My father put an AirTag in my car to track me

[Anonymous]

Restraining order.

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Anonymous wrote:I would tape it under the seat of a city bus and watch him freak out.

Tape it to his wife's car

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Anonymous wrote:That's unaccceptable. You are a grown a$$ married adult and he's tracking you for safety??? I wonder if that's even legal.

You need some serious boundaries with him, quick, including keeping your car locked when you see him.

This is OP. The house where I live in the DMV only has street parking; I literally never leave my car unlocked. He either rooted through my backpack to find my keys, or I accidentally left them sitting out because I had to unlock the door on Sunday.

Well, given this, it’s clear he's trying to help you for when your car inevitably gets stolen.

I know you’re joking, but as I said before, who says I don’t have some tracking device in my car where he is unable to access my location?

Maybe he's worried you will be kidnapped as well during a car jacking.

So what? You can come up with a hundred more explanations. His reasoning is irrelevant. You don’t put a tracker on someone’s car without their permission. Period.

[Anonymous]

He is worried about you. It's not about trust. It's about his love and concern and protection of you. Yes, it crossed a line, but it was with good intentions.
Perhaps when you are a parent and love a child more than yourself, you will understand
Talk to him-

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Anonymous wrote:He is worried about you. It's not about trust. It's about his love and concern and protection of you. Yes, it crossed a line, but it was with good intentions.
Perhaps when you are a parent and love a child more than yourself, you will understand
Talk to him-

Okay, abuser.

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Anonymous wrote:That's unaccceptable. You are a grown a$$ married adult and he's tracking you for safety??? I wonder if that's even legal.

You need some serious boundaries with him, quick, including keeping your car locked when you see him.

This is OP. The house where I live in the DMV only has street parking; I literally never leave my car unlocked. He either rooted through my backpack to find my keys, or I accidentally left them sitting out because I had to unlock the door on Sunday.

Well, given this, it’s clear he's trying to help you for when your car inevitably gets stolen.

I know you’re joking, but as I said before, who says I don’t have some tracking device in my car where he is unable to access my location?

Maybe he's worried you will be kidnapped as well during a car jacking.

So what? You can come up with a hundred more explanations. His reasoning is irrelevant. You don’t put a tracker on someone’s car without their permission. Period.

So OP needs to pack up and leave. Why is she still there if this is such an outrage?

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My mother with untreated anxiety would definitely do something like this, given an opportunity. The boundary violation is about their mental illness not care or concern.

OP, I'd take a break, at minimum. Get some therapy yourself to unpack the family dysfunction, it goes well beyond this one event. Your mom is unlikely to go against him in old age, the bargain she struck is not going to change.

What was your husband's reaction?

We can't change other people, so that reality has to factor into future steps.

[Anonymous]

Are you still at your parents' home?

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange, especially since you are married with your own family.

…do they like your husband? Trust him?

I can’t imagine what he must be thinking about all of this, mine would be livid.

This.

Are you still celebrating Thanksgiving with them, OP? I would not. Do you have siblings?

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What is the parents' cultural background?

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Anonymous wrote:He is worried about you. It's not about trust. It's about his love and concern and protection of you. Yes, it crossed a line, but it was with good intentions.
Perhaps when you are a parent and love a child more than yourself, you will understand
Talk to him-

I’m a parent who loves my child more than life itself. I would never do that.

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Anonymous wrote:My dad is really similar to yours. Mine has mild OCD and possibly autistic as well. He drives us crazy locking doors and wanting to know where we are. He has to know all our flight numbers so he can track them.

There's a difference between asking for travel plans and surreptitiously putting an air tag in someone's car.

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Your mother sounds like my mother.

I’d just mail the AirTag back and grey rock them for a long time.

I was in a similar situation a few years ago. We were visiting my parents and I brought my computer with me. While I wasn’t using it, my father added a bunch of apps that I never use to it.

I removed them, but it took 30 minutes of my life that I will never get back, and my mother still claims he didn’t do it. It had to be him because the apps were all ones that no one else in my family uses but he uses daily. Blogs and media apps.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom was missing for a week after a car accident where her car flipped over and she was trapped inside. Nobody ever thinks it’s going to be them.

That sounds awful and I'm sorry that you lost her in this way.

In the OP's case, the father could advise her to buy an airtag for her car. He could even offer to pay for it. (I would not accept an airtag that HE bought)
Secretly installing an airtag on her car, putting it in a hidden spot and not telling her about it is not OK and not the sign of a caring parent.

Whoop! There it is.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t believe you could get that much information from an AirTag that isn’t yours, ergo I don’t believe this story.

Troll score: 2. Demerits for bullshit details. But that’s what liars do — they overexplain.

You can.