Men do you care if your wives are average looking after babies and many years of marriage?

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Anonymous wrote:Omg good gracious what a sick world we live in. You’re a human being, not a creature put upon the earth to be visually appealing to men. And a human being that created new life, at that!

+1. This thread makes me sad.

+1 yes sad

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Just be enthusiastic about sex and your spouse will not care about your weight at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd definitely prefer a slightly larger happy wife to a slightly smaller miserable one. No guarantees, but my guess is that you are much more concerned about this than your husband is.

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It makes me think of something Anna Faris said. She said that Chris Pratt was definitely nicer to be around before he got all buff, because later Chris Pratt was grumpier because he was hungry all the time. If my spouse was hungry (and cranky) and couldn't have a drink with me, and couldn't enjoy a great meal with me, and didn't have time for stuff we liked to do together because she was dieting and working out all the time to try to look like she did ten years and three kids ago, that would suck. Ten pounds is a fair price to pay for someone who can actually enjoy life with me.

This, your weight seems perfectly fine. As long as your sex life is good and you are comfortable in your skin, I am pretty sure your DH doesn’t notice the 10 pds of additional squishiness. Mine doesn’t care at all. I am the only one who cares and likes myself thinner

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Women generally waayyyy overthink what men find attractive. We are crazy focused on a million little details but most men actually do find a wide range of normal body types attractive. Sure, there are some hypercritical guys out there but that is a tiny minority. It’s often women that perpetuate ridiculous and unrealistic standards around attractiveness. You don’t have to have a flat stomach with abs, perfect boobs and no skin imperfections to be sexy to men. Far from it.

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I’m calling troll on this. I’m 5’8 and I don’t even change dress sizes +/- 10 lbs. It’s 0 visual difference. Definitely not moving from pretty to “average.”

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Anonymous wrote:I’m calling troll on this. I’m 5’8 and I don’t even change dress sizes +/- 10 lbs. It’s 0 visual difference. Definitely not moving from pretty to “average.”

Op here - not a troll. Far from it. And while I can still fit into my clothes they feel snugger when I am 10 pounds heavier.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m calling troll on this. I’m 5’8 and I don’t even change dress sizes +/- 10 lbs. It’s 0 visual difference. Definitely not moving from pretty to “average.”

Op here - not a troll. Far from it. And while I can still fit into my clothes they feel snugger when I am 10 pounds heavier.

Then go get treatment for your body dysmorphia.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been with my husband for 14 years, married 11 - we have 3 young kids. I realized I haven't put on jeans or button pants in forever since I WFH full time and run around after 3 young kids during the morning/evenings/weekends. I am definitely bigger than when we met (was around 135 when we met and now at 145). Would you prefer a wife who has to seriously restrict their diet, no booze, and works out all the time in order to maintain their weight or would you prefer a wife who has a little bit more weight, works out regularly but just can't shed those last 10 postpartum pounds? I am still at a good pant size (26-27 inch waist) but just don't know if I have it in me to push to lost the last 10 pounds. I really like wine and food.

Unless you are shorter than 4'1" that doesn't sound that much bigger-especially for 3 kids??? I bet you're beautiful. What did your husband say? What brought on this insecurity?

Op here - I am 5’7” so not short. Husband is doesn’t mind at all I just mind. Probably because I compare myself to my sister who has had 2 kids and weighs 10+ pounds less than me and works out all the time. I just don’t have the will power.

Eyeroll. Your height and weight are fine. Humble brag

+1.

Yup!

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Anonymous wrote:Omg good gracious what a sick world we live in. You’re a human being, not a creature put upon the earth to be visually appealing to men. And a human being that created new life, at that!

+1. This thread makes me sad.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to still be attractive.

5'7" with a 26" waist is attractive. OP is bored and has some fetish with competing with sis.

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Anonymous wrote:I care way more about how much sex we are having and how enthusiastic she is. Would much rather be doing it frequently and enthusiastically with a heavier wife than one who is thin but had no interest

I was going to write this. Unfortunately weight is easier for women to control than sex drive.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg good gracious what a sick world we live in. You’re a human being, not a creature put upon the earth to be visually appealing to men. And a human being that created new life, at that!

+1. This thread makes me sad.

+1. 10 pounds is nothing. Think about what you could do with the brain space those thoughts are occupying.

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Pay for the mommy makeover

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Anonymous wrote:I care way more about how much sex we are having and how enthusiastic she is. Would much rather be doing it frequently and enthusiastically with a heavier wife than one who is thin but had no interest

I was going to write this. Unfortunately weight is easier for women to control than sex drive.

My wife is in incredible shape, better than when we married. We have sex 1x a month on a good month. I would trade her for someone with an average body who enjoyed sex.

What's the point of a sports car with no engine?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m calling troll on this. I’m 5’8 and I don’t even change dress sizes +/- 10 lbs. It’s 0 visual difference. Definitely not moving from pretty to “average.”

Are you kidding? You don’t think OP’s 10 pounds may be distributed differently after having 3 kids?

I’m 5’4” and 120 pounds. 5 pounds is one dress size for me. 10 pounds is 2. All my weight goes to my waist and face.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m calling troll on this. I’m 5’8 and I don’t even change dress sizes +/- 10 lbs. It’s 0 visual difference. Definitely not moving from pretty to “average.”

Are you kidding? You don’t think OP’s 10 pounds may be distributed differently after having 3 kids?

I’m 5’4” and 120 pounds. 5 pounds is one dress size for me. 10 pounds is 2. All my weight goes to my waist and face.

You are 4 inches shorter than the OP!