My father put an AirTag in my car to track me

[Anonymous]

Havent read all the replies, but that is a HUGE violation of privacy. I'd be so pissed. Should have left the airtag at a jail or cemetary and not answer any calls for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is worried about you. It's not about trust. It's about his love and concern and protection of you. Yes, it crossed a line, but it was with good intentions.
Perhaps when you are a parent and love a child more than yourself, you will understand
Talk to him-

I’m a parent who loves my child more than life itself. I would never do that.

+1 Also a parent who is horrified by this behaviour. I probably not visit with your parents anywhere they have access to your stuff (eg your house or theirs) for a good long while.

[Anonymous]

This is legal stalking case, for all of the people defending the father in this story.

Stalking is difficult to prosecute, but document it anyway in case he escalates. He’s done it once, so it probably won’t be the last time, especially since your mom is enabling him.

Take this seriously. You are right to be alarmed. Listen to yourself.

[Anonymous]

If you're at his house, I would hide it in his jacket or his car. Someplace that is hard to find and get out.

I would also tell him that the next time that he does something like this, you'll report it to the police that he's stalking you.

[Anonymous]

I would possibly have put the air tag down and just walked out. Done.

[Anonymous]

Op are you still at your parents house? I’d probably go with your family to a hotel or Airbnb for the rest of the trip and potentially head home early. I wouldn’t leave today because of traffic but I might leave tomorrow unless your kid would be really disappointed to spend Thanksgiving on the road.

This is a gross violation. I wouldn’t be able to stay at their house again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's unaccceptable. You are a grown a$$ married adult and he's tracking you for safety??? I wonder if that's even legal.

You need some serious boundaries with him, quick, including keeping your car locked when you see him.

This is OP. The house where I live in the DMV only has street parking; I literally never leave my car unlocked. He either rooted through my backpack to find my keys, or I accidentally left them sitting out because I had to unlock the door on Sunday.

Well, given this, its clear he's trying to help you for when your car inevitably gets stolen.

Such BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll get this out of the way first:

-I am in my mid-30s
-I have a had stable employment since I was 22
-I don’t ask for or want anything from my parents, including money, because I don’t want to be beholden to them
-I am a responsible adult with a spouse and child
-I own the car in question and paid for it myself
-I live about 800 miles away from where my parents live

My dad has been asking me to share my location through my iPhone with him for years. I have always told him no and made it very that I will never agree to that in any way, shape, or form.

Cut to this year: I drove with my family to visit for Thanksgiving, arriving on Sunday. I got a notification on my phone on Monday that an AirTag was following me around. I thought it was weird, but ignored it. On Tuesday, I got another notification about it, this time with a map of all the places I had been.

This time, I went out to my car and started pinging the AirTag to find it. I had to get my husband to come help find it. When we finally dug it out, it was embedded with my spare in a place where you couldn’t claim that it just fell out of somebody’s pocket.

I did the “About this AirTag” thing and found that the last 4 digits of the cell number match my father’s phone number.

I am livid. He keeps saying it’s not big deal, and my mother keeps making excuses for him and says “oh, come on, he’s not all bad!”, which is what she’s been telling me my whole life.

I want to break off all contact at this point. I feel like since he got caught with the AirTag, he might try a more sophisticated tracking device next.

Your father is nuts. I suspect this isn't an isolated incident.

I would go no contact - at least for a period of time if for nothing else to demonstrate to him(and your mother(enabler)) what a violation this is. That will also serve to pull out how they react to you and he says.

[Anonymous]

I'm still not buying this story. The mom's "oh come one, he's not all bad." reply? The up half the night livid, trying to process the situation, and coming to DCUM to type it out rather than pick up and leave? Now worrying about a "more sophisticated tracking device?" Come on. This is written just to have fun getting the board worked up and start a lively thread. Nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm still not buying this story. The mom's "oh come one, he's not all bad." reply? The up half the night livid, trying to process the situation, and coming to DCUM to type it out rather than pick up and leave? Now worrying about a "more sophisticated tracking device?" Come on. This is written just to have fun getting the board worked up and start a lively thread. Nope.

Me neither.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm still not buying this story. The mom's "oh come one, he's not all bad." reply? The up half the night livid, trying to process the situation, and coming to DCUM to type it out rather than pick up and leave? Now worrying about a "more sophisticated tracking device?" Come on. This is written just to have fun getting the board worked up and start a lively thread. Nope.

and yet, here you are. SMH

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm still not buying this story. The mom's "oh come one, he's not all bad." reply? The up half the night livid, trying to process the situation, and coming to DCUM to type it out rather than pick up and leave? Now worrying about a "more sophisticated tracking device?" Come on. This is written just to have fun getting the board worked up and start a lively thread. Nope.

and yet, here you are. SMH

The "sophisticated tracking device" got me too.

[Anonymous]

You know what to do, OP.

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe you could get that much information from an AirTag that isn’t yours, ergo I don’t believe this story.

Troll score: 2. Demerits for bullshit details. But that’s what liars do — they overexplain.

I believe you can if it’s an Apple AirTag and you have an iPhone

Not OP, but it’s not just liars who overexplain. People who tell the truth but get questioned, doubted, not believed the first time around also tend to overexplain. ND people, racial minorities, people with foreign accents.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read all of the replies, but this is pretty much stalking. If you aren't a teenager living under his roof? Unacceptable boundary violation.

If it is part of a pattern, I'd probably be done. But I cut people off pretty easily.