Furious over Father's Day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s insane that a father is vacationing with all but 1 child no matter their age.

Your dad sucks, your siblings suck, your dads wife sucks.

No Father’s Day gift for you.

I’d call my dad and tell him how rude it was that he left you out.

Phone a friend and do something fun tgat day.

My husband’s family has an 18 year age spread. They definitely did things with the younger kids that older siblings who were off having jobs and kids of their own didn’t get invited on, just like they did things with the older kids before the younger ones were born.

As a parent you have different obligations to minors still living with you and adult children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s insane that a father is vacationing with all but 1 child no matter their age.

Your dad sucks, your siblings suck, your dads wife sucks.

No Father’s Day gift for you.

I’d call my dad and tell him how rude it was that he left you out.

Phone a friend and do something fun tgat day.

I agree. You dad, his wife and your siblings suck big time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP keeps posting variations of the same story every few months.

NP here. I agree, I have read different versions of this several times on here, but don't have time to do a search.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP keeps posting variations of the same story every few months.

NP here. I agree, I have read different versions of this several times on here, but don't have time to do a search.

Op here. This is only my second time posting about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I had a conversation with my dad back in December about me not feeling close to my dad as I think weshould. His response is that I am an adult now. I understand this, however he does not call or text to see how I am doing. I called him during the holidays and he wanted to know why I was calling(to wish him a Merry Christmas of course) and he it seemed like he just followed up with me out of courtesy and it took him a week to do so.
My sibling is having a college send off/grad party once they return from the cruise and I am thinking about canceling my plans to attend(as I was scheduled to stay with them for a week due to me living a plane ride away). I don't want to be in a place when I'm only wanted or needed for others convenience or to make them look good.

That's awful. You should point out that when the college aged kids are launched adults he will likely treat them much better and include them more. I would not expect much from this bad excuse for a dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I had a conversation with my dad back in December about me not feeling close to my dad as I think weshould. His response is that I am an adult now. I understand this, however he does not call or text to see how I am doing. I called him during the holidays and he wanted to know why I was calling(to wish him a Merry Christmas of course) and he it seemed like he just followed up with me out of courtesy and it took him a week to do so.
My sibling is having a college send off/grad party once they return from the cruise and I am thinking about canceling my plans to attend(as I was scheduled to stay with them for a week due to me living a plane ride away). I don't want to be in a place when I'm only wanted or needed for others convenience or to make them look good.

That's awful. You should point out that when the college aged kids are launched adults he will likely treat them much better and include them more. I would not expect much from this bad excuse for a dad.

OP its hurtful but he has written you off. My parents did the same. Even when I DID have small children they were like "you're an adult, you had them, you look after them - no we won't help out if you're in hospital"

Some parents are just stinkers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone has the right to go on a vacation with the people they’ll enjoy being around. Why would college age people have wanted you to hang out with them? You’d cramp their style.

These are my own siblings, not cousins for example. And people who I consider my immediate family. I just feel that if it is a Father's Day cruise, the father's oldest daughter should've been invited. After all, he wouldn't have been a father all these years(30), if it weren't for me.

It is rude and you have every right to feel hurt and left out

[Anonymous]

Sorry you are dealing with this OP. It sounds like your father is thoughtless at best, an a-hole at worst. Maybe do something on Father's Day to honor your stepfather, if you have a good relationship with him.

Are you the only child from the first marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would ask point blank my father why he didn't invite me on the cruise.

Becaese he's going with his family.

She is his family

They obviously don't think so. OP needs to detach. She's never going to have the realationship with him that she wants/needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry you are dealing with this OP. It sounds like your father is thoughtless at best, an a-hole at worst. Maybe do something on Father's Day to honor your stepfather, if you have a good relationship with him.

Are you the only child from the first marriage?

My biological parents never married each other, but I am the only child from their relationship(which was at young age, another reason why I feel unwanted). I feel like my dad did not want to be a parent, but my mom decided to go through with the pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Sending hugs OP.

Most dads seem to not include their first family, in my experience. Usually everything is arranged by the current wife. My cousins do more with their step-dad than their bio dad, who doesn't seem to care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry you are dealing with this OP. It sounds like your father is thoughtless at best, an a-hole at worst. Maybe do something on Father's Day to honor your stepfather, if you have a good relationship with him.

Are you the only child from the first marriage?

My biological parents never married each other, but I am the only child from their relationship(which was at young age, another reason why I feel unwanted). I feel like my dad did not want to be a parent, but my mom decided to go through with the pregnancy.

I think you posted here before.

You can’t change the way he/the rest of his new family feel about you. It doesn’t matter that things should be different, the fact is that they are not. It doesn’t seem you are a part of that family.

You have every right to be sad and angry, but you have to work on accepting things as they are so you can be as much at peace with your life as possible. Please find a therapist to help you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP keeps posting variations of the same story every few months.

NP here. I agree, I have read different versions of this several times on here, but don't have time to do a search.

Op here. This is only my second time posting about this.

what are you hoping to learn in this thread that you didn't already hear in the previous thread?

I am sincerely very sorry but it sounds like your father won't change and be the father you want. You need therapy to move forward. I wish that for you, and that you can find peace.

[Anonymous]

Sorry that this sucks, but this is really an issue between you and your dad. This has nothing to do with his other wife and kids. If you have an issue with it, that is something you should discuss with him and depending how that discussion goes, will tell you everything you need to know about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I had a conversation with my dad back in December about me not feeling close to my dad as I think weshould. His response is that I am an adult now. I understand this, however he does not call or text to see how I am doing. I called him during the holidays and he wanted to know why I was calling(to wish him a Merry Christmas of course) and he it seemed like he just followed up with me out of courtesy and it took him a week to do so.
My sibling is having a college send off/grad party once they return from the cruise and I am thinking about canceling my plans to attend(as I was scheduled to stay with them for a week due to me living a plane ride away). I don't want to be in a place when I'm only wanted or needed for others convenience or to make them look good.

I am so sorry. I had a similar situation with my family of origin (down to the fact that I was the only - in my case, extended - family member on a cruise), and it felt awful.