Affluent people with dirty/messy houses

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had to stop our cleaning service due to financial issues. Then we stopped maintaining the exterior of our home. Now we get offers to tear it down. If it bothers you, offer to help out or send an anonymous gift card!

So formerly affluent?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had to stop our cleaning service due to financial issues. Then we stopped maintaining the exterior of our home. Now we get offers to tear it down. If it bothers you, offer to help out or send an anonymous gift card!

Or you could sell

And go where in the DMV? Too expensive with real estate transaction costs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had to stop our cleaning service due to financial issues. Then we stopped maintaining the exterior of our home. Now we get offers to tear it down. If it bothers you, offer to help out or send an anonymous gift card!

So formerly affluent?

It depends how you define it. Not much $$$ left after expenses which include college tuition. NW is still high.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m uncomfortable with setting the expectation for my male kids that house cleaning is done by someone who is female and has more melanin and probably doesn’t speak English as a first language. We do it ourselves, which means it might be a while between cleaning if friends aren’t coming over. No, I’m not embarrassed.

+1 Good for you. Boys need to learn how to take care of their living spaces.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The housekeepers should jump on to talk about how disgusting people can be. From leaving sh&t all over the toilet to leaving her floss in the sink. Ugh.

Ewww I would like to hear that. So many of us on here talk about cleaning for the cleaners. Are there people who just don’t care?

Yes. I used to work as a housecleaner. That was years ago, but I remember in one home I was regularly taking out plates with some dried out leftovers from under the bed. Master bedroom, not the kid's room. Floss in the sink is nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had to stop our cleaning service due to financial issues. Then we stopped maintaining the exterior of our home. Now we get offers to tear it down. If it bothers you, offer to help out or send an anonymous gift card!

So formerly affluent?

And too precious to clean themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had to stop our cleaning service due to financial issues. Then we stopped maintaining the exterior of our home. Now we get offers to tear it down. If it bothers you, offer to help out or send an anonymous gift card!

So formerly affluent?

And too precious to clean themselves.

But not too proud to ask for money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had to stop our cleaning service due to financial issues. Then we stopped maintaining the exterior of our home. Now we get offers to tear it down. If it bothers you, offer to help out or send an anonymous gift card!

So formerly affluent?

And too precious to clean themselves.

Another Grey Gardens in the making.

[Anonymous]

Lots of people are house poor and despite the big home and SUV, have no money for a cleaner.

For those who can afford cleaners, many stopped service during COVID and won't clean themselves. When cleaners came back, the quote for cleaning it all up was more than owner imagined.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m uncomfortable with setting the expectation for my male kids that house cleaning is done by someone who is female and has more melanin and probably doesn’t speak English as a first language. We do it ourselves, which means it might be a while between cleaning if friends aren’t coming over. No, I’m not embarrassed.

You absolutely can do both. I have boys and mine are super clean: dirty clothes go in the hamper, air out the room daily, hang wet towels, do your laundry twice/week. NO clutter. This takes 10 minutes/max per day, there's no excuse for dirtiness. None. Unless you have a severe disability, there's zero excuse for urinating on or around the toilet. Our cleaning ladies are paid well and legally employed. We outsource as much as we can, it gives other people an opportunity to make a living.

[Anonymous]

Affluent person with a super messy house here.

The hassle of getting my house cleaned just outweighs the benefit of having a clean house for me. Cleaners may vacuum and mop and all that, but it's not their job to pick up clothes, dishes, empty cans/bottles, or know where to put back general clutter, so it's its own work getting the house ready for them to clean. My wife and I both work from home, so we have to be constantly moving while they go from room to room. Vacuum noise disrupts work meetings. We also have an aggressive dog so we have to figure out something to do with him while they're here.

It's just too much damn work for something that supposedly saves you work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Affluent person with a super messy house here.

The hassle of getting my house cleaned just outweighs the benefit of having a clean house for me. Cleaners may vacuum and mop and all that, but it's not their job to pick up clothes, dishes, empty cans/bottles, or know where to put back general clutter, so it's its own work getting the house ready for them to clean. My wife and I both work from home, so we have to be constantly moving while they go from room to room. Vacuum noise disrupts work meetings. We also have an aggressive dog so we have to figure out something to do with him while they're here.

It's just too much damn work for something that supposedly saves you work.

Got it. So your house is messy and filthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Affluent person with a super messy house here.

The hassle of getting my house cleaned just outweighs the benefit of having a clean house for me. Cleaners may vacuum and mop and all that, but it's not their job to pick up clothes, dishes, empty cans/bottles, or know where to put back general clutter, so it's its own work getting the house ready for them to clean. My wife and I both work from home, so we have to be constantly moving while they go from room to room. Vacuum noise disrupts work meetings. We also have an aggressive dog so we have to figure out something to do with him while they're here.

It's just too much damn work for something that supposedly saves you work.

We’re having a post-Covid deep cleaning done today and it took us *hours* to prep for it. But we’re glad of the forcing function, since it was desperately needed and we’ve both needed to work nights/weekends for a while. Just work and kids was all we’ve been able to manage. Finding the time just to prep for this was a challenge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Affluent person with a super messy house here.

The hassle of getting my house cleaned just outweighs the benefit of having a clean house for me. Cleaners may vacuum and mop and all that, but it's not their job to pick up clothes, dishes, empty cans/bottles, or know where to put back general clutter, so it's its own work getting the house ready for them to clean. My wife and I both work from home, so we have to be constantly moving while they go from room to room. Vacuum noise disrupts work meetings. We also have an aggressive dog so we have to figure out something to do with him while they're here.

It's just too much damn work for something that supposedly saves you work.

Most people see your “too much damn work” as the basic chores of daily life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Affluent person with a super messy house here.

The hassle of getting my house cleaned just outweighs the benefit of having a clean house for me. Cleaners may vacuum and mop and all that, but it's not their job to pick up clothes, dishes, empty cans/bottles, or know where to put back general clutter, so it's its own work getting the house ready for them to clean. My wife and I both work from home, so we have to be constantly moving while they go from room to room. Vacuum noise disrupts work meetings. We also have an aggressive dog so we have to figure out something to do with him while they're here.

It's just too much damn work for something that supposedly saves you work.

Most people see your “too much damn work” as the basic chores of daily life.

NP. Why do you care?