Is this gross or am I prude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

My mom lives in a senior apartment complex; she is 89. She volunteers in their thrift shop.

In the back room, the ladies have a topples pin up poster of David Hasselhoff.

Yes OP - you are a prude, and really REALLY out of touch with how people age. THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE, YOU PRUDE!

Gross

[Anonymous]

I mean it’s a little creepy and validly so. My dad had me in his early 20s and so when I was 20 he was in his 40’s and so were his friends. If any of his friends looked at me in THAT way it absolutely would have creeped me out. Then again when I was 20 I worked as a hostess at a fine seafood restaurant and plenty of 40 something men flirted, sometimes ogled at me. I didn’t care and just rolled my eyes.

It’s creepy because it is a generational difference and it can remind someone of scenarios like ones dads friend eyeing the daughter, or like your DH’s friends eyeing YOUR kid.

I don’t think that makes someone a prude. We are just human. It also doesn’t mean there aren’t great marriages/partnerships with a big age gap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is worse than Trumpland

Agree completely.

The people of DCUMAD are appointing themselves the judges and deciding whether to accept how other adults choose between themselves how to love.

Should “we” allow inter-generational love? Should we condemn it? Judge it?



You people are disgusting!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was 26 I had a fling with a recently separated 43 yo man. He was attractive, wealthy, and doted over me. Honestly, the best physical relationship I’ve ever been in (late 30s now, married for 10 years). He was so into pleasing my every need which was opposite men of my age at the time who were all fairly selfish in bed. It made me realize what I wanted/needed from a sexual partner.

White woman?

Yes, we were both white. In the end it ran its course bc of the age difference, but it was great while it lasted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Yes they do. They are just discrete.

Dude when I was in my mid30s I had a friend dating a guy in his mid50s and there was no question she was only interested in what he could do for her materially and in fact he ended up paying for her IVF to become a SMBC before they broke up. He was LOADED and actually, nice, smart, hugely successful (big law) and she was a gorgeous jr lawyer. But lemme tell you, not for a second would she take him seriously as a relationship bc she didn’t want to deal w his health issues, and she really did have serious daddy issues (funnily enough he also had mommy issues). Anyway we were all polite enough and I though he was fine and all but it was never going anywhere from her perspective.

It doesn’t need to go anywhere to be enjoyable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So many dcumers are worse than Utahns omg........

This!

So opinionated and super judgy.

You just defined all of DCUM, every day!

So what's the big deal? Yeah, I'm judging the perviness and ego stroking of any man who is drooling over a woman young enough to be his daughter. I own the judgement. Sorry you can't handle this opinionated, judgy site!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

I thought it was gross when I was 21 and I think it’s gross now.

[Anonymous]

Didn't like it when I was 21, still don't like it now. Some.men are gross and creepy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Didn't like it when I was 21, still don't like it now. Some.men are gross and creepy.

I’m in my 30s and I would still find it gross to get hit on by a guy over 45! Stay in your lane!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

I can't believe people's responses to this post. I had no idea we had so many lechers.

I think it's gross too op. When spouse and I bought our first house we had nice older neighbors we liked a lot. They were in their mid 50s. I saw the husband openly ogling another neighbor's 19 year old daughter while he was standing at their curb. It was gross and inappropriate and was a kind of stare and motion that would make most women uncomfortable. I made a noise so he'd know I was there and saw him but he didn't stop. I never looked at him the same. Their kids went to high school together. I knew her and knew she was very shy. I never got over it with him and found out later he had cheated on his wife several times. The ogling is selfish. It does nothing positive for the young person. It often can be aggressive. In my case this guy made the young girl uncomfortable. He didn't care. These are not good guys. I would feel the same way toward an older woman doing this to a young man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and sleep with college students all the time. I’ve gotten some nasty looks and comments when out, but don’t care in the slightest.

Loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

You lie to yourself. Her friends definitely think you're gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

My mom lives in a senior apartment complex; she is 89. She volunteers in their thrift shop.

In the back room, the ladies have a topples pin up poster of David Hasselhoff.

Yes OP - you are a prude, and really REALLY out of touch with how people age. THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE, YOU PRUDE!

Gross

The poster is actually cute and can be funny. People are talking about lechers who do more than put up a poster. If you interact in any way that the younger person sees the ogling or drooling, that is gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

Speak for yourself, PP...