Tinder for dead bedrooms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Low-libido people, we, your high-libido spouses, still love you. However, you have got to get it through your heads that condemning us to years of celibacy is not an acceptable solution to your problems with us. Perhaps, like my DH, you simply are not interested in having sex often, even if someone else is doing the bulk of the grunt work at home. If I chose to deal with the years of sexual deprivation by gambling or shopping us deeply into debt, no one would agree that this was a valid means of dealing with my frustration. Coerced sexlessness breaks down the partner and thus the family just as uncontrolled spending destroys the financial stability of the family.

Women who do not want sex need to do what our mothers and grandmothers were wise enough to do: put out or sign that hall pass without a mumble. No woman or man is worth decades without physical affection. People today think this is a reasonable sacrifice because they do much in the workplace and earn more money and have a higher standard of living generally. But y'all are all the way wrong.

I like sex, but if you only notice me in bed and are not intimate outside the bedroom, that’s a problem. The result is I lay there and treat you like treat me in the daylight - I’m just your warm, wet hole. I cannot muscle any enthusiasm for you. Take what I’m offering and shut up. Leave if you wish.

[Anonymous]

I cannot imagine why anyone, male or female, wants to have sex with someone who does not want to have sex with them. The thought of that makes me nauseous.

Also, many women whose husbands think they have low libido or no desire miraculously find that desire and libido after a divorce. As hard as it is to believe, she just doesn't want to have sex with you.

It may not be your fault entirely but it's almost impossible to reverse it.

[Anonymous]

Oh man, that stuff about her buying the toy and then telling you that you liked it too much sounds pretty cold. I can’t think of any reason to do that except to be intentionally cruel. She is royally pissed off at you about something, OP.
Does she prepare your food? Don’t eat anything that smells like bitter almonds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low-libido people, we, your high-libido spouses, still love you. However, you have got to get it through your heads that condemning us to years of celibacy is not an acceptable solution to your problems with us. Perhaps, like my DH, you simply are not interested in having sex often, even if someone else is doing the bulk of the grunt work at home. If I chose to deal with the years of sexual deprivation by gambling or shopping us deeply into debt, no one would agree that this was a valid means of dealing with my frustration. Coerced sexlessness breaks down the partner and thus the family just as uncontrolled spending destroys the financial stability of the family.

Women who do not want sex need to do what our mothers and grandmothers were wise enough to do: put out or sign that hall pass without a mumble. No woman or man is worth decades without physical affection. People today think this is a reasonable sacrifice because they do much in the workplace and earn more money and have a higher standard of living generally. But y'all are all the way wrong.

I like sex, but if you only notice me in bed and are not intimate outside the bedroom, that’s a problem. The result is I lay there and treat you like treat me in the daylight - I’m just your warm, wet hole. I cannot muscle any enthusiasm for you. Take what I’m offering and shut up. Leave if you wish.

Every time I tried to kiss her I get a speech on why I did it wrong. If I try touching her shoulder I'm told I'm bugging her. If I try snuggling her in bed I get an elbow to the forehead and later get yelled at for rapist style behavior. The last incident was last month which is why I feel so desperate. What the hell am I supposed to do? It's clear she is repulsed by me but won't say it. At this point it seems so bad I don't know what I could do to even fix it. I feel embarrassed to be in my underwear around her, assuming she is so disgusted with any aspect of me and my sexuality. Whenever I get home she expects a symbolic touch or cheek kiss, but at this point I'm uncomfortable about even doing that, it's so forced and make me anxious. She then gets upset and demands I give her a kiss to prove my love. If I do it she then walks away. The thing is I'm not mad at her. I don't hate her, I love her, but I so wish she would tell me what's going on. And she's really finished with me, let me go.

[Anonymous]

How long ago did her interest in sex change? Sex therapy for both of you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low-libido people, we, your high-libido spouses, still love you. However, you have got to get it through your heads that condemning us to years of celibacy is not an acceptable solution to your problems with us. Perhaps, like my DH, you simply are not interested in having sex often, even if someone else is doing the bulk of the grunt work at home. If I chose to deal with the years of sexual deprivation by gambling or shopping us deeply into debt, no one would agree that this was a valid means of dealing with my frustration. Coerced sexlessness breaks down the partner and thus the family just as uncontrolled spending destroys the financial stability of the family.

