What leads grown women to post party photos on Instagram stories?

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Anonymous wrote:It would be good if more hosts asked their guests to not post party pics and video on social media. Not everything needs to be documented.

It would be a pretty interesting experiment to see if such a request would increase/decrease attendance and if guests would actually honor the request.

I don't think most people would care. People post party photos because they're cute, funny, etc.

Honestly I get feeling left out but truly, not everything is about you.

It's usually just people smiling. Nothing cute or funny about it. It's just "look at me" nothing else.

Great. If it's just people smiling then you shouldn't feel too left out.

I don't. But y'all aren't as cute and funny as you think you are.

???? Quite the assumption. I haven't posted a photo of myself to social media since 2018. My last post is in 2019 and it's a picture of a deer in my backyard lmfao. I just don't think a bunch of women who are probably drunk on mid-range wine are going out of their way to make me feel left out when they post a pic of themselves.

Well you assumed I felt left out. I don't. We can have different opinions on it. I think needing to post a pic to let everyone know you were at a party is weird and sad.

Right. And I'm saying that I am not convinced that's the reason every single person who posts pictures from a party does it. You don't know why they do it. To immediately attribute it to "Well they just wanted to let people know they were there" is bizarre.

Nobody has provided a single reason other than they think they look cute. Really, how lame. Seems like most people have gotten the message that this is tacky. I'm surprised there are still many people doing this at all still.

Okay but that is a reason! You say you want a reason, you're given a reason, and then you say "Well that's a lame reason!" I think my racist aunt and uncle's reason for voting for Trump in 2020 was lame, but that doesn't mean there's no reason they did it!

Automatically assuming the reason was "I just wanted everyone to know I was there and to be jealous that they weren't" is a bit of a stretch, is all I'm trying to say. Especially when in reality, the people who posted the Instagram stories of the party probably weren't even thinking of OP.

Maybe it really is just a generational thing, but I honestly think this is the whole point of social media, in so many words.

Then it isn't for you! And that's okay!

My last picture of me on Instagram is with my friend at a fun party she threw in winter of 2018. It's a picture of the two of us. I thought we looked cute. I didn't do it so that OP would see and feel left out. I just thought it was a cute picture.

DP, and you want other people to think you look cute too? Is that the idea?

“Look at us, see how cute we are”.

Not really. I was married at the time and so was she. It was just a cute picture of us. I wanted to put it on Instagram. It wasn't a big deal.

Why not just share with her? Did you have no way of just sending it to her?

DP, I’m guessing it’s so other people think it’s a recent picture. Look how cute we look. Without saying it was taken 5 years ago.

Wow, you really like assuming things. It was taken at a party that was held in 2018. I posted it the day after.

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Anonymous wrote:It would be good if more hosts asked their guests to not post party pics and video on social media. Not everything needs to be documented.

It would be a pretty interesting experiment to see if such a request would increase/decrease attendance and if guests would actually honor the request.

I don't think most people would care. People post party photos because they're cute, funny, etc.

Honestly I get feeling left out but truly, not everything is about you.

It's usually just people smiling. Nothing cute or funny about it. It's just "look at me" nothing else.

Great. If it's just people smiling then you shouldn't feel too left out.

I don't. But y'all aren't as cute and funny as you think you are.

???? Quite the assumption. I haven't posted a photo of myself to social media since 2018. My last post is in 2019 and it's a picture of a deer in my backyard lmfao. I just don't think a bunch of women who are probably drunk on mid-range wine are going out of their way to make me feel left out when they post a pic of themselves.

Well you assumed I felt left out. I don't. We can have different opinions on it. I think needing to post a pic to let everyone know you were at a party is weird and sad.

Right. And I'm saying that I am not convinced that's the reason every single person who posts pictures from a party does it. You don't know why they do it. To immediately attribute it to "Well they just wanted to let people know they were there" is bizarre.

Nobody has provided a single reason other than they think they look cute. Really, how lame. Seems like most people have gotten the message that this is tacky. I'm surprised there are still many people doing this at all still.

Okay but that is a reason! You say you want a reason, you're given a reason, and then you say "Well that's a lame reason!" I think my racist aunt and uncle's reason for voting for Trump in 2020 was lame, but that doesn't mean there's no reason they did it!

Automatically assuming the reason was "I just wanted everyone to know I was there and to be jealous that they weren't" is a bit of a stretch, is all I'm trying to say. Especially when in reality, the people who posted the Instagram stories of the party probably weren't even thinking of OP.

Maybe it really is just a generational thing, but I honestly think this is the whole point of social media, in so many words.

Then it isn't for you! And that's okay!

My last picture of me on Instagram is with my friend at a fun party she threw in winter of 2018. It's a picture of the two of us. I thought we looked cute. I didn't do it so that OP would see and feel left out. I just thought it was a cute picture.

DP, and you want other people to think you look cute too? Is that the idea?

“Look at us, see how cute we are”.

