Tinder for dead bedrooms

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Anonymous wrote:The most appealing part of this pitch to your wife will be how you desperately want to have more sex, but anyone will do.

Exactly. So unappealing, whiny, selfish, and just gross.

I think most women will be turned off from this loser.

you have nothing better to do than to insult strangers on DCUM. Who’s the loser?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The most appealing part of this pitch to your wife will be how you desperately want to have more sex, but anyone will do.

Exactly. So unappealing, whiny, selfish, and just gross.

I think most women will be turned off from this loser.

ok I’m a loser . I know my wife doesn’t want me. I’m sure no one else would either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know if OP is a troll since this topic always goes on for pages and pages of everyone arguing the same points that are in a million threads.

But dude, just have an affair and don't get caught. And if your wife catches you, who cares? She should expect that you will want to sleep around.

And if she divorces you, then you are in the same boat you would have been in if you just divorced first. But at least you have a chance at keeping the family together.

And no one is going to see you as the bad guy, and if your wife decides to drag you through the mud, just do the same to her.

This is how I see the situation, there is no real downside to cheating since their marriage is dead anyway. But it's only a short term solution. Eventually, he will want a real relationship

divorce and get it over with.

But why bother with the divorce? It tears the family apart and is expensive. He should just have an affair and keep it secret.

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Anonymous wrote:Have enough basic respect for the person you married to not lie and cheat on her. Either try to fix it within the marrage or if you can't, leave. Imagine what your wife will think of herself if she finds out. Imagine what your kids will think of you or her if they find out. Think about how this will impact your children's ability to have heathly, trusting relationships as adults if they find out.

Take care of yourself, fine. But don't f*ck it up for everyone around you. Get a divorce and find someone more compatbale. But don't selfishly think that you having an affair is somehow the best for your relationship or family. That's just you trying to justify what you want.

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It destroyed a dear friend of mine…and two families since they were both married.

Why is leaving better than cheating? I don't get it. Just keep the family together and take care not to get caught. If you do get caught, it's no different. Not like the wife should be surprised that he wants to get some outside of the marriage. Ridiculous.

It’s a lot different. Cheating makes for a much more acrimonious divorce and more psychological harm to the spouse and kids.

If the spouse never wants to have sex, doesn't want to talk about it, and doesn't want to change, why is there any surprise or harm or additional acrimony? I'm sorry, a spouse like OP's is just as selfish and uncommitted to the marriage. And why do the kids even need to know?

They need to NOT lie. If it’s come to that point : point blank, I will find a no-strings safe arrangement. Be upfront. The ball is then in their court to divorce, work on themselves/libido/your relationship or so “ok”.

Nah, that's unnecessary drama. At the point she figures out any lies, if there are any, it is over probably. But then it's over anyway. And he can say he had the secret affair because she checked out anyway. No one gets to keep the high ground in this situation.

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Anonymous wrote:Have enough basic respect for the person you married to not lie and cheat on her. Either try to fix it within the marrage or if you can't, leave. Imagine what your wife will think of herself if she finds out. Imagine what your kids will think of you or her if they find out. Think about how this will impact your children's ability to have heathly, trusting relationships as adults if they find out.

Take care of yourself, fine. But don't f*ck it up for everyone around you. Get a divorce and find someone more compatbale. But don't selfishly think that you having an affair is somehow the best for your relationship or family. That's just you trying to justify what you want.

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It destroyed a dear friend of mine…and two families since they were both married.

Why is leaving better than cheating? I don't get it. Just keep the family together and take care not to get caught. If you do get caught, it's no different. Not like the wife should be surprised that he wants to get some outside of the marriage. Ridiculous.

It’s a lot different. Cheating makes for a much more acrimonious divorce and more psychological harm to the spouse and kids.

If the spouse never wants to have sex, doesn't want to talk about it, and doesn't want to change, why is there any surprise or harm or additional acrimony? I'm sorry, a spouse like OP's is just as selfish and uncommitted to the marriage. And why do the kids even need to know?

