Having kids sucks!

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Anonymous wrote:I felt that way when my kid was young but now he is 11 and I can’t stand to think about him going to college!

Yup. Your kid and your savings going to college.

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Anonymous wrote:100% agree OP. I'm being held hostage because I have to live in a place with "good" schools, other kids for mine to play with etc. It's absolutely bonkers how much of my life is dictated by my kids needs. For example I f*king hate sleep overs. But my kids love it and my spouse thinks it's a good thing. So I have strange kids in my house when I barely want my own kids around. Also I have no interest in talking to a child about their emotional crap.
This year my plan is to do less for my kids. Otherwise I'll start to feel resentful.

So grow a pair and tell your family no more sleepovers. Or only 2 a year or whatever. It’s not an all or nothing thing. Everyone gives/everyone gets.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say it again.. "most men should not have kids. They can't handle giving up their selfish lives".

I hope to god OP that your kids never find out. You're selfish, and love your life more than your children.

If I were your DW, I'd lose all respect for you. After the kids leave the house, I'd probably divorce you having lost respect for you.

This. My brother is the exact same way, as is my father. My brother constantly pawns his kids off on others becuase he's too busy looking at his phone or trying to hit up a bar. He expects my mother or me to feed them, do laundry, babysit, etc. all because he "has too much work". Note that I've been a working mom (atty) for 15 years now.

Some dads are really just selfish a-holes. I do believe in karma and what goes around comes around.

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Anonymous wrote:Your wife is partial right. You like your family, but you love your life much more. You shouldn't be a daddy.

Feel bad for your kids. They don't deserve a father like you. There I say it.

Sign,
Tired but happy father of 3.

Amen. I feel sorry for your kids that you resent them so much you feel compelled to go online and b&tch about them. What a total loser you are.

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Anonymous wrote:At least you are honest, most humans defend their bad decisions with as much vigor as their good decisions.

Yes. An honest but terrible father.

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Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

I'm sure your parents feel the same way about you. Remember your kids didn't ask to be born

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Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

I'm sure your parents feel the same way about you. Remember your kids didn't ask to be born

100%. So typical of the modern male. Grow some balls and stop being such a wuss.

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Please please please tell me this is a troll post with lots of sock puppeting. Those poor kids.

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I'm in my late 40s. The thing I remember most about my childhood is my mom often and loudly stating how much she "hates kids." I felt like I was "bad" just because I was a kid.
My mom died about a year ago and I did not shed a single tear.
Is that what you want for your kids?

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People who don't want kids should not have sex.

I feel so badly for the kids who have parents like this and for the women who married men like this and didn't realize it.

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Anonymous wrote:100% agree OP. I'm being held hostage because I have to live in a place with "good" schools, other kids for mine to play with etc. It's absolutely bonkers how much of my life is dictated by my kids needs. For example I f*king hate sleep overs. But my kids love it and my spouse thinks it's a good thing. So I have strange kids in my house when I barely want my own kids around. Also I have no interest in talking to a child about their emotional crap.
This year my plan is to do less for my kids. Otherwise I'll start to feel resentful.

WTF

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

I definitely felt that way for a few years. Up to the age of 6 is really hard at times. Most of the time. In fact, I used to go on rants about this very issue to childless friends to try to warn them off.

That said, I have completely changed my tune now. My kids are in their late teens and have really been a joy for the last 10 years. People complain about teens, but it has been so much easier than dealing with little kids. Getting enough sleep is one thing, but also being able to go out without a sitter, getting back all the time to read or watch tv or do hobbies. But moreover, spending time with them is a lot of fun. We have had amazing vacations, but also just going for walks, having dinner, or going camping. They are funny and sweet and now I would have to say that it was definitely worth it, however miserable it was at the time.

Whoa.

Are you a stay at home parent or do you work? Are their Nannies and housekeepers and car pools in your life? Do you have a stay at home spouse?

I work, as does my spouse. No nanny or housekeeper. My kids are very independent- my son takes public transport to his soccer practices, though we pick him up. My daughter drives herself now. What are you getting at?

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Anonymous wrote:I will say it again.. "most men should not have kids. They can't handle giving up their selfish lives".

I hope to god OP that your kids never find out. You're selfish, and love your life more than your children.

If I were your DW, I'd lose all respect for you. After the kids leave the house, I'd probably divorce you having lost respect for you.

Phooey! Many women feel the same.

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Anonymous wrote:There I said it. I'm a father of two and I'm just beside myself at the sacrifices that I'm having to make to raise two kids. If I'd known it was going to be this much work I would've had 1 child or none at all.
I've been telling most of my childless friends not to have kids (when they ask). DW overheard me saying that and
got mad and claimed that "I don't love our family". We had a spirited discussion and now she's giving me funny looks. But I can't be the only one that things having kids is way too much work and might not be worth it.

How did you not figure this out after kid 1? You are a slow learner.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say it again.. "most men should not have kids. They can't handle giving up their selfish lives".

I hope to god OP that your kids never find out. You're selfish, and love your life more than your children.

If I were your DW, I'd lose all respect for you. After the kids leave the house, I'd probably divorce you having lost respect for you.

This. My brother is the exact same way, as is my father. My brother constantly pawns his kids off on others becuase he's too busy looking at his phone or trying to hit up a bar. He expects my mother or me to feed them, do laundry, babysit, etc. all because he "has too much work". Note that I've been a working mom (atty) for 15 years now.

Some dads are really just selfish a-holes. I do believe in karma and what goes around comes around.

Where’s the baby momma?