Not really. I was married at the time and so was she. It was just a cute picture of us. I wanted to put it on Instagram. It wasn't a big deal.

Okay, dear.

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OP is just discovering that females are vain, lol.

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Op the truth is she didn’t think about you seeing them at all. You’re not a factor for her. I know it sounds mean to say it that way but it’s true and it’s nicer than you thinking she posted them knowing you’d see them and wonder why you weren’t invited. She just didn’t think of you at all. She’s probably nice when you run into her because you’re just a regular person to her but clearly you’re not in her inner friendship circle and that is ok. You are acquaintances.

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Anonymous wrote:Op the truth is she didn’t think about you seeing them at all. You’re not a factor for her. I know it sounds mean to say it that way but it’s true and it’s nicer than you thinking she posted them knowing you’d see them and wonder why you weren’t invited. She just didn’t think of you at all. She’s probably nice when you run into her because you’re just a regular person to her but clearly you’re not in her inner friendship circle and that is ok. You are acquaintances.

Right. They don't think about others. We know. They are vain narcissists.

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I have two Instagram accounts: one where I follow people I know and post once in a while and another where I follow things that inspire me or make me laugh (pretty houses in Europe, historical stuff, museums).

My “inspirational” account isn’t going to make me feel left out. It’s interesting and fun. I know there are times when I do not want to be on the “personal” account. Like when everyone was going to the Eros tour. Not my jam and I didn’t have the $ anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Op the truth is she didn’t think about you seeing them at all. You’re not a factor for her. I know it sounds mean to say it that way but it’s true and it’s nicer than you thinking she posted them knowing you’d see them and wonder why you weren’t invited. She just didn’t think of you at all. She’s probably nice when you run into her because you’re just a regular person to her but clearly you’re not in her inner friendship circle and that is ok. You are acquaintances.

Right. They don't think about others. We know. They are vain narcissists.

Not thinking of every acquaintance every time you post makes you a vain narcissist? Holy drama.

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Anonymous wrote:So should people not post their wedding photos on Instagram? Because someone who wasn't invited - because weddings are expensive and not everyone can be invited - might see it? Really?

No one said anything about weddings, weirdo.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two Instagram accounts: one where I follow people I know and post once in a while and another where I follow things that inspire me or make me laugh (pretty houses in Europe, historical stuff, museums).

My “inspirational” account isn’t going to make me feel left out. It’s interesting and fun. I know there are times when I do not want to be on the “personal” account. Like when everyone was going to the Eros tour. Not my jam and I didn’t have the $ anyway.

I like this although I’ve just generally been much happier without social media. What was up with everyone bragging that they went to the Taylor Swift tour? Perfect confluence of $, “exclusive” tickets, and girl friends?

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Anonymous wrote:So should people not post their wedding photos on Instagram? Because someone who wasn't invited - because weddings are expensive and not everyone can be invited - might see it? Really?

Yes. And furthermore, it’s just as obvious to me that it is wrong to post such pictures as it is to you that it is right.

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People who think no one should post pictures of themselves to Instagram (isn’t that like the point of Instagram?) what do you think people should post? It has literally never occurred to me that I should be jealous of my friends hanging out with each other or other friends and not me when they post pictures of themselves doing fun things together. We can’t all be invited to everything and it’s great nice to see my friends having a good time.

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I don’t think anyone posting all the time on IG is having much fun. I don’t even think about my phone when I’m having fun. It’s not just the showing off, but the need to constantly share your location and activity with the world that makes me suspicious of these people. I’d stay away from anyone posting frequently on IG.

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Anonymous wrote:So should people not post their wedding photos on Instagram? Because someone who wasn't invited - because weddings are expensive and not everyone can be invited - might see it? Really?

Yes. And furthermore, it’s just as obvious to me that it is wrong to post such pictures as it is to you that it is right.

You sound beyond unhinged. Really? No one should post wedding pics? That sounds normal to you?

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Anonymous wrote:People who think no one should post pictures of themselves to Instagram (isn’t that like the point of Instagram?) what do you think people should post? It has literally never occurred to me that I should be jealous of my friends hanging out with each other or other friends and not me when they post pictures of themselves doing fun things together. We can’t all be invited to everything and it’s great nice to see my friends having a good time.

+1000. If you can’t handle seeing people’s events on social media, don’t participate in it.

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Anonymous wrote:People who think no one should post pictures of themselves to Instagram (isn’t that like the point of Instagram?) what do you think people should post? It has literally never occurred to me that I should be jealous of my friends hanging out with each other or other friends and not me when they post pictures of themselves doing fun things together. We can’t all be invited to everything and it’s great nice to see my friends having a good time.

Are you having a solo party of just 1? Because pretty sure that's not what any of this is about. It's always about the group events. Not your kid's high school graduation, your wedding, your new baby, etc. But when it's your kid's birthday party and you invited 4 of his 8 best friends and blasted it all over your social media knowing full well the other 4 kids might find out about it, then you're kind of a d!ck. See the difference?