Furious over Father's Day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone has the right to go on a vacation with the people they’ll enjoy being around. Why would college age people have wanted you to hang out with them? You’d cramp their style.

These are my own siblings, not cousins for example. And people who I consider my immediate family. I just feel that if it is a Father's Day cruise, the father's oldest daughter should've been invited. After all, he wouldn't have been a father all these years(30), if it weren't for me.

Maybe being a father to you wasn’t great for him. Maybe he enjoys it more with your younger siblings. Maybe you’re high maintenance and he doesn’t want to deal with that on a cruise.

You're also a terrible person.

[Anonymous]

They are big into keeping up appearances, which has kinda screwed me up and is making this situation worse. They have the typically UMC lifestyle, siblings went to private, they have executive level jobs, etc. They boast about me to their friends, but I'm not feeling the equivalent amount of love in return.

Btw, I am seeing a therapist. I just wanted some different perspectives on this issue. Especially from anyone who may have experienced a similar situation.

[Anonymous]

I’ll never understand why people tie themselves in knots over Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. It’s one random Sunday in the year so card companies can make money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll never understand why people tie themselves in knots over Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. It’s one random Sunday in the year so card companies can make money.

You know it's not really about Mothers/Fathers Day, don't you? Being excluded any day is crushing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll never understand why people tie themselves in knots over Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. It’s one random Sunday in the year so card companies can make money.

You know it's not really about Mothers/Fathers Day, don't you? Being excluded any day is crushing.

This.

[Anonymous]

So they are your half siblings?
Are you the only child your father has from your mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So they are your half siblings?
Are you the only child your father has from your mom?

This is correct, yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So they are your half siblings?
Are you the only child your father has from your mom?

This is correct, yes

I am so sorry op. You dad is a piece of.....it totally sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, it’s not right to expect to be included. WTF.

Roman Roy has entered the chat.

[Anonymous]

They are in college. You are 30. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are in college. You are 30. Grow up.

DP. Just shut up.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of 30 year olds still behave and expect to be treated as kids. Its the new normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone has the right to go on a vacation with the people they’ll enjoy being around. Why would college age people have wanted you to hang out with them? You’d cramp their style.

These are my own siblings, not cousins for example. And people who I consider my immediate family. I just feel that if it is a Father's Day cruise, the father's oldest daughter should've been invited. After all, he wouldn't have been a father all these years(30), if it weren't for me.

Maybe being a father to you wasn’t great for him. Maybe he enjoys it more with your younger siblings. Maybe you’re high maintenance and he doesn’t want to deal with that on a cruise.

You're also a terrible person.

Unkind. Which equals unhappy, so maybe we should feel compassion but it’s hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone has the right to go on a vacation with the people they’ll enjoy being around. Why would college age people have wanted you to hang out with them? You’d cramp their style.

These are my own siblings, not cousins for example. And people who I consider my immediate family. I just feel that if it is a Father's Day cruise, the father's oldest daughter should've been invited. After all, he wouldn't have been a father all these years(30), if it weren't for me.

Maybe being a father to you wasn’t great for him. Maybe he enjoys it more with your younger siblings. Maybe you’re high maintenance and he doesn’t want to deal with that on a cruise.

You're also a terrible person.

Unkind. Which equals unhappy, so maybe we should feel compassion but it’s hard.

^meant to start with +1

[Anonymous]

I would blame the step mom. She doesn't like you because you're from another mother, her competition. And it was rude of her to post it on social media not thinking you would find out. He's married to her so he has to put up with it and act like they are one happy family. I assume these are your half siblings. Give the step mom a piece of your mind in front of the dad, or tell the dad and let him guilt trip her. But who would want to hang out with them now that you see what they are really like. I wouldn't blame the half siblings unless it was their idea.