Affluent people with dirty/messy houses

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I don’t spend my time judging other people and the state of their homes. Why do you all care? As long as it’s not a hoarder/unsanitary/child neglect situation, MYOB.

I guarantee you are only saying this because you have a messy house or someone close to you dues and you feel protective. I am certain there are things you judge about other people, this just isn’t one of them.

If it bugs you, don’t read the thread. I find it cathartic to express my judgment here — makes it easier to conceal what I actually think when interacting with friends and neighbors with messy homes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Child of hoarders here. My parents live in the nicest and richest neighborhood in their city. Their house is disgusting on the inside, you smell it before you even see the filth.

I have no idea how they got this way because my grandparents were super clean and organized. But I was raised in a very cluttered and dirty hoarded house. It was awful.

For me, today, I have cleaners come twice a week, every week. I’ve had the same ladies for over 10 years and I pay them well. I enforce people putting their stuff away, cleaning up the kitchen every night, changing sheets weekly, shoes outside, etc. I also married someone who is a neat freak/very organized (and it probably was not a coincidence). I cannot live in chaos and filth.

There’s a very good saying: Look around. All that clutter used to be money. And all that money used to be time.

Don’t waste either.

I'm so sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m uncomfortable with setting the expectation for my male kids that house cleaning is done by someone who is female and has more melanin and probably doesn’t speak English as a first language. We do it ourselves, which means it might be a while between cleaning if friends aren’t coming over. No, I’m not embarrassed.

Same here (although I’m uncomfortable with this for both female and male kids). I clean all the time, but it would probably still look a mess to someone who just dropped in. Don’t care. I think people should be responsible for their own messes.

Are you also uncomfortable with all the home maintenance being done by men? New roof, flooring, painting, plumbing, landscaping, etc. Just curious.... the door of equal opportunity swings both ways

[Anonymous]

You hoarders make me sick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m uncomfortable with setting the expectation for my male kids that house cleaning is done by someone who is female and has more melanin and probably doesn’t speak English as a first language. We do it ourselves, which means it might be a while between cleaning if friends aren’t coming over. No, I’m not embarrassed.

Same here (although I’m uncomfortable with this for both female and male kids). I clean all the time, but it would probably still look a mess to someone who just dropped in. Don’t care. I think people should be responsible for their own messes.

Are you also uncomfortable with all the home maintenance being done by men? New roof, flooring, painting, plumbing, landscaping, etc. Just curious.... the door of equal opportunity swings both ways

That’s so bizarre of the poster with male children. I’m brown and speak Spanish and have a house cleaner. I mean my god these people and their virtue signaling. It’s just a job if you feel bad just pay more or give to charity. This is a ridiculous humblebrag. I don’t want to pay people so I do it all myself. Are you willing to be your own plumber too?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I guess I don’t spend my time judging other people and the state of their homes. Why do you all care? As long as it’s not a hoarder/unsanitary/child neglect situation, MYOB.

I guarantee you are only saying this because you have a messy house or someone close to you dues and you feel protective. I am certain there are things you judge about other people, this just isn’t one of them.

If it bugs you, don’t read the thread. I find it cathartic to express my judgment here — makes it easier to conceal what I actually think when interacting with friends and neighbors with messy homes.

Nope. Our home is fine. We clean up and also are fortunate in that we have a cleaner on a schedule. I don’t understand why you care. You don’t have to live there. Not everyone has the same priorities or budget. And I assure you, most people are not as judgmental as you are either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What’s with these people? They could easily pay the 200-400 a month for a cleaning service but are too cheap and too lazy to clean themselves so they allow their houses to become disgusting and unkempt. Don’t they feel embarrassed?

I've never met someone like this. It makes me wonder what your level of "disgusting and unkempt" means? Some dust on the coffee table and a few clothes strewn on a side chair?

Yep, this is it. Also dirty kitchens and bathrooms, cats and cat litter or cat hair on countertops and tables. Smelly houses in general from not airing the house daily or changing the sheets often enough. My ILs change their sheets every 2 weeks and don't air out the house that much, so their house smells like old people and dogs. Musty, dirty or damp towels in the powder room. No liner in the bathroom trash, so they throw all the nasty stuff (panty liners, dirty tissues, used floss) directly in the can and the trash can reeks. Mine also never clean up the trash can in the kitchen and they let the trash sit there for a week and the smell is overwhelming.

This is truly disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Affluent person with a super messy house here.

The hassle of getting my house cleaned just outweighs the benefit of having a clean house for me. Cleaners may vacuum and mop and all that, but it's not their job to pick up clothes, dishes, empty cans/bottles, or know where to put back general clutter, so it's its own work getting the house ready for them to clean. My wife and I both work from home, so we have to be constantly moving while they go from room to room. Vacuum noise disrupts work meetings. We also have an aggressive dog so we have to figure out something to do with him while they're here.

It's just too much damn work for something that supposedly saves you work.

Most people see your “too much damn work” as the basic chores of daily life.

If that's how most people want to spend their time, more power to them. I'd rather have more free time than a cleaner house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Child of hoarders here. My parents live in the nicest and richest neighborhood in their city. Their house is disgusting on the inside, you smell it before you even see the filth.

I have no idea how they got this way because my grandparents were super clean and organized. But I was raised in a very cluttered and dirty hoarded house. It was awful.

For me, today, I have cleaners come twice a week, every week. I’ve had the same ladies for over 10 years and I pay them well. I enforce people putting their stuff away, cleaning up the kitchen every night, changing sheets weekly, shoes outside, etc. I also married someone who is a neat freak/very organized (and it probably was not a coincidence). I cannot live in chaos and filth.

There’s a very good saying: Look around. All that clutter used to be money. And all that money used to be time.

Don’t waste either.

My parents lived in a really nice multimillion dollar home in one of the nation’s most expensive zip codes and their house is pretty much a total disaster inside. They think everything is going to be valuable someday so they hang on to everything.

[Anonymous]

Pp here. My grandparents are pretty organized and clean unlike my parents. All my parents siblings are super clean and organized too! Not sure how my parents were such a mess.

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know like this is because they are lazy slobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know like this is because they are lazy slobs.

Actually, I find the opposite. It’s in cases where both parents have high flying careers. Any extra bandwidth is put to kid activities and spending time with the kids. Cleaning is the one thing that seems to go. They have cleaners but it can get a little crazy between visits because of the clutter.

[Anonymous]

My house isn't dirty but it's messy and cluttered. We have a cleaning person come 1x a month and it forces me to do some prep cleaning. I do clean the kitchen and vacuum daily. I have relatives who are hoarders and every once in a while I feel like I'm becoming them and go through a closet or something and give stuff away. I find that most people with little kids have messy houses.

[Anonymous]

This is me. We just purchased a 5,000 sq ft house in a wealthy area and I clean it myself. I grew up with parents that expected me to contribute to household chores and helped run my family’s backbreaking business. So I’m no stranger to sweat labor. It doesn’t bother me. Plus I’m such a neat freak that even a weekly cleaning service wouldn’t be enough for my standards!

I also would rather direct that 200-400 a month to decorating my house. I love doing this. We’re not strapped but keep in mind that even folks with big houses still have student loans and high daycare costs.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of famous (brilliant) people were messy. Maybe a clean house is the sign of a misspent life … unless you’re hiring the work out, then maybe it’s a sign of misspent money!

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