Is this gross or am I prude?

[Anonymous]

Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

[Anonymous]

It's entirely normal biologically, not so acceptable culturally.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the context. I don't see anything wrong with a 45-year-old admiring a 21-year-old aesthetically (e.g. saying they're hot, whatever) if that's what you mean by drooling over. If you mean flirting/hitting on them in real life, I think that's a bit gross. Although maybe I'm also a prude.

[Anonymous]

Attracted is not gross, drooling over is. By 45 you should know how not to leer or say inappropriate things just because your interest is engaged. Are young people sexually attractive? Yes. Should old people trumpet their attraction to them in public in a misguided attempt to prove they're still sexual beings? No.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s fine. It’s biology. Kind of awkward to do it publicly but I don’t think it’s odd at all that a 45 year old man could find a 21 year old hot.

[Anonymous]

I'm not in my late 40s yet, but I'm definitely attracted to 21 year olds. I don't anticipate that changing in the next 5 years (or ever honestly). I don't drool over them to other 40 year olds because that's creepy, but I also don't drool over anyone publicly because that's creepy no matter the age. My spouse and I will talk about what local moms we think are hot, but only in the privacy of our home.

[Anonymous]

I’m a 40 year old woman and if I see a young 20 something year old actor, I can appreciate that he is good looking and handsome but I don’t find them attractive in a sexual way. All that to say, I’m probably super weird or it’s a difference between males/females.

[Anonymous]

When I was 26 I had a fling with a recently separated 43 yo man. He was attractive, wealthy, and doted over me. Honestly, the best physical relationship I’ve ever been in (late 30s now, married for 10 years). He was so into pleasing my every need which was opposite men of my age at the time who were all fairly selfish in bed. It made me realize what I wanted/needed from a sexual partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

My mom lives in a senior apartment complex; she is 89. She volunteers in their thrift shop.

In the back room, the ladies have a topples pin up poster of David Hasselhoff.

Yes OP - you are a prude, and really REALLY out of touch with how people age. THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE, YOU PRUDE!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

Market value? OP is a human being, not a product/service. Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s fine. It’s biology. Kind of awkward to do it publicly but I don’t think it’s odd at all that a 45 year old man could find a 21 year old hot.

Just a man finding a 21-year-old hot?

I’m in my late 30s and live in a college town. Do I think the college kids are cute? Yes. In no universe would I be remotely interested in knowing them or having sex with them.

I find people my own age - some a bit younger (down to late twenties) some older (to mid-fifties) to be attractive in a resonant way. Like, in a, gosh, I wonder what it would be like to sleep with that person kind of way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

This has to be written by a man because it's exactly backwards. Not OP but when older women are bothered watching old men hit on young women, it's not because we miss the "high value" days of our youth when old creeps hit on us, it's because we remember how uncomfortable that made us when we didn't yet know how to navigate shutting it down. Nobody is jealous of the compliments from 45+ men who think college students want to hear about how they find them hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

My mom lives in a senior apartment complex; she is 89. She volunteers in their thrift shop.

In the back room, the ladies have a topples pin up poster of David Hasselhoff.

Yes OP - you are a prude, and really REALLY out of touch with how people age. THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE, YOU PRUDE!

If my workplace had that, it's a clear sexual harassment lawsuit waiting to happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40 year old woman and if I see a young 20 something year old actor, I can appreciate that he is good looking and handsome but I don’t find them attractive in a sexual way. All that to say, I’m probably super weird or it’s a difference between males/females.

I was trying to say this same thing. Late 40s.