Is this gross or am I prude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Say it out loud and cut the "treated them as well" crap! You're a sugar daddy. Her friends don't think you're gross, they think you're an idiot who doesn't know that the only bulge of his that matters is the bulge of his wallet.

[Anonymous]

I had a customer in his 90s, we were talking on his porch and he mentioned that a widow was moving in next-door, I asked how old she was and he said 75, I made a joke like…hey girlfriend possibility, right? He said “yuck, my eyes are still 21”; up to that point I had never really thought about what is attractive when you’re older, I just assumed that as you got older the physical attributes you enjoy would of course be older but according to my customer not so much.


You didn’t really clarify what drooling was, is it a glance or is this person staring and taking pictures with his iPhone?

I don’t think prude is the right word for you but not being able to appreciate beauty when you see it is a little strange. I’m 50 and when I was 21 I don’t think I could appreciate a 50 year old woman but now that I’m here I can appreciate beauty from 70+ all the way down to 21.

[Anonymous]

I find it gross. I'm not quite 40 yet and 21 year olds just seem so young and childlike to me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a customer in his 90s, we were talking on his porch and he mentioned that a widow was moving in next-door, I asked how old she was and he said 75, I made a joke like…hey girlfriend possibility, right? He said “yuck, my eyes are still 21”; up to that point I had never really thought about what is attractive when you’re older, I just assumed that as you got older the physical attributes you enjoy would of course be older but according to my customer not so much.


You didn’t really clarify what drooling was, is it a glance or is this person staring and taking pictures with his iPhone?

I don’t think prude is the right word for you but not being able to appreciate beauty when you see it is a little strange. I’m 50 and when I was 21 I don’t think I could appreciate a 50 year old woman but now that I’m here I can appreciate beauty from 70+ all the way down to 21.

Kind of an interesting comment. You have to intentionally misread the OP to say that her distaste for someone "drooling over" someone demonstrates an inability to "appreciate beauty" but don't seem to realize that your client was the one doing that with his childish comment, while still trying to distance yourself from his POV. Pretzel-like, even.

[Anonymous]

I am wondering about the gender divide here. How many women are interested in men 20-30 years younger vs men interested in 20/30 years younger women?

I'm F. 52 and hereto. I am not attracted to men under early 40s. I can look at a 25 year old man (boy) and appreciate beauty (just as I can a 25 year old woman), but I would not at all be interested in or comfortable in a romantic or sexual relationship with someone more than a decade younger. I used to exclusively date my age or older, but now I suppose my range (if I were dating, Im married and faithful!) would be 10 years up or down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a customer in his 90s, we were talking on his porch and he mentioned that a widow was moving in next-door, I asked how old she was and he said 75, I made a joke like…hey girlfriend possibility, right? He said “yuck, my eyes are still 21”; up to that point I had never really thought about what is attractive when you’re older, I just assumed that as you got older the physical attributes you enjoy would of course be older but according to my customer not so much.


You didn’t really clarify what drooling was, is it a glance or is this person staring and taking pictures with his iPhone?

I don’t think prude is the right word for you but not being able to appreciate beauty when you see it is a little strange. I’m 50 and when I was 21 I don’t think I could appreciate a 50 year old woman but now that I’m here I can appreciate beauty from 70+ all the way down to 21.

Kind of an interesting comment. You have to intentionally misread the OP to say that her distaste for someone "drooling over" someone demonstrates an inability to "appreciate beauty" but don't seem to realize that your client was the one doing that with his childish comment, while still trying to distance yourself from his POV. Pretzel-like, even.

I did my best, she never really said what the drooling was.
And a pretzel sounds pretty good right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Yes they do. They are just discrete.

*discreet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Yes they do. They are just discrete.

*discreet

Unless his girlfriend is friends with Abby and Brittany Hensel they're probably also discrete.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

My mom lives in a senior apartment complex; she is 89. She volunteers in their thrift shop.

In the back room, the ladies have a topples pin up poster of David Hasselhoff.

Yes OP - you are a prude, and really REALLY out of touch with how people age. THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE, YOU PRUDE!

If my workplace had that, it's a clear sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen.

Meh.

My reaction was: you ladies are awesome! There are very few men around by the time you move into senior living.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

You're a prude.

It is only natural to have sex with as many people as possible. Don't be a conservative prude.

[Anonymous]

normal. I find the 18 or 21 year olds insanely good looking. But lacking in any sort of emotional and cultural connection to me, a 52 year old. We live in differerent worlds.

[Anonymous]

F%cking is great. Don't be an agesist or a sexist.

[Anonymous]

It’s an interesting question.

My college aged child was talking about how creepy it is when seniors or grad students end up at a party with freshman.

Some of the girls are 17 or even 18 and 22/23 is creepy.

Not to mention 17 and 23 might be illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
F%cking is great. Don't be an agesist or a sexist.

It’s not always great

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
F%cking is great. Don't be an agesist or a sexist.

It’s not always great

True. Freedom rules.

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