Men do you care if your wives are average looking after babies and many years of marriage?

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Anonymous wrote:140 lbs, mom body, hips, boobs, small muffin top, small belly is my ideal look. Definitely will take notice more of that body than a yoga mom.

Wait is this sarcastic? I have waiting for years for the "mom bod" to come into fashion. Is it happening??

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Anonymous wrote:140 lbs, mom body, hips, boobs, small muffin top, small belly is my ideal look. Definitely will take notice more of that body than a yoga mom.

Wait is this sarcastic? I have waiting for years for the "mom bod" to come into fashion. Is it happening??

Ha!

[Anonymous]

How do you weight 145 but still have a 26/27 inch waist? That’s my waist size but I weigh 123 and I’m 5’6” so not that much shorter than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you weight 145 but still have a 26/27 inch waist? That’s my waist size but I weigh 123 and I’m 5’6” so not that much shorter than you.

Op here - I don’t know but I just bought a pair of pants and they were a 26” waist. And they fit. I have very strong legs - I run a lot. Maybe that holds a lot of weight?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s sad that you are fretting over 10 pounds. Is this all your life has come down to?

Yeah true she should do something cool and productive, like go on the mommy forum to condescendingly scold someone for not using the mommy forum to your liking

You are prob one of the women who only talk about paleo and cards and having gained .3 pounds because you ate skinny popcorn.

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Anonymous wrote:I care way more about how much sex we are having and how enthusiastic she is. Would much rather be doing it frequently and enthusiastically with a heavier wife than one who is thin but had no interest

Is this really true for most men? I have gained about 30 lbs since we were married 15 years ago. We have four kids, but the youngest is in second grade, so it’s hard to call it baby weight.
I have always been pretty enthusiastic about sex, and sex with my husband specifically. Lately though, I have been feeling like he would prefer that I put that energy into losing the weight rather than our love life.

30 pounds is a lot. I have also been married 15 years and my youngest is 5. I have gained 10. I was up 15-20 during Covid and back down to 10 over pre kid weight. I’m putting effort into losing it but isn’t really going anywhere. I may just have to accept that at age 44 I am 10 pounds heavier than at age 29.

It is a lot, but I’ve never been obsessive about my weight at all. And I’m just finding it hard to care about losing it. I feel like I’m 40 now, not 25. So what if I’m a size 12 instead of a size 8?

It depends on the relationship. I care a lot about 10lbs of weight gain, and my husband would definitely care about 30lbs of weight gain. If your husband does not care, and you don't care, it does not seem like a problem at all.

He does care.
I was just asking if most men care or if he is in the minority.

I’m not unhealthy or anything. It’s purely an aesthetic thing.

Did you get your answer?

No. Not really.
Some men said they would prefer sex, but that seemed hypothetical.
I don’t personally think that a good sex life and weight loss go hand in hand. There has to be a certain dissatisfaction with your body to lose weight that has a psychological effect on weight loss. And then fat produces estrogen, so there is a physiological effect as well. Plus it has played out again and again during times of famine that fertility and birth rates decrease significantly. I just don’t think that weight loss and sex go together.

My husband has said that he would prefer the weight loss. I don’t know if other men * whose wives have actually gained weight * feel the same.

Man here, if I were to give a very accurate guess, if we are talking 10-20 pounds (a dress size or 2), most men would rather have regular and enthusiastic sex with a heavier wife than infrequent sex with someone thinner. Of course there are exceptions and you are married to one.

Also, as women age (45 and older) I think they look better with a couple extra pounds. Very thin can make you look older, the natural collagen helps.

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Anonymous wrote:How do you weight 145 but still have a 26/27 inch waist? That’s my waist size but I weigh 123 and I’m 5’6” so not that much shorter than you.

Op here - I don’t know but I just bought a pair of pants and they were a 26” waist. And they fit. I have very strong legs - I run a lot. Maybe that holds a lot of weight?

DP.. yes, muscle weighs more than fat.

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I just don’t buy it.
My SIL has put on a good 30-50 pounds in the past year and her husband had gained nothing.
Is there any possible way he still finds that attractive?
The guy doesn’t even live with them during the week due to work.
Surely there is a danger zone? I feel like it would be different if BOTH of you get fat…

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Anonymous wrote:I’m calling troll on this. I’m 5’8 and I don’t even change dress sizes +/- 10 lbs. It’s 0 visual difference. Definitely not moving from pretty to “average.”

Op here - not a troll. Far from it. And while I can still fit into my clothes they feel snugger when I am 10 pounds heavier.

The thing is OP, you are also 14 years older. You aren’t going to stay exactly the same forever. Even at the same weight I e found that things have sort of moved around after kids and as I’ve aged, gravity and all that.

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Just a reminder... Men cheat on the most beautiful, thinnest women in the world. Men sleep with the most average and even unattractive women.

Just have confidence in yourself. Get to a weight that makes YOU happy. Don't worry what men think. They'll eff anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a reminder... Men cheat on the most beautiful, thinnest women in the world. Men sleep with the most average and even unattractive women.

Just have confidence in yourself. Get to a weight that makes YOU happy. Don't worry what men think. They'll eff anything.

Eww

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Anonymous wrote:Just a reminder... Men cheat on the most beautiful, thinnest women in the world. Men sleep with the most average and even unattractive women.

Just have confidence in yourself. Get to a weight that makes YOU happy. Don't worry what men think. They'll eff anything.

Eww

Not the ones who have a choice not to…

[Anonymous]

I think men including your husband will be more turned off by the fact that you fret about it than the fact that you gained 10 lbs.

What most men would take issue with is letting yourself go, gaining 50+ lbs and just not caring, living in nothing but dirty sweatpants, never spicing things up with your appearance, never being sexy and being disinterested in the bedroom. A few extra pounds is not the same as a lethargic blob.

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Anonymous wrote:Just a reminder... Men cheat on the most beautiful, thinnest women in the world. Men sleep with the most average and even unattractive women.

Just have confidence in yourself. Get to a weight that makes YOU happy. Don't worry what men think. They'll eff anything.

Eww

Not the ones who have a choice not to…

Like Hugh Grant. He could have had anyone and was with one of the most beautiful woman in the world...look what ended up happening there. Like Chris Rock said, give me a beautiful woman, and there will be a man that is tired of 'doing' her not what he said but you get the drift. PP is on to something. Men will eff anything.

[Anonymous]

My husband put on a lot of weight during Covid and I do not like it. I would never, ever tell this to his face. But I definitely find him less attractive now, though we have an active and healthy sex life.

I even tell him I don't mind and that I think he looks great.
(He doesn't look great.)
I'm sure the same thing is happening in the houses of all the women out there who have put on 30lbs since they got married.
Men aren't going to say anything, and they are going to continue to sleep with you, but probably out of comfort and love, not desire.