DS Wants to Transfer, DH Pushing Back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why your DH pushed so hard for Emory over Tufts. They are basically equivalent schools. Now, Normal freshman adjustment is being seen through the lens of him going to his second choice school.

Are they equivalent?

Emory is ranked higher but the student body from a brainpower perspective is completely interchangeable. A lot of Northeast MidAtlantic students, a strong jewish population, very smart kids who didn’t get into an Ivy or a better ranked school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why your DH pushed so hard for Emory over Tufts. They are basically equivalent schools. Now, Normal freshman adjustment is being seen through the lens of him going to his second choice school.

Are they equivalent?

I’m the PP and yes, I think for all intents and purposes. You can argue about whether one is a little better or more prestigious but at the end of the day it’s not that different. It’s not like dad went to Harvard and kid got in but wanted to go to Radford, or a financial issue which would be understandable. It sounds like dad may have been well intentioned but is trying to relive his own college days rather than focusing on what his son wanted.

I don't think the gap between them is that big but I wouldn't consider them equivalent. Feel like Tufts is more BC level. Either way I think it depends on the major. If OP son applys to Tufts for a major Emory doesn't have, then his chances of admittance increases a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why your DH pushed so hard for Emory over Tufts. They are basically equivalent schools. Now, Normal freshman adjustment is being seen through the lens of him going to his second choice school.

Are they equivalent?

Emory is ranked higher but the student body from a brainpower perspective is completely interchangeable. A lot of Northeast MidAtlantic students, a strong jewish population, very smart kids who didn’t get into an Ivy or a better ranked school.

Um my DS chose Emory over Cornell and Vandy. His rm chose it over Northwestern. So no that's not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why your DH pushed so hard for Emory over Tufts. They are basically equivalent schools. Now, Normal freshman adjustment is being seen through the lens of him going to his second choice school.

Are they equivalent?

Emory is ranked higher but the student body from a brainpower perspective is completely interchangeable. A lot of Northeast MidAtlantic students, a strong jewish population, very smart kids who didn’t get into an Ivy or a better ranked school.

You can say this about Northeastern or Tulane. All of these schools have high stats that's not what separates them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know I am way in the minority here but I think the kid should stay put, work hard, take classes in the summer and graduate early.

I don't agree that everything around you needs to make you happy every second and if not, you whine for a disruptive change until everyone complies. This is very entitled.

The kid probably should not have been pushed to a school they really didn't want, but you're here now.

I'm not even sure what you are talking about. You must be projecting a different situation into the post. The DS is at college, not the father. The DS would transfer, not the father. No one, literally no one, will be "disrupted" by this change except for the DS who will be the one going to a new school.

Are you thinking it will be hard for the parents to write a check with a different school name on it? Drive to Tufts to drop him off instead of to Emory?

I'm just very perplexed by your response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know I am way in the minority here but I think the kid should stay put, work hard, take classes in the summer and graduate early.

I don't agree that everything around you needs to make you happy every second and if not, you whine for a disruptive change until everyone complies. This is very entitled.

The kid probably should not have been pushed to a school they really didn't want, but you're here now.

I'm not even sure what you are talking about. You must be projecting a different situation into the post. The DS is at college, not the father. The DS would transfer, not the father. No one, literally no one, will be "disrupted" by this change except for the DS who will be the one going to a new school.

Are you thinking it will be hard for the parents to write a check with a different school name on it? Drive to Tufts to drop him off instead of to Emory?

I'm just very perplexed by your response.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why your DH pushed so hard for Emory over Tufts. They are basically equivalent schools. Now, Normal freshman adjustment is being seen through the lens of him going to his second choice school.

Are they equivalent?

Emory is ranked higher but the student body from a brainpower perspective is completely interchangeable. A lot of Northeast MidAtlantic students, a strong jewish population, very smart kids who didn’t get into an Ivy or a better ranked school.

You can say this about Northeastern or Tulane. All of these schools have high stats that's not what separates them.

