Is this gross or am I prude?

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Why do you even care about this? Is so little going on in your life that you have to get all worked up about what other people are doing?

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I’m 45 and sleep with college students all the time. I’ve gotten some nasty looks and comments when out, but don’t care in the slightest.

[Anonymous]

21 is actually too young. I like 27 year old women. My last three AP have been 26, 27 and 29.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was 26 I had a fling with a recently separated 43 yo man. He was attractive, wealthy, and doted over me. Honestly, the best physical relationship I’ve ever been in (late 30s now, married for 10 years). He was so into pleasing my every need which was opposite men of my age at the time who were all fairly selfish in bed. It made me realize what I wanted/needed from a sexual partner.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not in my late 40s yet, but I'm definitely attracted to 21 year olds. I don't anticipate that changing in the next 5 years (or ever honestly). I don't drool over them to other 40 year olds because that's creepy, but I also don't drool over anyone publicly because that's creepy no matter the age. My spouse and I will talk about what local moms we think are hot, but only in the privacy of our home.

If hetero, do you also talk about local dads who your think are hot?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you're not a prude. You're just recognizing that your market value has dropped and (naturally) you don't like it.

Sounds like you are judging enough to post this on the internet to get backup.

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Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it really gross and uncomfortable when someone over 45, man or woman, is drooling over a 21 year old?

Or am I just a prude? I’m not judging, it’s just that I can’t imagine being attracted to someone that age when I’m in my late 40s.

I don't know any men or women who do this that I have heard--who do you know that "drools" right there in front of other adults? Are your friends going out with you and ogling early-20s people you see out in public when together getting a meal, or do you go to the gym and talk to acquaintances there who then are making lecherous comments about people this age they see working out?

I can't imagine any of my friends, male or female, voicing stuff like that in front of me or anyone else. What people think or feel attracted to is one thing; everyone's got their inner, personal attractions. But saying middle-aged-lecher stuff I'd class as "drooling," out loud to another person? Extremely gross and ill-mannered. Attraction aside, the expression of it is gross.

As for the feelings themselves? Speaking for just myself, I'm like you. I see them as kids, not as adults to think of sexually. I'm in my 50s. I have a 21-year-old college student kid, so maybe that influences it, but when I look at the cute kids or even the super fit, athletically built ones on DC's college campus, my response is "Aw, super cute, would make a good date for my DC" or whatever. They're children to me. I think I'd feel the same, though, even if I didn't have a DC that age. I am attracted much more to IRL people I see, or celebrities in photos or actors in roles etc., when they're in their 30s upward. I want them to look and act like adults, to be honest, for me to feel any attraction.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not in my late 40s yet, but I'm definitely attracted to 21 year olds. I don't anticipate that changing in the next 5 years (or ever honestly). I don't drool over them to other 40 year olds because that's creepy, but I also don't drool over anyone publicly because that's creepy no matter the age. My spouse and I will talk about what local moms we think are hot, but only in the privacy of our home.

If hetero, do you also talk about local dads who your think are hot?

We're not both hetero and women are our point of overlap.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40 year old woman and if I see a young 20 something year old actor, I can appreciate that he is good looking and handsome but I don’t find them attractive in a sexual way. All that to say, I’m probably super weird or it’s a difference between males/females.

DP, not the OP, but I"m sorry you chose to dismiss your own feelings as "probably super weird." Nope, it's not weird at all to see people this age as objectively good-looking but not be attracted to them sexually. It's actually just you being age-appropriate and mature, and knowing what you like. Own it, don't dismiss it as somehow weird or uncool.

[Anonymous]

It completely creeps me out.

I can’t watch teen sex, like in Bridgeton. It’s literally child porn to me.

[Anonymous]

You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're a prude. I'm mid-50s, dating a mid-20s woman. Her friends don't think I'm gross, they wish their boyfriends treated them as well as I treat her.

Yes they do. They are just discrete.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 45 and sleep with college students all the time. I’ve gotten some nasty looks and comments when out, but don’t care in the slightest.

Aw, it's "Mid 40s Guy Who Screws College Girls" back again! I've seen this braggart on other threads here over time.
Don't try to swan in here and claim you are, aha!, a 45-year-old woman going out with college guys. Or college women, for that matter. You're a man and no one really buys that you screw college women "all the time." Oh, we know that women that age can and do have sex with men your age, but those men don't come on DCUM to drop their brags into threads here.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40 year old woman and if I see a young 20 something year old actor, I can appreciate that he is good looking and handsome but I don’t find them attractive in a sexual way. All that to say, I’m probably super weird or it’s a difference between males/females.

DP, not the OP, but I"m sorry you chose to dismiss your own feelings as "probably super weird." Nope, it's not weird at all to see people this age as objectively good-looking but not be attracted to them sexually. It's actually just you being age-appropriate and mature, and knowing what you like. Own it, don't dismiss it as somehow weird or uncool.

I really appreciate that. I didn’t realize I was putting myself down. Thank you, kind stranger.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not in my late 40s yet, but I'm definitely attracted to 21 year olds. I don't anticipate that changing in the next 5 years (or ever honestly). I don't drool over them to other 40 year olds because that's creepy, but I also don't drool over anyone publicly because that's creepy no matter the age. My spouse and I will talk about what local moms we think are hot, but only in the privacy of our home.

If hetero, do you also talk about local dads who your think are hot?

NP. I definitely talk to my DH about the neighborhood hot dads. Which sadly aren’t many.