They need to NOT lie. If it’s come to that point : point blank, I will find a no-strings safe arrangement. Be upfront. The ball is then in their court to divorce, work on themselves/libido/your relationship or so “ok”.

Nah, that's unnecessary drama. At the point she figures out any lies, if there are any, it is over probably. But then it's over anyway. And he can say he had the secret affair because she checked out anyway. No one gets to keep the high ground in this situation.

Wow, that’s a really elaborate way to say “I am too chickenshit to live an honest life.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The most appealing part of this pitch to your wife will be how you desperately want to have more sex, but anyone will do.

Exactly. So unappealing, whiny, selfish, and just gross.

I think most women will be turned off from this loser.

you have nothing better to do than to insult strangers on DCUM. Who’s the loser?

You.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have enough basic respect for the person you married to not lie and cheat on her. Either try to fix it within the marrage or if you can't, leave. Imagine what your wife will think of herself if she finds out. Imagine what your kids will think of you or her if they find out. Think about how this will impact your children's ability to have heathly, trusting relationships as adults if they find out.

Take care of yourself, fine. But don't f*ck it up for everyone around you. Get a divorce and find someone more compatbale. But don't selfishly think that you having an affair is somehow the best for your relationship or family. That's just you trying to justify what you want.

+100%

It destroyed a dear friend of mine…and two families since they were both married.

Why is leaving better than cheating? I don't get it. Just keep the family together and take care not to get caught. If you do get caught, it's no different. Not like the wife should be surprised that he wants to get some outside of the marriage. Ridiculous.

It’s a lot different. Cheating makes for a much more acrimonious divorce and more psychological harm to the spouse and kids.

If the spouse never wants to have sex, doesn't want to talk about it, and doesn't want to change, why is there any surprise or harm or additional acrimony? I'm sorry, a spouse like OP's is just as selfish and uncommitted to the marriage. And why do the kids even need to know?

They need to NOT lie. If it’s come to that point : point blank, I will find a no-strings safe arrangement. Be upfront. The ball is then in their court to divorce, work on themselves/libido/your relationship or so “ok”.

Nah, that's unnecessary drama. At the point she figures out any lies, if there are any, it is over probably. But then it's over anyway. And he can say he had the secret affair because she checked out anyway. No one gets to keep the high ground in this situation.

Wow, that’s a really elaborate way to say “I am too chickenshit to live an honest life.”

Who cares what other people think? If OP did that, I would not think less of him, nor would any normal person capable of normal relationships. If he cheats and keeps it secret, he gets some intimacy and the family stays together. All those people cheering for divorce because it is more "honorable" are delusional, and probably justifying their own divorce.

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Anonymous wrote:Have enough basic respect for the person you married to not lie and cheat on her. Either try to fix it within the marrage or if you can't, leave. Imagine what your wife will think of herself if she finds out. Imagine what your kids will think of you or her if they find out. Think about how this will impact your children's ability to have heathly, trusting relationships as adults if they find out.

Take care of yourself, fine. But don't f*ck it up for everyone around you. Get a divorce and find someone more compatbale. But don't selfishly think that you having an affair is somehow the best for your relationship or family. That's just you trying to justify what you want.

+100%

It destroyed a dear friend of mine…and two families since they were both married.

Why is leaving better than cheating? I don't get it. Just keep the family together and take care not to get caught. If you do get caught, it's no different. Not like the wife should be surprised that he wants to get some outside of the marriage. Ridiculous.

It’s a lot different. Cheating makes for a much more acrimonious divorce and more psychological harm to the spouse and kids.

If the spouse never wants to have sex, doesn't want to talk about it, and doesn't want to change, why is there any surprise or harm or additional acrimony? I'm sorry, a spouse like OP's is just as selfish and uncommitted to the marriage. And why do the kids even need to know?

They need to NOT lie. If it’s come to that point : point blank, I will find a no-strings safe arrangement. Be upfront. The ball is then in their court to divorce, work on themselves/libido/your relationship or so “ok”.