Women who do not want sex need to do what our mothers and grandmothers were wise enough to do: put out or sign that hall pass without a mumble. No woman or man is worth decades without physical affection. People today think this is a reasonable sacrifice because they do much in the workplace and earn more money and have a higher standard of living generally. But y'all are all the way wrong.

I like sex, but if you only notice me in bed and are not intimate outside the bedroom, that’s a problem. The result is I lay there and treat you like treat me in the daylight - I’m just your warm, wet hole. I cannot muscle any enthusiasm for you. Take what I’m offering and shut up. Leave if you wish.

Every time I tried to kiss her I get a speech on why I did it wrong. If I try touching her shoulder I'm told I'm bugging her. If I try snuggling her in bed I get an elbow to the forehead and later get yelled at for rapist style behavior. The last incident was last month which is why I feel so desperate. What the hell am I supposed to do? It's clear she is repulsed by me but won't say it. At this point it seems so bad I don't know what I could do to even fix it. I feel embarrassed to be in my underwear around her, assuming she is so disgusted with any aspect of me and my sexuality. Whenever I get home she expects a symbolic touch or cheek kiss, but at this point I'm uncomfortable about even doing that, it's so forced and make me anxious. She then gets upset and demands I give her a kiss to prove my love. If I do it she then walks away. The thing is I'm not mad at her. I don't hate her, I love her, but I so wish she would tell me what's going on. And she's really finished with me, let me go.

It sounds to me like she is going through a lot of stress and has anxiety about unrelated things, and that it is coming out at you, OP, because she is overwhelmed and this (meaning sex, your needs, the relationship) feels like another thing she can’t deal with. It is very hard to do but you need to give her space and not personalize this. It is maybe nothing to do with you but a symptom of the fact that she has tiny kids and there was just a pandemic. Give yourself and her a break in short. The more you say about this, the more I feel that your putting urgency and emergency on top of this is just like lighting a grenade. Having kids is a huge stress on women and sometimes the first two years or so might be off, especially if you have more than one kid and little support.

[Anonymous]

You want sex but you want it to be served to you on a platter and no risks for you and from a person of your choosing. It doesn’t work like that. You have to sacrifice something.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low-libido people, we, your high-libido spouses, still love you. However, you have got to get it through your heads that condemning us to years of celibacy is not an acceptable solution to your problems with us. Perhaps, like my DH, you simply are not interested in having sex often, even if someone else is doing the bulk of the grunt work at home. If I chose to deal with the years of sexual deprivation by gambling or shopping us deeply into debt, no one would agree that this was a valid means of dealing with my frustration. Coerced sexlessness breaks down the partner and thus the family just as uncontrolled spending destroys the financial stability of the family.

Women who do not want sex need to do what our mothers and grandmothers were wise enough to do: put out or sign that hall pass without a mumble. No woman or man is worth decades without physical affection. People today think this is a reasonable sacrifice because they do much in the workplace and earn more money and have a higher standard of living generally. But y'all are all the way wrong.

I like sex, but if you only notice me in bed and are not intimate outside the bedroom, that’s a problem. The result is I lay there and treat you like treat me in the daylight - I’m just your warm, wet hole. I cannot muscle any enthusiasm for you. Take what I’m offering and shut up. Leave if you wish.

Every time I tried to kiss her I get a speech on why I did it wrong. If I try touching her shoulder I'm told I'm bugging her. If I try snuggling her in bed I get an elbow to the forehead and later get yelled at for rapist style behavior. The last incident was last month which is why I feel so desperate. What the hell am I supposed to do? It's clear she is repulsed by me but won't say it. At this point it seems so bad I don't know what I could do to even fix it. I feel embarrassed to be in my underwear around her, assuming she is so disgusted with any aspect of me and my sexuality. Whenever I get home she expects a symbolic touch or cheek kiss, but at this point I'm uncomfortable about even doing that, it's so forced and make me anxious. She then gets upset and demands I give her a kiss to prove my love. If I do it she then walks away. The thing is I'm not mad at her. I don't hate her, I love her, but I so wish she would tell me what's going on. And she's really finished with me, let me go.

