My girlfriend doesn’t clean when she’s here

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

Have you ever spent significant time sharing a bathroom with a woman? Serious question. This is par for the course. My husband lives with 3 daughters and me, his wife, and has for 25 years but still talks about it.
He's a nice guy who doesn't think it's my role to clean (at all) but i can say this is a pet peeve.

I've had long hair the entire time I have been with my husband. Both of our daughters have long hair. I don't think there has been hair left around any of the bathrooms in our house for any period of time.

Do you expect your husband to wash the sink out when he shaves in it? I do. So I also expect myself to clean my hair up.

Let's not forget that OP spits in the kitchen sink

[Anonymous]

My girlfriends with dark thick curly hair always clog the shower drain when they visit. One would clean or scour the drain out and out the hair was in the garbage, the other never did.

Dunt dunt duuhhhh

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

Have you ever spent significant time sharing a bathroom with a woman? Serious question. This is par for the course. My husband lives with 3 daughters and me, his wife, and has for 25 years but still talks about it.
He's a nice guy who doesn't think it's my role to clean (at all) but i can say this is a pet peeve.

I've had long hair the entire time I have been with my husband. Both of our daughters have long hair. I don't think there has been hair left around any of the bathrooms in our house for any period of time.

Do you expect your husband to wash the sink out when he shaves in it? I do. So I also expect myself to clean my hair up.

Let's not forget that OP spits in the kitchen sink

Doctors tell you to blow your know down the sink w the water running too. Used tissues are disgusting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

The horror! Hair on the bathroom floor!

You know she's a female, right. That happens. Deal with it.
She should dump you.

Meh. I'm a woman and I clean my hair out of the shower every time I use it because why would my husband want to see that? I also would pick up hair on the bathroom floor that I saw because that's just gross.

Good for you, but sometimes I miss a hair here or there. Maybe the woman brushed her hair in the bathroom and it slipped her mind to clean it up. It strikes me that apparently this is the first time the GF did something like that and then OP feels like he needs to have a come to Jesus talk about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

Have you ever spent significant time sharing a bathroom with a woman? Serious question. This is par for the course. My husband lives with 3 daughters and me, his wife, and has for 25 years but still talks about it.
He's a nice guy who doesn't think it's my role to clean (at all) but i can say this is a pet peeve.

I've had long hair the entire time I have been with my husband. Both of our daughters have long hair. I don't think there has been hair left around any of the bathrooms in our house for any period of time.

Do you expect your husband to wash the sink out when he shaves in it? I do. So I also expect myself to clean my hair up.

Let's not forget that OP spits in the kitchen sink

Doctors tell you to blow your know down the sink w the water running too. Used tissues are disgusting

In the kitchen sink?

[Anonymous]

Hair on the floor issue is inevitable, even when you are trying to keep things clean. Only good solution is to date bald people.

[Anonymous]

Clean freaks make great spouses if they don't mind cleaning your mess too. They make worst spouses if they want YOU to meet their impossible standards.

[Anonymous]

OP< you say she cleans after herself but then say she left hair on the floor ... Does she clean behind herself or not?

I don't think it's a big deal to check the floor after combing or brushing your hair. When I wash my hair in the shower, or anytime I shower, I always rinse the tub and shower liner down as a courtesy to whoever is using the shower after me.

It's not a big deal.

With that said, dude, she doesn't have to clean your place before she leaves! Just ask her to clean up behind herself.

Either way. This isn't going to work. You both sound awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever go and stay with her? And do you help her clean her place while you're there?

I think if you do that it's reasonable to ask for reciprocation. But, if she does all the traveling to you, and cleans up after herself, then you look like a douche asking her to clean up your place.

No she comes and stays with me. The reason why I brought it up is because I came home from the gym and there was hair on the bathroom floor. I told her I wasn’t trying to fight but it was making me question how it would be if we lived together.

Have you ever spent significant time sharing a bathroom with a woman? Serious question. This is par for the course. My husband lives with 3 daughters and me, his wife, and has for 25 years but still talks about it.
He's a nice guy who doesn't think it's my role to clean (at all) but i can say this is a pet peeve.

I've had long hair the entire time I have been with my husband. Both of our daughters have long hair. I don't think there has been hair left around any of the bathrooms in our house for any period of time.

Do you expect your husband to wash the sink out when he shaves in it? I do. So I also expect myself to clean my hair up.

You're lucky. My husband shaves in his sink, eventually clogs it, then moves over to my sink and doesn't clean up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP< you say she cleans after herself but then say she left hair on the floor ... Does she clean behind herself or not?

I don't think it's a big deal to check the floor after combing or brushing your hair. When I wash my hair in the shower, or anytime I shower, I always rinse the tub and shower liner down as a courtesy to whoever is using the shower after me.

It's not a big deal.

With that said, dude, she doesn't have to clean your place before she leaves! Just ask her to clean up behind herself.

Either way. This isn't going to work. You both sound awful.

How exactly does the gf sound awful?
Quite literally everyone here is saying YTA to OP and it’s rare we unanimously agree on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clean freaks make great spouses if they don't mind cleaning your mess too. They make worst spouses if they want YOU to meet their impossible standards.

The worst is when they don’t want to clean their own mess either.

[Anonymous]

I am a shedder. I have very long, thick hair and yes, it just comes out randomly. I can’t help it and never know it is happening. What do you expect someone to do about that?

[Anonymous]

Based on your exchange, I think you’re done.