Is it weird to ask to wear protection?

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

Are you okay? You are not doing yourself any favors when you try to defend yourself. Your numerous statements that indicate you have relationship issues.
-NP

I think it is rude when people hurl insults. I don't have "relationship issues." Again, rude and ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

NP Your kids will never meet any, you bounce around men just got sex? This is immature and reckless at your age.

I do not count having two boyfriends in 4 years bouncing around. Not immature in the least. I have a separate private life. Better for kids.

They are not boyfriends.

Exclusively monogamous is a boyfriend. A boyfriend does not have to lead to a serious relationship or marriage.

Mmmmm, exclusively monogamous boyfriend, yet earlier post you said you get tested. Suurrre!

I get tested before I get a new boyfriend! Hello! If one relationship ends, I get tested before another. What about this do you not understand?

So then your relationship with the old “boyfriend” was not monogamous after all.

What? I get tested when I am with a new partner no matter what--it is about their past--not while they are with me, silly. I have always done this. You know HPV can show up years later on a pap smear, right? and you would have no idea where you got it.

You test and then you contradict yourself in saying std doesn’t show up for years and you never know from whom.

[Anonymous]

Guy here - I absolutely want to wear one unless we're exclusive and tested. Not for oral though. That just doesn't work for me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Resisting condom use is a full stop end of the line. Even if he agrees, how do you know he won’t try a stealth bareback at your expense?

+1
Dump immediately

Absolutely. This is a deal breaker.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

Yes, you’ve got issues.

[Anonymous]

Can everyone please ignore the slut-shaming troll on this thread?

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

NP Your kids will never meet any, you bounce around men just got sex? This is immature and reckless at your age.

I do not count having two boyfriends in 4 years bouncing around. Not immature in the least. I have a separate private life. Better for kids.

They are not boyfriends.

Exclusively monogamous is a boyfriend. A boyfriend does not have to lead to a serious relationship or marriage.

Mmmmm, exclusively monogamous boyfriend, yet earlier post you said you get tested. Suurrre!

I get tested before I get a new boyfriend! Hello! If one relationship ends, I get tested before another. What about this do you not understand?

So then your relationship with the old “boyfriend” was not monogamous after all.

What? I get tested when I am with a new partner no matter what--it is about their past--not while they are with me, silly. I have always done this. You know HPV can show up years later on a pap smear, right? and you would have no idea where you got it.

You test and then you contradict yourself in saying std doesn’t show up for years and you never know from whom.

You need to learn about HPV--the most common STD in the United States. More than 50 percent of people have it and it can take years to show up, if it ever does, on a pap smear. While i am at it, if I have been with someone, I get to full test workup at my annual appointment. It is just being safe. That's it. You people are nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

NP Your kids will never meet any, you bounce around men just got sex? This is immature and reckless at your age.

I do not count having two boyfriends in 4 years bouncing around. Not immature in the least. I have a separate private life. Better for kids.

They are not boyfriends.

Exclusively monogamous is a boyfriend. A boyfriend does not have to lead to a serious relationship or marriage.

Mmmmm, exclusively monogamous boyfriend, yet earlier post you said you get tested. Suurrre!

I get tested before I get a new boyfriend! Hello! If one relationship ends, I get tested before another. What about this do you not understand?

So then your relationship with the old “boyfriend” was not monogamous after all.

What? I get tested when I am with a new partner no matter what--it is about their past--not while they are with me, silly. I have always done this. You know HPV can show up years later on a pap smear, right? and you would have no idea where you got it.

You test and then you contradict yourself in saying std doesn’t show up for years and you never know from whom.

You need to learn about HPV--the most common STD in the United States. More than 50 percent of people have it and it can take years to show up, if it ever does, on a pap smear. While i am at it, if I have been with someone, I get to full test workup at my annual appointment. It is just being safe. That's it. You people are nuts.

It can cause cancer and men cannot be tested for it. It also is often 'symptomless'. So it is a walking time bomb for these middle aged people that were too old to get the vaccine.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

Are you okay? You are not doing yourself any favors when you try to defend yourself. Your numerous statements that indicate you have relationship issues.
-NP

I think it is rude when people hurl insults. I don't have "relationship issues." Again, rude and ridiculous.

Not insulting, just an observation. It’s clear you are fragile and not functioning with a healthy mind in the way you approach/define intimate relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can everyone please ignore the slut-shaming troll on this thread?

Banging people you just met off the Internet bareback is not slut-shaming. It's calling someone out on their idiocy and recklessness.

OP- is smart to insist on protection.

Anybody that takes anyone's "word" on test results or 'vasectomy/tubes tied/inability to get pregnant' is really, really naïve and plain stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can everyone please ignore the slut-shaming troll on this thread?

Are you the one who called people retards and fags in earlier post?

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

I had the same question.