Hugs, OP. That feels heartbreaking and I cannot imagine how the constant rejection must bring you down. Have you asked her if she is done with you? Can she answer that question with honesty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low-libido people, we, your high-libido spouses, still love you. However, you have got to get it through your heads that condemning us to years of celibacy is not an acceptable solution to your problems with us. Perhaps, like my DH, you simply are not interested in having sex often, even if someone else is doing the bulk of the grunt work at home. If I chose to deal with the years of sexual deprivation by gambling or shopping us deeply into debt, no one would agree that this was a valid means of dealing with my frustration. Coerced sexlessness breaks down the partner and thus the family just as uncontrolled spending destroys the financial stability of the family.

Women who do not want sex need to do what our mothers and grandmothers were wise enough to do: put out or sign that hall pass without a mumble. No woman or man is worth decades without physical affection. People today think this is a reasonable sacrifice because they do much in the workplace and earn more money and have a higher standard of living generally. But y'all are all the way wrong.

I like sex, but if you only notice me in bed and are not intimate outside the bedroom, that’s a problem. The result is I lay there and treat you like treat me in the daylight - I’m just your warm, wet hole. I cannot muscle any enthusiasm for you. Take what I’m offering and shut up. Leave if you wish.

Every time I tried to kiss her I get a speech on why I did it wrong. If I try touching her shoulder I'm told I'm bugging her. If I try snuggling her in bed I get an elbow to the forehead and later get yelled at for rapist style behavior. The last incident was last month which is why I feel so desperate. What the hell am I supposed to do? It's clear she is repulsed by me but won't say it. At this point it seems so bad I don't know what I could do to even fix it. I feel embarrassed to be in my underwear around her, assuming she is so disgusted with any aspect of me and my sexuality. Whenever I get home she expects a symbolic touch or cheek kiss, but at this point I'm uncomfortable about even doing that, it's so forced and make me anxious. She then gets upset and demands I give her a kiss to prove my love. If I do it she then walks away. The thing is I'm not mad at her. I don't hate her, I love her, but I so wish she would tell me what's going on. And she's really finished with me, let me go.

It sounds to me like she is going through a lot of stress and has anxiety about unrelated things, and that it is coming out at you, OP, because she is overwhelmed and this (meaning sex, your needs, the relationship) feels like another thing she can’t deal with. It is very hard to do but you need to give her space and not personalize this. It is maybe nothing to do with you but a symptom of the fact that she has tiny kids and there was just a pandemic. Give yourself and her a break in short. The more you say about this, the more I feel that your putting urgency and emergency on top of this is just like lighting a grenade. Having kids is a huge stress on women and sometimes the first two years or so might be off, especially if you have more than one kid and little support.

I don’t think she sounds stressed. She sounds angry.
You are doing something to her, OP. You are somehow keeping her from doing something that’s very important to her. I don’t know if you are keeping her from caring for an elderly parent or making it difficult for her to have a career or be a SAHM or if there was a disagreement on the number of kids to have. But there is something, and you probably know what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low-libido people, we, your high-libido spouses, still love you. However, you have got to get it through your heads that condemning us to years of celibacy is not an acceptable solution to your problems with us. Perhaps, like my DH, you simply are not interested in having sex often, even if someone else is doing the bulk of the grunt work at home. If I chose to deal with the years of sexual deprivation by gambling or shopping us deeply into debt, no one would agree that this was a valid means of dealing with my frustration. Coerced sexlessness breaks down the partner and thus the family just as uncontrolled spending destroys the financial stability of the family.

Women who do not want sex need to do what our mothers and grandmothers were wise enough to do: put out or sign that hall pass without a mumble. No woman or man is worth decades without physical affection. People today think this is a reasonable sacrifice because they do much in the workplace and earn more money and have a higher standard of living generally. But y'all are all the way wrong.

I like sex, but if you only notice me in bed and are not intimate outside the bedroom, that’s a problem. The result is I lay there and treat you like treat me in the daylight - I’m just your warm, wet hole. I cannot muscle any enthusiasm for you. Take what I’m offering and shut up. Leave if you wish.

