What leads grown women to post party photos on Instagram stories?

[Anonymous]

I cant help but feel left out.
A friend in my neighborhood had what appeared to be a massive, catered soiree from another neighborhood friend. Many familiar faces appeared tagged in her "Stories," which started with shots of the setup and ended with the "Aftermath." Like a sap, I watched every clip, saw people I was friends with, and felt about 12 knowing I did not get an invite.

This woman isn't a jerk. She's nice and friendly. But what led her to post this? I cannot believe that she didn't know other non-guests would see it and feel a pang. What on earth? Please help me understand. I am an IG lurker but rarely post.

[Anonymous]

for another* neighborhood friend, not from.

[Anonymous]

Get off Instagram, OP.

I deliberately avoid grown arse adults who are on Instagram.

This isn't high school.

Grow up.

[Anonymous]

To indicate who is part of her tribe and who isn’t.

I read posts like this and even though we’re talking about grownups, my first thought is that I can’t believe parents let their teenagers participate in IG.

[Anonymous]

Her "tribe"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her "tribe"?

DP here. Those types use the "ride or die" phrase like it is going out of style, OP. You are not missing anything, trust me.

[Anonymous]

But what's the psychology behind flaunting who is in your tribe?

[Anonymous]

Who cares?

[Anonymous]

It is a way to communicate, stay connected, etc. You can always mute certain people's stories if you don't want to see them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Her "tribe"?

Yes. Social media is essentially digital tribalism.

[Anonymous]

OP you gotta get off Instagram. If you know looking at this kind of thing bothers you, stop looking at it.

This is like, me, who doesn’t like gore, asking why directors keep making slasher films if they know it will upset me. You’re in charge of your own media diet.

Do I think your friend is lame? A little bit, but I don’t spend time worried about other people’s hobbies. I just don’t look at the product if it’s not my thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But what's the psychology behind flaunting who is in your tribe?

For many people, it’s everything. Social capital. Judge me by the company I keep.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry you felt left out . That's hard.
People will say "oh, just stay off of Instagram", but it still sucks feeling like the odd woman out. Some people like to post pictures of parties, and that's cool if that's what they want to do. I don't think they're specifically trying to make me feel bad. They just like photos.

I've learned over the years to remind myself that I can't be invited to every event, just like I can't invite everyone to things that I host. I let it go, like water off a duck's back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP, I'm sorry you felt left out . That's hard.
People will say "oh, just stay off of Instagram", but it still sucks feeling like the odd woman out. Some people like to post pictures of parties, and that's cool if that's what they want to do. I don't think they're specifically trying to make me feel bad. They just like photos.

I've learned over the years to remind myself that I can't be invited to every event, just like I can't invite everyone to things that I host. I let it go, like water off a duck's back.

+1 well said PP. I do try to avoid instagram for these reasons and remind myself that I have a loving DH and darling DD which I had a wonderful weekend with too. Watching some bravo never hurt anyone too

[Anonymous]

Not everyone can be invited to everything. Words to live by.