My father put an AirTag in my car to track me

[Anonymous]

All of the boundary setting psychology advice says “boundaries are for you, not the other person.” You don’t ask the other person to stop doing x. Instead you say “I will not allow you to do X to me. And if this happens I will (state consequences).”
In this case the statement is: I will not allow you to conduct unauthorized surveillance on me and my family. Because you did this I am leaving.
Find a hotel with a good thanksgiving buffet and leave.

It is reasonable to have some absolute boundaries: surveillance, homophobia, racism, misogyny etc.

[Anonymous]

My mom was missing for a week after a car accident where her car flipped over and she was trapped inside. Nobody ever thinks it’s going to be them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so strange, especially since you are married with your own family.

…do they like your husband? Trust him?

I can’t imagine what he must be thinking about all of this, mine would be livid.

You know old people sit in the house all day and watch dateline. They do not like her husband. 😩😅

[Anonymous]

I don’t know how to react to this because I get that it’s your dad and very complicated.

If you were my friend, I would feel really bad for you and try to follow your lead.

But my actual personal advice would be to meet with the police to discuss it and understand your options as far as a restraining order or similar. At least know what’s on the table.

I have no idea if you should go no contact over it because he’s your dad and mine wouldn’t do this except in cognitive decline but I don’t think anyone reasonable could fault you for cutting him off if that’s what you decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe you could get that much information from an AirTag that isn’t yours, ergo I don’t believe this story.

Troll score: 2. Demerits for bullshit details. But that’s what liars do — they overexplain.

I believe you can if it’s an Apple AirTag and you have an iPhone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so strange, especially since you are married with your own family.

…do they like your husband? Trust him?

I can’t imagine what he must be thinking about all of this, mine would be livid.

You know old people sit in the house all day and watch dateline. They do not like her husband. 😩😅

I listen to dateline while I do housework and it DOES make me look at my husband a little differently!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe you could get that much information from an AirTag that isn’t yours, ergo I don’t believe this story.

Troll score: 2. Demerits for bullshit details. But that’s what liars do — they overexplain.

I believe you can if it’s an Apple AirTag and you have an iPhone

You can if they’ve tracked it in sync with your iPhone enough times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom was missing for a week after a car accident where her car flipped over and she was trapped inside. Nobody ever thinks it’s going to be them.

That sounds awful and I'm sorry that you lost her in this way.

In the OP's case, the father could advise her to buy an airtag for her car. He could even offer to pay for it. (I would not accept an airtag that HE bought)
Secretly installing an airtag on her car, putting it in a hidden spot and not telling her about it is not OK and not the sign of a caring parent.

[Anonymous]

I think your Dad watches too much Dateline.

[Anonymous]

Is your father bored? Why does he want to track you? There must be more to this story. Very strange family dynamics.

[Anonymous]

That's unaccceptable. You are a grown a$$ married adult and he's tracking you for safety??? I wonder if that's even legal.

You need some serious boundaries with him, quick, including keeping your car locked when you see him.

[Anonymous]

At what point do you think your dad was rooting around in your car to place the tag? How did he get in the car and how did you not notice him doing it?

[Anonymous]

Also, how do you know he's not following your husband? Whose car is it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This feels like a troll post.

I agree.
The OP posted at 6 a.m. on Wednesday. Says that on Monday and Tuesday there were air tag notifications. So "this time" she went out her car, brought her husband out to the car, they found it in the spare tire compartment. Then she traced the air tag to her father. All before 6 a.m. Wednesday and while it was still dark outside.
Since the OP mentions what happened on Monday and Tuesday with the air tag, I am going to assume that her reference to "this time" means today, Wednesday.
Apparently she has been very busy between midnight and 6 a.m. today.

Gosh OP. If you had just waited 2 or 3 hours to make your troll post I might have fallen for your ruse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe you could get that much information from an AirTag that isn’t yours, ergo I don’t believe this story.

Troll score: 2. Demerits for bullshit details. But that’s what liars do — they overexplain.

You are an idiot.