Exactly. All of this argument about tiny differences is ridiculous. The median SAT scores for Tufts, Emory, Northeastern, Cornell, Harvard and Vanderbilt are all in the 99th percentile. For Boston College and Tulane, it's the 98th percentile. There's essentially no difference in the ability levels of students at these colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why your DH pushed so hard for Emory over Tufts. They are basically equivalent schools. Now, Normal freshman adjustment is being seen through the lens of him going to his second choice school.

Are they equivalent?

Emory is ranked higher but the student body from a brainpower perspective is completely interchangeable. A lot of Northeast MidAtlantic students, a strong jewish population, very smart kids who didn’t get into an Ivy or a better ranked school.

You can say this about Northeastern or Tulane. All of these schools have high stats that's not what separates them.

Exactly. All of this argument about tiny differences is ridiculous. The median SAT scores for Tufts, Emory, Northeastern, Cornell, Harvard and Vanderbilt are all in the 99th percentile. For Boston College and Tulane, it's the 98th percentile. There's essentially no difference in the ability levels of students at these colleges.

+100

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why your DH pushed so hard for Emory over Tufts. They are basically equivalent schools. Now, Normal freshman adjustment is being seen through the lens of him going to his second choice school.

Are they equivalent?

Emory is ranked higher but the student body from a brainpower perspective is completely interchangeable. A lot of Northeast MidAtlantic students, a strong jewish population, very smart kids who didn’t get into an Ivy or a better ranked school.

You can say this about Northeastern or Tulane. All of these schools have high stats that's not what separates them.

Exactly. All of this argument about tiny differences is ridiculous. The median SAT scores for Tufts, Emory, Northeastern, Cornell, Harvard and Vanderbilt are all in the 99th percentile. For Boston College and Tulane, it's the 98th percentile. There's essentially no difference in the ability levels of students at these colleges.

+100

There is no difference between the students in schools ranked 25 - 45 or so. Why are you all so hung up on USNWR rankings? The academically quality and prestige of these schools are interchangeable.

[Anonymous]

LOL look at all these obsessed people splitting hairs.
Emory is a higher ranked school in general, but if the kid wants to go to Tuft and if it's a better fit, he should transfer and be happier.

[Anonymous]

How are you doing OP?

Didn’t read through all the responses. But it seems as though your DC has given Emory a shot (per your husband’s request) and he should apply to transfer. If accepted, more time will have passed - and either he will have settled into his school or will be more ready to leave. Trust your son, it’s his experience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why your DH pushed so hard for Emory over Tufts. They are basically equivalent schools. Now, Normal freshman adjustment is being seen through the lens of him going to his second choice school.

Are they equivalent?

Emory is ranked higher but the student body from a brainpower perspective is completely interchangeable. A lot of Northeast MidAtlantic students, a strong jewish population, very smart kids who didn’t get into an Ivy or a better ranked school.

You can say this about Northeastern or Tulane. All of these schools have high stats that's not what separates them.

Exactly. All of this argument about tiny differences is ridiculous. The median SAT scores for Tufts, Emory, Northeastern, Cornell, Harvard and Vanderbilt are all in the 99th percentile. For Boston College and Tulane, it's the 98th percentile. There's essentially no difference in the ability levels of students at these colleges.

+100

There is no difference between the students in schools ranked 25 - 45 or so. Why are you all so hung up on USNWR rankings? The academically quality and prestige of these schools are interchangeable.

For one Emory is ranked 20 or 21 depending on the ranking so your own criteria wouldn't apply. And two there's a big difference between USC and Brandies. Emory is a top 20ish school while Tufts have never been ranked that highly. However I do agree that the difference isn't large enough for DS to stay if there truly unhappy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL look at all these obsessed people splitting hairs.
Emory is a higher ranked school in general, but if the kid wants to go to Tuft and if it's a better fit, he should transfer and be happier.

+1, but has he really gave Emory a chance? Seems like he wanted to hate the school as soon as he got there.

[Anonymous]

These comments are being unfair to DH. If I'm paying 250k+ for my childs education. I should have a say in where they go, and yes the difference between Emory and Tufts may be small but would still want to go with the better school and bigger bragging rights. That's also fair.

[Anonymous]

Kids who are talking transfer are often struggling with stress and mental health issues. It’s not wise to ask them to just tough it out. Just changing college wouldn’t help either.