everything, I would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

I don’t believe you’re real and I think you are a troll

+1

Definitely not a troll. I could have said the same thing myself 10 years ago. I am sure many men could. How is it so far beyond your comprehension that you think it has to be a troll? You are severely lacking in empathy and imagination.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband feels this way. He took it out on me in so many ways for years, even though he had said he wanted kids and even said he wanted another. On the one hand, I'm glad that I don't feel this way. On the other hand, I do think it's connected with a larger selfishness and narcissism.

+1

Same here.

He said wanted kids.

Turns out he had very naive, unrealistic, uninformed, magical view of what it should take to raise them.

And he promptly checked out. The kids are a prop to pat on the head once in a while when they beg for his attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - cut back on the sports and enrichment activities. You don't need to do all of that time-sucking extra stuff. Your kids will probably be better off with more relaxed parents than being a bit better at soccer or math.

Yeah more screen time after school. Super easy!

Builds good life skills and great for college apps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - cut back on the sports and enrichment activities. You don't need to do all of that time-sucking extra stuff. Your kids will probably be better off with more relaxed parents than being a bit better at soccer or math.

Yeah more screen time after school. Super easy!

Builds good life skills and great for college apps.

Whatever. Do what you like with your kids.
They get to feel like they are worthy of love and fun to be around.


Beats the hell out of having parents who think spending time with you sucks because they are always doing stuff they hate.

[Anonymous]

It's a long, thankless job for sure. Hang in there. It gets better, then gets worse. Things are always changing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did you not know before having kids that it'd be hard and expensive?

I didnt know it would be this hard. Every kid is different. Get off your high horse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will say it again.. "most men should not have kids. They can't handle giving up their selfish lives".

I hope to god OP that your kids never find out. You're selfish, and love your life more than your children.

If I were your DW, I'd lose all respect for you. After the kids leave the house, I'd probably divorce you having lost respect for you.

Phooey! Many women feel the same.

Speak for yourself