Every time I tried to kiss her I get a speech on why I did it wrong. If I try touching her shoulder I'm told I'm bugging her. If I try snuggling her in bed I get an elbow to the forehead and later get yelled at for rapist style behavior. The last incident was last month which is why I feel so desperate. What the hell am I supposed to do? It's clear she is repulsed by me but won't say it. At this point it seems so bad I don't know what I could do to even fix it. I feel embarrassed to be in my underwear around her, assuming she is so disgusted with any aspect of me and my sexuality. Whenever I get home she expects a symbolic touch or cheek kiss, but at this point I'm uncomfortable about even doing that, it's so forced and make me anxious. She then gets upset and demands I give her a kiss to prove my love. If I do it she then walks away. The thing is I'm not mad at her. I don't hate her, I love her, but I so wish she would tell me what's going on. And she's really finished with me, let me go.

It sounds to me like she is going through a lot of stress and has anxiety about unrelated things, and that it is coming out at you, OP, because she is overwhelmed and this (meaning sex, your needs, the relationship) feels like another thing she can’t deal with. It is very hard to do but you need to give her space and not personalize this. It is maybe nothing to do with you but a symptom of the fact that she has tiny kids and there was just a pandemic. Give yourself and her a break in short. The more you say about this, the more I feel that your putting urgency and emergency on top of this is just like lighting a grenade. Having kids is a huge stress on women and sometimes the first two years or so might be off, especially if you have more than one kid and little support.

I don’t think she sounds stressed. She sounds angry.
You are doing something to her, OP. You are somehow keeping her from doing something that’s very important to her. I don’t know if you are keeping her from caring for an elderly parent or making it difficult for her to have a career or be a SAHM or if there was a disagreement on the number of kids to have. But there is something, and you probably know what it is.

I don’t and she won’t tell me. I never say no to her. We spend the holidays with her family. We lived on my salary while she went through grad school. We see her friends not mine. Im still the primary bread winner. Whatever she wants I support her. If she hates me than she needs to be honest and come clean because it’s killing my self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low-libido people, we, your high-libido spouses, still love you. However, you have got to get it through your heads that condemning us to years of celibacy is not an acceptable solution to your problems with us. Perhaps, like my DH, you simply are not interested in having sex often, even if someone else is doing the bulk of the grunt work at home. If I chose to deal with the years of sexual deprivation by gambling or shopping us deeply into debt, no one would agree that this was a valid means of dealing with my frustration. Coerced sexlessness breaks down the partner and thus the family just as uncontrolled spending destroys the financial stability of the family.

Women who do not want sex need to do what our mothers and grandmothers were wise enough to do: put out or sign that hall pass without a mumble. No woman or man is worth decades without physical affection. People today think this is a reasonable sacrifice because they do much in the workplace and earn more money and have a higher standard of living generally. But y'all are all the way wrong.

I like sex, but if you only notice me in bed and are not intimate outside the bedroom, that’s a problem. The result is I lay there and treat you like treat me in the daylight - I’m just your warm, wet hole. I cannot muscle any enthusiasm for you. Take what I’m offering and shut up. Leave if you wish.

Every time I tried to kiss her I get a speech on why I did it wrong. If I try touching her shoulder I'm told I'm bugging her. If I try snuggling her in bed I get an elbow to the forehead and later get yelled at for rapist style behavior. The last incident was last month which is why I feel so desperate. What the hell am I supposed to do? It's clear she is repulsed by me but won't say it. At this point it seems so bad I don't know what I could do to even fix it. I feel embarrassed to be in my underwear around her, assuming she is so disgusted with any aspect of me and my sexuality. Whenever I get home she expects a symbolic touch or cheek kiss, but at this point I'm uncomfortable about even doing that, it's so forced and make me anxious. She then gets upset and demands I give her a kiss to prove my love. If I do it she then walks away. The thing is I'm not mad at her. I don't hate her, I love her, but I so wish she would tell me what's going on. And she's really finished with me, let me go.

