Men do you care if your wives are average looking after babies and many years of marriage?

[Anonymous]

I like the noom app. Really opened my eyes on what foods are bad and not worth the calories. I definitely have cheat days.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg good gracious what a sick world we live in. You’re a human being, not a creature put upon the earth to be visually appealing to men. And a human being that created new life, at that!

+1. This thread makes me sad.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to still be attractive.

[Anonymous]

I have 3 kids including a baby. What I wouldn't give to be 145.

[Anonymous]

I'd definitely prefer a slightly larger happy wife to a slightly smaller miserable one. No guarantees, but my guess is that you are much more concerned about this than your husband is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg good gracious what a sick world we live in. You’re a human being, not a creature put upon the earth to be visually appealing to men. And a human being that created new life, at that!

+1. This thread makes me sad.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to still be attractive.

No one said people shouldn’t want to be attractive. It’s still sad. (NP)

[Anonymous]

I care way more about how much sex we are having and how enthusiastic she is. Would much rather be doing it frequently and enthusiastically with a heavier wife than one who is thin but had no interest

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have been with my husband for 14 years, married 11 - we have 3 young kids. I realized I haven't put on jeans or button pants in forever since I WFH full time and run around after 3 young kids during the morning/evenings/weekends. I am definitely bigger than when we met (was around 135 when we met and now at 145). Would you prefer a wife who has to seriously restrict their diet, no booze, and works out all the time in order to maintain their weight or would you prefer a wife who has a little bit more weight, works out regularly but just can't shed those last 10 postpartum pounds? I am still at a good pant size (26-27 inch waist) but just don't know if I have it in me to push to lost the last 10 pounds. I really like wine and food.

Unless you are shorter than 4'1" that doesn't sound that much bigger-especially for 3 kids??? I bet you're beautiful. What did your husband say? What brought on this insecurity?

Op here - I am 5’7” so not short. Husband is doesn’t mind at all I just mind. Probably because I compare myself to my sister who has had 2 kids and weighs 10+ pounds less than me and works out all the time. I just don’t have the will power.

Eyeroll. Your height and weight are fine. Humble brag

[Anonymous]

Well, man or woman, no one stays young, beautiful, healthy and fit forever. This is what marriage is about, living, loving, growing and aging together.

[Anonymous]

All my husband cares about is me being healthy. My wrapper means nothing to him.
Married 45 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, man or woman, no one stays young, beautiful, healthy and fit forever. This is what marriage is about, living, loving, growing and aging together.

That’s why it’s important to focus on what kind of person they are than how they look now, somethings last but others doesn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been with my husband for 14 years, married 11 - we have 3 young kids. I realized I haven't put on jeans or button pants in forever since I WFH full time and run around after 3 young kids during the morning/evenings/weekends. I am definitely bigger than when we met (was around 135 when we met and now at 145). Would you prefer a wife who has to seriously restrict their diet, no booze, and works out all the time in order to maintain their weight or would you prefer a wife who has a little bit more weight, works out regularly but just can't shed those last 10 postpartum pounds? I am still at a good pant size (26-27 inch waist) but just don't know if I have it in me to push to lost the last 10 pounds. I really like wine and food.

Unless you are shorter than 4'1" that doesn't sound that much bigger-especially for 3 kids??? I bet you're beautiful. What did your husband say? What brought on this insecurity?

Op here - I am 5’7” so not short. Husband is doesn’t mind at all I just mind. Probably because I compare myself to my sister who has had 2 kids and weighs 10+ pounds less than me and works out all the time. I just don’t have the will power.

Eyeroll. Your height and weight are fine. Humble brag

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg good gracious what a sick world we live in. You’re a human being, not a creature put upon the earth to be visually appealing to men. And a human being that created new life, at that!

+1. This thread makes me sad.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to still be attractive.

If gaining 10 lbs after being together for 14 years and having three kids somehow makes you “unattractive”, well that’s just really, really sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been with my husband for 14 years, married 11 - we have 3 young kids. I realized I haven't put on jeans or button pants in forever since I WFH full time and run around after 3 young kids during the morning/evenings/weekends. I am definitely bigger than when we met (was around 135 when we met and now at 145). Would you prefer a wife who has to seriously restrict their diet, no booze, and works out all the time in order to maintain their weight or would you prefer a wife who has a little bit more weight, works out regularly but just can't shed those last 10 postpartum pounds? I am still at a good pant size (26-27 inch waist) but just don't know if I have it in me to push to lost the last 10 pounds. I really like wine and food.

Unless you are shorter than 4'1" that doesn't sound that much bigger-especially for 3 kids??? I bet you're beautiful. What did your husband say? What brought on this insecurity?

Op here - I am 5’7” so not short. Husband is doesn’t mind at all I just mind. Probably because I compare myself to my sister who has had 2 kids and weighs 10+ pounds less than me and works out all the time. I just don’t have the will power.

Eyeroll. Your height and weight are fine. Humble brag

+2. Lol @ “Ugh I am just SO average at 0 lbs overweight after 3 kids!!!!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd definitely prefer a slightly larger happy wife to a slightly smaller miserable one. No guarantees, but my guess is that you are much more concerned about this than your husband is.

+1

It makes me think of something Anna Faris said. She said that Chris Pratt was definitely nicer to be around before he got all buff, because later Chris Pratt was grumpier because he was hungry all the time. If my spouse was hungry (and cranky) and couldn't have a drink with me, and couldn't enjoy a great meal with me, and didn't have time for stuff we liked to do together because she was dieting and working out all the time to try to look like she did ten years and three kids ago, that would suck. Ten pounds is a fair price to pay for someone who can actually enjoy life with me.

[Anonymous]

Oh ffs. You’re bmi is low for your height. Calm down.