Driving teenagers from a party to another house after they have been drinking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid needs an Uber account with unlimited access when drinking.

No you can’t be liable. Don’t tell people you knew they were drinking.

Prosecutor: According to the ME, Larlo’s Blood Alcohol Level was 0.25 meaning he was already intoxicated when he got into your car an hour earlier. Karlo testified that Larlo stumbled getting into your car and had difficulty fastening his seat belt. Is it your contention that you failed to notice his impairment?

And the crime is…???

I don't know she knowingly transported a drunk minor to a different party maybe negligience maybe contributing to deliquency of a minor. I don't know. I'm sure they can come up with something, especially if they go through text messages.

First, she did not contribute to the delinquency of a minor. Look up this offense before making random stuff up. Also, she would have to knowingly transport them to another party. As far as she was aware, they were going to sleep.

[Anonymous]

My oldest is 14, so I know I will be entering these waters in the next few years.
I agree with how OP handled it, and understand her uneasiness about it.
I would want my son to call me, and not drive drunk or get in a car with someone that is drunk. At the same time, I would not want to be the “cool” mom that is ok with kids getting trashed. So it is a very delicate balance.
In this situation, I would have wanted to contact the other parents and drop them off at their respective houses. However, if I did that, the next time my son would be in that situation… would he call me, or would he drive drunk or get in the car with someone driving that is drunk? Have to think long term in this situation. Hence why I would just drop them off at the sleepover house. The only other thing I would have done is to reach the parents at the drop off house, and confirm that there would be no more drinking that evening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can read about this case of a woman in Sykesville that allowed teens to drink and party at her house. Then the teens got into the back of a truck and had an accident, killing one. Apparently this was a common thing, she was the "party house".

https://www.baltimoresun.com/maryland/howard/bs-xpm-2010-12-22-bs-md-ho-stapf-drinking-trial-20101222-story.html

She didn't get charged (though she should have) but I hope that teen's death keeps her up at night. Not sure what happened with the civil suits the parents brought on her. Probably settled.

This is not remotely similar, as the OP did not serve anybody alcohol. ZERO involvement with the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at the number of people okay with having drunk teens dropped off at their house.

Agree. Posters need to flip the script on this one. You told your child he could have friends spend the night. OP drops them off and drives away, they stumble in, and you realize, crap! I have a house full of underaged intoxicated kids. Now what?

Worse, you didn't give permission, and you aren't even home, but there are bunch of drunk teens "sleeping" at your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at the number of people okay with having drunk teens dropped off at their house.

Agree. Posters need to flip the script on this one. You told your child he could have friends spend the night. OP drops them off and drives away, they stumble in, and you realize, crap! I have a house full of underaged intoxicated kids. Now what?

Worse, you didn't give permission, and you aren't even home, but there are bunch of drunk teens "sleeping" at your house.

Tipsy is different than drunk, to me. But maybe the OP is downplaying how much they had.

[Anonymous]

After reading all the posts, I feel that it was really good that OP's son asked OP for a ride. I would not call the parents of these children and tell them that they were drunk...but I would take a group picture of them at the second house where they were crashing and send a group text to the parents saying - "Hello parents, I have safely transported the kids from Party #1 to House#2, where they plan to have a sleepover. - Larlo's dad"

I always had the phone numbers of all the parents with me when my kids were in the HS - and I used to send group texts if I was chauffeuring the kids around. My kids did not mind because that was the expectation I had set for them.

I think in OP's example, this would be sufficient. The parents could make a determination that their kid was drunk (or not) based on the photo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad for parents who feel like they have to act okay with this.

Yeah, much better to punish them and ensure that next time, they get in the car drunk to avoid your wrath.

Not punish. Just not allow them at that particular house again. And keep a closer eye on those friends. It’s disgusting how people try to normalize teen drinking. I did not drink as a teen and had plenty of friends who did not either.

[Anonymous]

You are everything horrible about this country. Your pwecious and his friends could have driven after the fact, probably molested some drunk girl, etc. What the hell is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at the number of people okay with having drunk teens dropped off at their house.

Agree. Posters need to flip the script on this one. You told your child he could have friends spend the night. OP drops them off and drives away, they stumble in, and you realize, crap! I have a house full of underaged intoxicated kids. Now what?

Worse, you didn't give permission, and you aren't even home, but there are bunch of drunk teens "sleeping" at your house.

So what? What are you afraid of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are everything horrible about this country. Your pwecious and his friends could have driven after the fact, probably molested some drunk girl, etc. What the hell is wrong with you?

You’ve jumped the shark!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at the number of people okay with having drunk teens dropped off at their house.

Agree. Posters need to flip the script on this one. You told your child he could have friends spend the night. OP drops them off and drives away, they stumble in, and you realize, crap! I have a house full of underaged intoxicated kids. Now what?

Worse, you didn't give permission, and you aren't even home, but there are bunch of drunk teens "sleeping" at your house.

Tipsy is different than drunk, to me. But maybe the OP is downplaying how much they had.

Tipsy is drunk and there's no legal amount of alcohol for a minor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at the number of people okay with having drunk teens dropped off at their house.

Agree. Posters need to flip the script on this one. You told your child he could have friends spend the night. OP drops them off and drives away, they stumble in, and you realize, crap! I have a house full of underaged intoxicated kids. Now what?

Worse, you didn't give permission, and you aren't even home, but there are bunch of drunk teens "sleeping" at your house.

So what? What are you afraid of?

Okay pp please advertise to all your friends you're the house to drop the drunk teens off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad for parents who feel like they have to act okay with this.

Yeah, much better to punish them and ensure that next time, they get in the car drunk to avoid your wrath.

Not punish. Just not allow them at that particular house again. And keep a closer eye on those friends. It’s disgusting how people try to normalize teen drinking. I did not drink as a teen and had plenty of friends who did not either.

Many people on DCUM are problem drinkers if not alcoholics themselves or they are in denial

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised at the number of people okay with having drunk teens dropped off at their house.

Agree. Posters need to flip the script on this one. You told your child he could have friends spend the night. OP drops them off and drives away, they stumble in, and you realize, crap! I have a house full of underaged intoxicated kids. Now what?

Worse, you didn't give permission, and you aren't even home, but there are bunch of drunk teens "sleeping" at your house.

Tipsy is different than drunk, to me. But maybe the OP is downplaying how much they had.

Tipsy is drunk and there's no legal amount of alcohol for a minor.

This is the bottom line. And who exactly provided the alcohol to minors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad for parents who feel like they have to act okay with this.

Yeah, much better to punish them and ensure that next time, they get in the car drunk to avoid your wrath.

Not punish. Just not allow them at that particular house again. And keep a closer eye on those friends. It’s disgusting how people try to normalize teen drinking. I did not drink as a teen and had plenty of friends who did not either.

So you never had a drink even in college as a freshman or sophomore when you are still a teen?

There are many, many people who did recreational drinking in the late teen years and nothing much came from it and they are not adults with a drinking problem. That would be...every single person I was friends with in college. There is some middle ground here. Talk to your kids about how to be responsible with alcohol.

This is kind of the equivalent of only pushing sex abstinence to me. Just disconnected from reality and doing more harm than good.