It sounds to me like she is going through a lot of stress and has anxiety about unrelated things, and that it is coming out at you, OP, because she is overwhelmed and this (meaning sex, your needs, the relationship) feels like another thing she can’t deal with. It is very hard to do but you need to give her space and not personalize this. It is maybe nothing to do with you but a symptom of the fact that she has tiny kids and there was just a pandemic. Give yourself and her a break in short. The more you say about this, the more I feel that your putting urgency and emergency on top of this is just like lighting a grenade. Having kids is a huge stress on women and sometimes the first two years or so might be off, especially if you have more than one kid and little support.

I don’t think she sounds stressed. She sounds angry.
You are doing something to her, OP. You are somehow keeping her from doing something that’s very important to her. I don’t know if you are keeping her from caring for an elderly parent or making it difficult for her to have a career or be a SAHM or if there was a disagreement on the number of kids to have. But there is something, and you probably know what it is.

I don’t and she won’t tell me. I never say no to her. We spend the holidays with her family. We lived on my salary while she went through grad school. We see her friends not mine. Im still the primary bread winner. Whatever she wants I support her. If she hates me than she needs to be honest and come clean because it’s killing my self esteem.

NP. I have no idea why you put up with this sh*t.

[Anonymous]

Get a divorce. Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low-libido people, we, your high-libido spouses, still love you. However, you have got to get it through your heads that condemning us to years of celibacy is not an acceptable solution to your problems with us. Perhaps, like my DH, you simply are not interested in having sex often, even if someone else is doing the bulk of the grunt work at home. If I chose to deal with the years of sexual deprivation by gambling or shopping us deeply into debt, no one would agree that this was a valid means of dealing with my frustration. Coerced sexlessness breaks down the partner and thus the family just as uncontrolled spending destroys the financial stability of the family.

Women who do not want sex need to do what our mothers and grandmothers were wise enough to do: put out or sign that hall pass without a mumble. No woman or man is worth decades without physical affection. People today think this is a reasonable sacrifice because they do much in the workplace and earn more money and have a higher standard of living generally. But y'all are all the way wrong.

I like sex, but if you only notice me in bed and are not intimate outside the bedroom, that’s a problem. The result is I lay there and treat you like treat me in the daylight - I’m just your warm, wet hole. I cannot muscle any enthusiasm for you. Take what I’m offering and shut up. Leave if you wish.

Every time I tried to kiss her I get a speech on why I did it wrong. If I try touching her shoulder I'm told I'm bugging her. If I try snuggling her in bed I get an elbow to the forehead and later get yelled at for rapist style behavior. The last incident was last month which is why I feel so desperate. What the hell am I supposed to do? It's clear she is repulsed by me but won't say it. At this point it seems so bad I don't know what I could do to even fix it. I feel embarrassed to be in my underwear around her, assuming she is so disgusted with any aspect of me and my sexuality. Whenever I get home she expects a symbolic touch or cheek kiss, but at this point I'm uncomfortable about even doing that, it's so forced and make me anxious. She then gets upset and demands I give her a kiss to prove my love. If I do it she then walks away. The thing is I'm not mad at her. I don't hate her, I love her, but I so wish she would tell me what's going on. And she's really finished with me, let me go.

It sounds to me like she is going through a lot of stress and has anxiety about unrelated things, and that it is coming out at you, OP, because she is overwhelmed and this (meaning sex, your needs, the relationship) feels like another thing she can’t deal with. It is very hard to do but you need to give her space and not personalize this. It is maybe nothing to do with you but a symptom of the fact that she has tiny kids and there was just a pandemic. Give yourself and her a break in short. The more you say about this, the more I feel that your putting urgency and emergency on top of this is just like lighting a grenade. Having kids is a huge stress on women and sometimes the first two years or so might be off, especially if you have more than one kid and little support.

I don’t think she sounds stressed. She sounds angry.
You are doing something to her, OP. You are somehow keeping her from doing something that’s very important to her. I don’t know if you are keeping her from caring for an elderly parent or making it difficult for her to have a career or be a SAHM or if there was a disagreement on the number of kids to have. But there is something, and you probably know what it is.

