My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You said she got ticked off. What exactly was her response? As a woman with tons of hair I hope she ripped you a new one…

Me: could start helping me clean before you leave

Her: okay? Where is this coming from?

Me: I came home from the gym and my house was a mess

Her: how so?

Me: I’m not trying to be a jerk if that’s what you’re thinking

Her: me either, just genuinely curious how I personally contributed to the mess.

Me: the floors…found hair everywhere
Me: Again, not being a jerk and I understand it’s not your house… but it questions me how it would be if we lived together


Her: wow okay. If I left hair on the floor then I apologize but to equate that to now you’re questioning how it would be living together is extremely reactionary, over the top, unnecessary, and hurtful.

Her: You spit in the kitchen sink, which is extremely unsanitary and have repeatedly asked you not to do that. Go check the inside of your microwave. Go check the condition of your tub - also, pointed out by your sister. I could go on but not once did I tell you “now I’m questioning how it would be to live together”. I’m with my parents right now. I’ll talk to you later.

Ewwwwww OP. You sound disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

100% exactly my reaction when I read this post. OP is a total joke. Hope his girlfriend dumps him quick.

as another man, let me say that the OP comes off as either a clown or an a-hole, probably both. She is doing the driving, having sex with you, cleaning up after herself, and presumably you enjoy her company and care about her. You seriously want her to give you free housekeeping too? Do you also want her to do your plumbing, cut your lawn, wash your car, give you tennis lessons, etc.? you can pay people to do all that stuff, which is what successful and normal people do!
But your question does make me think of an interesting business model - I wonder if there are escorts or fetish providers that would bundle their services with housekeeping? Back when I was single, I probably would have hired someone like that.

[Anonymous]

Hire a cleaner.

If my husband told me to start cleaning his apartment when we were dating, I would have been like WTF and not have married him.

We both had cleaners when we were dating. He had one for his place and I had one for mine.

I do think it is reasonable for your girlfriend to do the dishes. That’s about it.

I have been with my husband for 20 years and I never take out the trash. We still have housecleaners. He usually does the dishes and I do the laundry. We work.

[Anonymous]

Don't marry a slob.

[Anonymous]

You know she’s not ever coming back, right?

[Anonymous]

Op has to be trolling us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You said she got ticked off. What exactly was her response? As a woman with tons of hair I hope she ripped you a new one…

As a Mediterranean man with dark curly hair all over, I can itch it off all over someone’s house. I love marking my territory. It rolls around your house, bathroom and bedroom floors like tumbleweed. And loves to stick in socks.

Enjoy.

[Anonymous]

I’m always embarrassed for houseguests who leave hair around, pee dribbles on the toilet seat, clothes everywhere, and wet towels wadding up in the carpet.

They are not near nor tidy.

I also know they won’t be welcome back and will have a hard life with bad roommate/life habits like that. No gracias.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

The horror! Hair on the bathroom floor!

You know she's a female, right. That happens. Deal with it.
She should dump you.

Meh. I'm a woman and I clean my hair out of the shower every time I use it because why would my husband want to see that? I also would pick up hair on the bathroom floor that I saw because that's just gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

Have you ever spent significant time sharing a bathroom with a woman? Serious question. This is par for the course. My husband lives with 3 daughters and me, his wife, and has for 25 years but still talks about it.
He's a nice guy who doesn't think it's my role to clean (at all) but i can say this is a pet peeve.

I've had long hair the entire time I have been with my husband. Both of our daughters have long hair. I don't think there has been hair left around any of the bathrooms in our house for any period of time.

Do you expect your husband to wash the sink out when he shaves in it? I do. So I also expect myself to clean my hair up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

The horror! Hair on the bathroom floor!

You know she's a female, right. That happens. Deal with it.
She should dump you.

Meh. I'm a woman and I clean my hair out of the shower every time I use it because why would my husband want to see that? I also would pick up hair on the bathroom floor that I saw because that's just gross.

Thing is if it’s a single strand you probably wouldn’t have even seen it. That’s the issue here. The gf didn’t leave some giant mess. It was a stray hair on the floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only a maid can save this relationship.

It’s not worth saving.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

The horror! Hair on the bathroom floor!

You know she's a female, right. That happens. Deal with it.
She should dump you.

Meh. I'm a woman and I clean my hair out of the shower every time I use it because why would my husband want to see that? I also would pick up hair on the bathroom floor that I saw because that's just gross.

Thing is if it’s a single strand you probably wouldn’t have even seen it. That’s the issue here. The gf didn’t leave some giant mess. It was a stray hair on the floor.

That's actually not what OP said, but ok. Change the facts to fit your narrative.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

The horror! Hair on the bathroom floor!

You know she's a female, right. That happens. Deal with it.
She should dump you.

Meh. I'm a woman and I clean my hair out of the shower every time I use it because why would my husband want to see that? I also would pick up hair on the bathroom floor that I saw because that's just gross.

Thing is if it’s a single strand you probably wouldn’t have even seen it. That’s the issue here. The gf didn’t leave some giant mess. It was a stray hair on the floor.

That's actually not what OP said, but ok. Change the facts to fit your narrative.

NP, the issue is he is getting so worked up over hair. Nothing else, and apparently he likes to spit in the kitchen sink and his tub is disgusting so it’s not like he’s perfect. There’s going to be some things your partner does or doesn’t do to your standards as far as cleaning. OP didn’t say she was dirty, he’s only complaining about hair. If he can’t handle that then he needs to live alone.

[Anonymous]

If she doesn't break up with you, I'd be shocked. What a petty jerk you must be.