Driving teenagers from a party to another house after they have been drinking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should be congratulated on raising a conscientious son who didn’t get sloppy drunk, didn’t hang out with friends who did, didn’t drive drunk and trusted you enough to come pick them up. I hope my son would do the same. Good job Mom.

You did the right thing and so did your son. I’d tell your son you were very happy he called you and then you realize kids drink and ask if there are any drugs at these parties. My mom used to ask me very direct questions and I’d be so stunned Id answer truthfully. (As opposed to being like mom and dad want to talk to you after school and just lecture while kid has time to make up a story.)

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A couple things I don't follow on this thread-

Why are people saying the OP drove them to a party? She didn't say that.

Why are people leaping from this incident to saying that OP must condone "Regularly getting drunk"?

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Anonymous wrote:You did the right thing. And I would just let it be. That way your DS will continue to call you in these situations. Otherwise he would be drinking and driving or getting into a car with someone who was drinking.

+1000

- 1000 now he'll just continue to get drunk at parties and have OP be his chauffeur to the next event.

….. Which is better than driving drunk to the next event.

A teenager regularly getting drunk and a mom who encourages it is not better for anyone.

You go from 0 to 100 in a second.
Parenting teenagers requires calm and rational thinking. Not this crazy anxiousness.
OPs kid has done this once and she in no way encouraged it. You’re making stuff up.

She is encouraging it. YOu call me drunk. I'll bring you to a party. This may be the first time, but it definitely won't be the last and I would bet my salary her son ends up in rehab before he graduates college.

I’m curious how old your child/children are?
You seem to not have real experience.

You know your stance is poor when you resort to you can't have kids because you disagree with me. I'll do you one better though, I work with adults who have substance abuse mainly issues with alcohol and every single one of them have a parent like you who don't see a big deal with teens drinking regularly, who think the end of the matter is that they called, and nothing further should happen because they might drink and drive. They also all have multiple DUIs.

So you don’t have teenagers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple things I don't follow on this thread-

Why are people saying the OP drove them to a party? She didn't say that.

Why are people leaping from this incident to saying that OP must condone "Regularly getting drunk"?

Because there is one poster who is catastrophizing everything.
I agree with you. It was never said by the OP.

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Why did they not call a cab/uber? Bizarre.

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with others she should not have taken them to another party. I’m also not keep their secrets from their parents.

I hope they can find safe alternative arrangements, because they won’t call you.

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NP here. One of the biggest keys is avoiding drunk driving. Some of these posters have zero common sense.

I would not have driven them to another party.

I would have driven them home or to one house, together, safe from any more drinking.

You want your kid to be able to call you for a ride, any time, if they need you.

God forbid they get into a car with a drunk driver.

But OP didn't know the bold, did she? She just dropped them off at a random house.

My HS-er isn't allowed to drink and she knows this. If she does it anyway then she won't be attending social events where there is any chance it could be happening. This includes "sleepovers" at friends houses. Thankfully she and her friends are not interested in drinking. They are dorks who bake brownies and play board games. And I am close friends with all of the other moms.

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Boys called you from a house party (not your house) because they had (apparently) been drinking and didn't want to drive. You took them to another home where they would all be spending the night. No one appeared to be out of control drunk, but they appeared to be tipsy-- boys are seventeen (seniors).

Calling their parents might cause them to "risk it" the next time they are drinking vs. asking an adult to get them safely home. I don't think it will deter the drinking.

You did the right thing and (except for the drinking), they did the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A couple things I don't follow on this thread-

Why are people saying the OP drove them to a party? She didn't say that.

Why are people leaping from this incident to saying that OP must condone "Regularly getting drunk"?

A sleepover full of tipsy teens sounds like a party to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did they not call a cab/uber? Bizarre.

They didn’t call an Uber because Uber drivers wouldn’t drive tipsy teens anywhere to avoid liability.

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Anonymous wrote:Why did they not call a cab/uber? Bizarre.

They didn’t call an Uber because Uber drivers wouldn’t drive tipsy teens anywhere to avoid liability.

And they knew OP would do it for free.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A couple things I don't follow on this thread-

Why are people saying the OP drove them to a party? She didn't say that.

Why are people leaping from this incident to saying that OP must condone "Regularly getting drunk"?

A sleepover full of tipsy teens sounds like a party to me.

Fascinating. What is it that makes it a "party" to you? Is it the fact that they were tipsy? That they were sleeping over? That it was more than one person?