Nah, that's unnecessary drama. At the point she figures out any lies, if there are any, it is over probably. But then it's over anyway. And he can say he had the secret affair because she checked out anyway. No one gets to keep the high ground in this situation.

Wow, that’s a really elaborate way to say “I am too chickenshit to live an honest life.”

Who cares what other people think? If OP did that, I would not think less of him, nor would any normal person capable of normal relationships. If he cheats and keeps it secret, he gets some intimacy and the family stays together. All those people cheering for divorce because it is more "honorable" are delusional, and probably justifying their own divorce.

NP. You are too funny and honestly a bit clueless. The fact that you don't see the fallout that could occur from cheating vs. a divorce means you have blinders on or don't have good critical thinking skills. How can you trust someone's advice if they aren't thinking clearly and rationally?

[Anonymous]

PP, is correct.

While I was married, I had an affair for a few years. That made me realize what I had been missing in my marriage. I feel lucky spouse didn't realize what was going on. I tried everything I could such as got in even better shape, interest in her activities, dating,etc no change or attempt and the sex was terrible after being with affair partner.

Leads me to today, happily divorce with a woman who appreciates me and understands that intimacy is vital component to being in a relationship with me.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like a weirdo. No woman will want him for long

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Read the book Come As You Are and give it to your wife too. You could also ask for an open relationship.

Has anyone ever had success giving a book about this subject to their SO when the SO won’t talk about it in the first place?
Seems to me that giving them the book would just piss them off.

[Anonymous]

Can we agree that the same person keeps starting a variation of this thread, over and over and over? Yes, it's clear.

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Anonymous wrote:Have enough basic respect for the person you married to not lie and cheat on her. Either try to fix it within the marrage or if you can't, leave. Imagine what your wife will think of herself if she finds out. Imagine what your kids will think of you or her if they find out. Think about how this will impact your children's ability to have heathly, trusting relationships as adults if they find out.

Take care of yourself, fine. But don't f*ck it up for everyone around you. Get a divorce and find someone more compatbale. But don't selfishly think that you having an affair is somehow the best for your relationship or family. That's just you trying to justify what you want.

+100%

It destroyed a dear friend of mine…and two families since they were both married.

Why is leaving better than cheating? I don't get it. Just keep the family together and take care not to get caught. If you do get caught, it's no different. Not like the wife should be surprised that he wants to get some outside of the marriage. Ridiculous.

It’s a lot different. Cheating makes for a much more acrimonious divorce and more psychological harm to the spouse and kids.

If the spouse never wants to have sex, doesn't want to talk about it, and doesn't want to change, why is there any surprise or harm or additional acrimony? I'm sorry, a spouse like OP's is just as selfish and uncommitted to the marriage. And why do the kids even need to know?

They need to NOT lie. If it’s come to that point : point blank, I will find a no-strings safe arrangement. Be upfront. The ball is then in their court to divorce, work on themselves/libido/your relationship or so “ok”.

Nah, that's unnecessary drama. At the point she figures out any lies, if there are any, it is over probably. But then it's over anyway. And he can say he had the secret affair because she checked out anyway. No one gets to keep the high ground in this situation.

Wow, that’s a really elaborate way to say “I am too chickenshit to live an honest life.”

Who cares what other people think? If OP did that, I would not think less of him, nor would any normal person capable of normal relationships. If he cheats and keeps it secret, he gets some intimacy and the family stays together. All those people cheering for divorce because it is more "honorable" are delusional, and probably justifying their own divorce.

I am divorced. No cheating. But in this scenario if an affair can be kept secret and he never plans to leave his wife, an affair is better. His wife does not want sex anyway. However, if the marriage is not working at all, and he will leave later and if just “staying for the kids,” he should just divorce now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you get on Tinder and take photos without showing your face. Say in your bio your married but in a dead bedroom looking for someone in the same position. But watch out if the other person starts having feeling for you.

Great idea that will speed the divorce along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can we agree that the same person keeps starting a variation of this thread, over and over and over? Yes, it's clear.

Yep. And I believe commenting on this thread to bump it over and over. Pathetic.