Is this gross or am I prude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

This, exactly. In our minds, we will always lust after young women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

This, exactly. In our minds, we will always lust after young women.

Okay? That doesn’t mean I’m upset about my dropping so-called “market value.” That’s honestly of little interest to me, especially when we are talking about the value according to old 45+ guys. I didn’t want their attention at 21, I didn’t want it at 31, and I don’t know why I would want it at 41 or 51 either. I don’t crave the male gaze.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

This, exactly. In our minds, we will always lust after young women.

Okay? That doesn’t mean I’m upset about my dropping so-called “market value.” That’s honestly of little interest to me, especially when we are talking about the value according to old 45+ guys. I didn’t want their attention at 21, I didn’t want it at 31, and I don’t know why I would want it at 41 or 51 either. I don’t crave the male gaze.

Good it sounds like things worked out for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

This, exactly. In our minds, we will always lust after young women.

Okay? That doesn’t mean I’m upset about my dropping so-called “market value.” That’s honestly of little interest to me, especially when we are talking about the value according to old 45+ guys. I didn’t want their attention at 21, I didn’t want it at 31, and I don’t know why I would want it at 41 or 51 either. I don’t crave the male gaze.

Good it sounds like things worked out for you.

Absolutely did. I’m sure a factor was always being properly icked out by men looking for a hot piece of a$$ instead of a life partner. Girls I knew who really craved male approval, especially older male approval, seem to have had a rough time in the end.

[Anonymous]

The ageism in this thread is revolting.

Everyone is so closed minded and cringy!

[Anonymous]

Here is my take. I am a guy BTW (and not dating). Socially accepted age gap: 10 years of age. Upper limit (can be uncomfortable to some): 15 years.
20 years and above: gross as age gap approaches to parent and child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is my take. I am a guy BTW (and not dating). Socially accepted age gap: 10 years of age. Upper limit (can be uncomfortable to some): 15 years.
20 years and above: gross as age gap approaches to parent and child

The socially acceptable age gap is shrinking. Gen Z calls even a 32 yr old trying to hook up with a college student “grooming.” Obviously I think that’s silly but that’s the way things are moving.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't like it when I was 21, still don't like it now. Some.men are gross and creepy.

I’m in my 30s and I would still find it gross to get hit on by a guy over 45! Stay in your lane!

Now you're a prude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and sleep with college students all the time. I’ve gotten some nasty looks and comments when out, but don’t care in the slightest.

God, that’s sad. They’re using you for your money. Go ahead, lie and deny it, but it’s true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Say it out loud and cut the "treated them as well" crap! You're a sugar daddy. Her friends don't think you're gross, they think you're an idiot who doesn't know that the only bulge of his that matters is the bulge of his wallet.

No, not a sugar daddy. I know the difference. I don't spend much money on her, and don't give her any money. Her Christmas presents were about $125, and Valentine's presents will be under $100. She also gets me gifts.

When I said "treated well" I meant that I talk to her every day, listen to her, tell her about myself, and do things for her that require effort but don't cost any money.

Sure, Jan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Say it out loud and cut the "treated them as well" crap! You're a sugar daddy. Her friends don't think you're gross, they think you're an idiot who doesn't know that the only bulge of his that matters is the bulge of his wallet.

No, not a sugar daddy. I know the difference. I don't spend much money on her, and don't give her any money. Her Christmas presents were about $125, and Valentine's presents will be under $100. She also gets me gifts.

When I said "treated well" I meant that I talk to her every day, listen to her, tell her about myself, and do things for her that require effort but don't cost any money.

DP but 40s and find it significantly less expensive to date college age. Dinner at a medium budget place or Uber eats is the extent of it. Once paid the hotel for a weekend stay out of town. So the sugar daddy cope doesn’t fly. Sorry.

The only “cope” here (are you 16?) is you lying to yourself about why a 20-something is with you and pretending her friends don’t think think you’re a pathetic old man. They do. They may not say it or act that way to your face, but they really, really do. There’s some “cope” for you. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Say it out loud and cut the "treated them as well" crap! You're a sugar daddy. Her friends don't think you're gross, they think you're an idiot who doesn't know that the only bulge of his that matters is the bulge of his wallet.

No, not a sugar daddy. I know the difference. I don't spend much money on her, and don't give her any money. Her Christmas presents were about $125, and Valentine's presents will be under $100. She also gets me gifts.

When I said "treated well" I meant that I talk to her every day, listen to her, tell her about myself, and do things for her that require effort but don't cost any money.

DP but 40s and find it significantly less expensive to date college age. Dinner at a medium budget place or Uber eats is the extent of it. Once paid the hotel for a weekend stay out of town. So the sugar daddy cope doesn’t fly. Sorry.

The only “cope” here (are you 16?) is you lying to yourself about why a 20-something is with you and pretending her friends don’t think think you’re a pathetic old man. They do. They may not say it or act that way to your face, but they really, really do. There’s some “cope” for you. Sorry.

Yup. The only thing they’re jealous of is the wine & dine. But obviously they want a man their own age who does those things or they’d go find their own old men. They know how. They just have enough sense not to.

[Anonymous]

Obnoxious is obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and sleep with college students all the time. I’ve gotten some nasty looks and comments when out, but don’t care in the slightest.

God, that’s sad. They’re using you for your money. Go ahead, lie and deny it, but it’s true.

Honestly, you spend way less on dating them than women my age. For them, they’re extremely horny and find the idea of an attractive older guy really hot. They’re in an experimental phase of life and are figuring out what they do and don’t want. It probably helps that you’re outside of their friendship circle as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and sleep with college students all the time. I’ve gotten some nasty looks and comments when out, but don’t care in the slightest.

God, that’s sad. They’re using you for your money. Go ahead, lie and deny it, but it’s true.

Honestly, you spend way less on dating them than women my age. For them, they’re extremely horny and find the idea of an attractive older guy really hot. They’re in an experimental phase of life and are figuring out what they do and don’t want. It probably helps that you’re outside of their friendship circle as well.

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He's back! Hi, "45 And Dating College/Early 20s Women" poster. So they're horny and oh, so hot for older men now. And cheap dates, so you're no sugar daddy. You're just THAT hot.

Sure!

Either you've grotesquely preyed on the most emotionally vulnerable young women who want approval at all costs, even the cost of sleeping with your sad self, and who tragically believe you give a s**t about them as humans and not just as genitals,

OR you're just picking off the least choosy ones, who would be as happy to have sex with college guys as with you, but you're even easier to get into bed because you're panting with even more desperation than a 20-year-old guy.

Pathetic, either way. Though the first one is toxic evil, too.