I don’t and she won’t tell me. I never say no to her. We spend the holidays with her family. We lived on my salary while she went through grad school. We see her friends not mine. Im still the primary bread winner. Whatever she wants I support her. If she hates me than she needs to be honest and come clean because it’s killing my self esteem.

She is clearly not happy and probably "staying for the kids." You both need a come to Jesus conversation. I think this warrants a divorce. Or a hall pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low-libido people, we, your high-libido spouses, still love you. However, you have got to get it through your heads that condemning us to years of celibacy is not an acceptable solution to your problems with us. Perhaps, like my DH, you simply are not interested in having sex often, even if someone else is doing the bulk of the grunt work at home. If I chose to deal with the years of sexual deprivation by gambling or shopping us deeply into debt, no one would agree that this was a valid means of dealing with my frustration. Coerced sexlessness breaks down the partner and thus the family just as uncontrolled spending destroys the financial stability of the family.

Women who do not want sex need to do what our mothers and grandmothers were wise enough to do: put out or sign that hall pass without a mumble. No woman or man is worth decades without physical affection. People today think this is a reasonable sacrifice because they do much in the workplace and earn more money and have a higher standard of living generally. But y'all are all the way wrong.

I like sex, but if you only notice me in bed and are not intimate outside the bedroom, that’s a problem. The result is I lay there and treat you like treat me in the daylight - I’m just your warm, wet hole. I cannot muscle any enthusiasm for you. Take what I’m offering and shut up. Leave if you wish.

Every time I tried to kiss her I get a speech on why I did it wrong. If I try touching her shoulder I'm told I'm bugging her. If I try snuggling her in bed I get an elbow to the forehead and later get yelled at for rapist style behavior. The last incident was last month which is why I feel so desperate. What the hell am I supposed to do? It's clear she is repulsed by me but won't say it. At this point it seems so bad I don't know what I could do to even fix it. I feel embarrassed to be in my underwear around her, assuming she is so disgusted with any aspect of me and my sexuality. Whenever I get home she expects a symbolic touch or cheek kiss, but at this point I'm uncomfortable about even doing that, it's so forced and make me anxious. She then gets upset and demands I give her a kiss to prove my love. If I do it she then walks away. The thing is I'm not mad at her. I don't hate her, I love her, but I so wish she would tell me what's going on. And she's really finished with me, let me go.

It sounds to me like she is going through a lot of stress and has anxiety about unrelated things, and that it is coming out at you, OP, because she is overwhelmed and this (meaning sex, your needs, the relationship) feels like another thing she can’t deal with. It is very hard to do but you need to give her space and not personalize this. It is maybe nothing to do with you but a symptom of the fact that she has tiny kids and there was just a pandemic. Give yourself and her a break in short. The more you say about this, the more I feel that your putting urgency and emergency on top of this is just like lighting a grenade. Having kids is a huge stress on women and sometimes the first two years or so might be off, especially if you have more than one kid and little support.

I don’t think she sounds stressed. She sounds angry.
You are doing something to her, OP. You are somehow keeping her from doing something that’s very important to her. I don’t know if you are keeping her from caring for an elderly parent or making it difficult for her to have a career or be a SAHM or if there was a disagreement on the number of kids to have. But there is something, and you probably know what it is.

I don’t and she won’t tell me. I never say no to her. We spend the holidays with her family. We lived on my salary while she went through grad school. We see her friends not mine. Im still the primary bread winner. Whatever she wants I support her. If she hates me than she needs to be honest and come clean because it’s killing my self esteem.

I posted previously saying that I’m not attracted to my husband and he is handsome, fit and successful.

I have a friend whose husband is far more attractive than she is and she is no longer in love with him and they basically have a plutonic coparenting situation.

You can’t force someone to be attracted to you no matter the effort.

My husband is still attracted to me. We are early 40s. Would I fault him for no longer being attracted to me when I’m 50 or 60?

I don’t think you should lose your self esteem about it. Have you gone to counseling? Have you asked her about if if it ok for you to have an open marriage? Sounds like this sexless marriage is not working for you.

[Anonymous]

You only live once. If you can get away with and save your marriage just find some side action when needed and make sure you wear a condom and don’t do any oral stuff. Last thing you want to explain is a std and where you got it