Sexual secrets within a monogamous committed relationship

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never think of anyone else while with DW. The other two, nice in a while. Married 25 years.

Same though, I'm the woman. I have had fantasies about other people, but not while I'm with him.

Wow, really? I would have bet all my money that all men and certainly most women fantasize about others. That's amazing you don't!

When I'm solo I might fantasize about others, but when I'm physical with DH he's the only one on my mind, I really don't think that is so strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never think of anyone else while with DW. The other two, nice in a while. Married 25 years.

Same though, I'm the woman. I have had fantasies about other people, but not while I'm with him.

Wow, really? I would have bet all my money that all men and certainly most women fantasize about others. That's amazing you don't!

If I can’t see DH’s face I often fantasize about someone else but no one I know.

[Anonymous]

DW wants to see me with a sexy tranny. She said she wants me to get be hind her, then a tranny get behind me. She also wants me alone with a tranny and watch me get… 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW wants to see me with a sexy tranny. She said she wants me to get be hind her, then a tranny get behind me. She also wants me alone with a tranny and watch me get… 🤷‍♂️

You mean like a tranny train?

[Anonymous]

Newsflash:

1. Masterbation is a normal, healthly and safe sexual activity for horny people.
2. There is no such thing as a kink that is not "normal." We all have kinks of a sort and whatever two consenting adults wish to do in their own bedroom is fine.
3. You do not need to know every.single, thing your spouse or partner thinks or fantasizes about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Newsflash:

1. Masterbation is a normal, healthly and safe sexual activity for horny people.
2. There is no such thing as a kink that is not "normal." We all have kinks of a sort and whatever two consenting adults wish to do in their own bedroom is fine.
3. You do not need to know every.single, thing your spouse or partner thinks or fantasizes about.

As to 1) - yes very healthy. Great for mental health.

Great for physical health too. There is some evidence an orgasm can shorten period bleeding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW wants to see me with a sexy tranny. She said she wants me to get be hind her, then a tranny get behind me. She also wants me alone with a tranny and watch me get… 🤷‍♂️

You mean like a tranny train?

Yes…

[Anonymous]

I masturbate to a video I found in her attic from her previous husband. Mostly blowjob and missionary but it turns me on so much to see her with somebody else. If she found out she would probably divorce me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I masturbate to a video I found in her attic from her previous husband. Mostly blowjob and missionary but it turns me on so much to see her with somebody else. If she found out she would probably divorce me.

Did he do it better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW wants to see me with a sexy tranny. She said she wants me to get be hind her, then a tranny get behind me. She also wants me alone with a tranny and watch me get… 🤷‍♂️

You mean like a tranny train?

Yes…

The thought of that is oddly grotesque, but I can't stop trying to imagine how that would look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I masturbate to a video I found in her attic from her previous husband. Mostly blowjob and missionary but it turns me on so much to see her with somebody else. If she found out she would probably divorce me.

Did he do it better?

No. He had a huge uncircumcised penis but came in a minute or two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DW wants to see me with a sexy tranny. She said she wants me to get be hind her, then a tranny get behind me. She also wants me alone with a tranny and watch me get… 🤷‍♂️

You mean like a tranny train?

Yes…

The thought of that is oddly grotesque, but I can't stop trying to imagine how that would look.

DW saw a video of this and said it really turned her on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I masturbate to a video I found in her attic from her previous husband. Mostly blowjob and missionary but it turns me on so much to see her with somebody else. If she found out she would probably divorce me.

Did he do it better?

No. He had a huge uncircumcised penis but came in a minute or two.

This is a common male fantasy, and helps explain the "hot wife" phenomenon. From what I've read, this may also explain why the MFM situation can be a turn-on to some men.

[Anonymous]

OP here, does anyone own a toy that they keep secret from their partner? If so, why do you keep it secret?

[Anonymous]

OP here again. I think it is interesting the lines some people draw re whether they fantasize about people other than their partner. Some people do so without restriction, others do but only when going solo, still others when with partner but can't see face, etc. Also interesting that some don't like their partner to talk (which may be an effort to prevent reality from intruding on some fantasy). Are these rules we make up for ourselves because we think breaking them is somehow wrong or disrespectful to our partners?