Is this gross or am I prude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Say it out loud and cut the "treated them as well" crap! You're a sugar daddy. Her friends don't think you're gross, they think you're an idiot who doesn't know that the only bulge of his that matters is the bulge of his wallet.

No, not a sugar daddy. I know the difference. I don't spend much money on her, and don't give her any money. Her Christmas presents were about $125, and Valentine's presents will be under $100. She also gets me gifts.

When I said "treated well" I meant that I talk to her every day, listen to her, tell her about myself, and do things for her that require effort but don't cost any money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

If you really thought intergenerational love was wrong you'd be protesting in front of the French Embassy every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Say it out loud and cut the "treated them as well" crap! You're a sugar daddy. Her friends don't think you're gross, they think you're an idiot who doesn't know that the only bulge of his that matters is the bulge of his wallet.

No, not a sugar daddy. I know the difference. I don't spend much money on her, and don't give her any money. Her Christmas presents were about $125, and Valentine's presents will be under $100. She also gets me gifts.

When I said "treated well" I meant that I talk to her every day, listen to her, tell her about myself, and do things for her that require effort but don't cost any money.

DP but 40s and find it significantly less expensive to date college age. Dinner at a medium budget place or Uber eats is the extent of it. Once paid the hotel for a weekend stay out of town. So the sugar daddy cope doesn’t fly. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Say it out loud and cut the "treated them as well" crap! You're a sugar daddy. Her friends don't think you're gross, they think you're an idiot who doesn't know that the only bulge of his that matters is the bulge of his wallet.

No, not a sugar daddy. I know the difference. I don't spend much money on her, and don't give her any money. Her Christmas presents were about $125, and Valentine's presents will be under $100. She also gets me gifts.

When I said "treated well" I meant that I talk to her every day, listen to her, tell her about myself, and do things for her that require effort but don't cost any money.

DP but 40s and find it significantly less expensive to date college age. Dinner at a medium budget place or Uber eats is the extent of it. Once paid the hotel for a weekend stay out of town. So the sugar daddy cope doesn’t fly. Sorry.

I would say her photo in the studio! I am a mid 40s woman, currently dating a 41 y.o. ethnic man. He is a shadow multi-millionaire (runs a coding business with multiple employees from his home), makes around $3mm/year. He gave me Tesla Model X for Christmas. I make 350K/year, $4mm net worth. This is how he treats his women (also paid for medical school of his exW)

[Anonymous]

So many dcumers are worse than Utahns omg........

[Anonymous]

It's gross if they're openly ogling, drooling, cat calling, etc. The best men check women out without being overtly pervy. They're all parvs, the good ones keep it subtle.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40 year old woman and if I see a young 20 something year old actor, I can appreciate that he is good looking and handsome but I don’t find them attractive in a sexual way. All that to say, I’m probably super weird or it’s a difference between males/females.

I was trying to say this same thing. Late 40s.

Same here - I appreciate that they are good looking but I don't feel an attraction. I just don't want to have sex with a 20yo. I think this might be different between men and women though

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's gross to be attracted but I think it's gross to act on it. I don't think it should be illegal or anything but I definitely judge the older person in that situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40 year old woman and if I see a young 20 something year old actor, I can appreciate that he is good looking and handsome but I don’t find them attractive in a sexual way. All that to say, I’m probably super weird or it’s a difference between males/females.

I was trying to say this same thing. Late 40s.

Same here - I appreciate that they are good looking but I don't feel an attraction. I just don't want to have sex with a 20yo. I think this might be different between men and women though

Agree - as a woman in my 40th I only find sexually attractive 40-early 50s men. Even slightly under 40s make him look like a happy silly puppy to me. Never saw under 40s mature men!
Interestingly, when I was in my 20s I dated exact same age range (relative my own age), e.g. up to 10 years older (and NOT younger than myself)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Yes they do. They are just discrete.

Dude when I was in my mid30s I had a friend dating a guy in his mid50s and there was no question she was only interested in what he could do for her materially and in fact he ended up paying for her IVF to become a SMBC before they broke up. He was LOADED and actually, nice, smart, hugely successful (big law) and she was a gorgeous jr lawyer. But lemme tell you, not for a second would she take him seriously as a relationship bc she didn’t want to deal w his health issues, and she really did have serious daddy issues (funnily enough he also had mommy issues). Anyway we were all polite enough and I though he was fine and all but it was never going anywhere from her perspective.

[Anonymous]

This is worse than Trumpland

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many dcumers are worse than Utahns omg........

This!

So opinionated and super judgy.

[Anonymous]

Celebrities - fine
Neighbors- eww

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was 26 I had a fling with a recently separated 43 yo man. He was attractive, wealthy, and doted over me. Honestly, the best physical relationship I’ve ever been in (late 30s now, married for 10 years). He was so into pleasing my every need which was opposite men of my age at the time who were all fairly selfish in bed. It made me realize what I wanted/needed from a sexual partner.

White woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was 26 I had a fling with a recently separated 43 yo man. He was attractive, wealthy, and doted over me. Honestly, the best physical relationship I’ve ever been in (late 30s now, married for 10 years). He was so into pleasing my every need which was opposite men of my age at the time who were all fairly selfish in bed. It made me realize what I wanted/needed from a sexual partner.

White woman?

Great question.

Everything depends on the answer.