Anti vax DH won't compromise principles and may quit Fed job, how should I prepare?

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Anonymous wrote:I would take out extra life insurance on him, in addition to consulting a lawyer. Maybe ask him about his plans? Has he started applying for non fed jobs already?

It's probable kids will eventually bring Covid home from school and he will be much more susceptible than if he was vaccinated.

You can’t take life insurance out on another person.

That's too bad, because his kids may need it if he dies.

Him taking out extra life insurance and short and long term disability insurance on himself would be one of my stipulations for staying. Mainly in order to protect the kids future from being absorbed by his medical bills if he is unlucky.

Looking at CDC stats, a 50 year old GS-15 has a chance of dying from it, if infected, of around 4 in a thousand (.004). Probably less.

Doesn't mean it won't happen to him. Some people are just particularly unlucky, look at all the rabid antimaskers and right wing radio personalities who have died in the other thread about it.

That 4 in a thousand means someone is going to be those 4 people, and many more will end up with "long Covid." The best outcome is that he loses his job, the worst that he ends up unemployed and disabled from long Covid and he is a burden on his family.

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Anonymous wrote:Talk to a lawyer. If you are already contemplating divorce you may want to file now before he impoverishes himself by quitting his job.

I agree with talking to a lawyer, but in general judges aren’t very sympathetic to spouses who refuse to work.

This is probably fake but he can get a non-government job.

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Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

I’m pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I want to get it soon…what happened to you? Did it end okay? Was the first shot okay?

Pregnant PP, PLEASE do not listen to anything this poster responds about how the vaccine "made me sick" etc. Drama. Either the PP had some other condition going on or had some allergy to something in the vaccine--which is VERY rare indeed.

Please instead read the story in today's Post about this couple who both died of Covid. The wife gave birth to her fifth child and died of Covid three weeks later, leaving behind all those children with no parents. The wife was a nurse yet didn't get vaccinated because she, sadly, seemed leery of the vaccine due to myths about the vaccine and pregnancy. Please read this story.

Yes, it's scary. It should be.

If you cannot open the link, just Google the name Davy Macias.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2021/09/13/davy-daniel-macias-covid-19/

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A pregnant friend of a friend waited to get her vaccine until after the baby was born. Unfortunately, she got COVID towards the end of her pregnancy and died less than two weeks after delivery.

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Blah blah white peoples problems. You’re so petty OP.

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Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

I’m pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I want to get it soon…what happened to you? Did it end okay? Was the first shot okay?

Pregnant PP, PLEASE do not listen to anything this poster responds about how the vaccine "made me sick" etc. Drama. Either the PP had some other condition going on or had some allergy to something in the vaccine--which is VERY rare indeed.

Please instead read the story in today's Post about this couple who both died of Covid. The wife gave birth to her fifth child and died of Covid three weeks later, leaving behind all those children with no parents. The wife was a nurse yet didn't get vaccinated because she, sadly, seemed leery of the vaccine due to myths about the vaccine and pregnancy. Please read this story.

Yes, it's scary. It should be.

If you cannot open the link, just Google the name Davy Macias.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2021/09/13/davy-daniel-macias-covid-19/

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A pregnant friend of a friend waited to get her vaccine until after the baby was born. Unfortunately, she got COVID towards the end of her pregnancy and died less than two weeks after delivery.

Yes. Meanwhile I have friends who got the shot while pregnant and breastfed who have babies that have Covid antibodies, literally the only way to get some antibodies in a baby that young at the moment. Seems like a no brainer to me to get the shot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would take out extra life insurance on him, in addition to consulting a lawyer. Maybe ask him about his plans? Has he started applying for non fed jobs already?

It's probable kids will eventually bring Covid home from school and he will be much more susceptible than if he was vaccinated.

You can’t take life insurance out on another person.

That's too bad, because his kids may need it if he dies.

Him taking out extra life insurance and short and long term disability insurance on himself would be one of my stipulations for staying. Mainly in order to protect the kids future from being absorbed by his medical bills if he is unlucky.

They will get his social security, retirement, etc. OP wants to divorce, so get divorced areaway. This has nothing to do with covid.

Dp you are wrong. When Your partner is making major decisions that could upend your whole family life it’s very difficult. And yes he is very smart and a good dad. It’s like being married to a gambler or addict. It is scary and it’s hard to know how much to support them vs. creating a separate, stable family life for my kids if he decides to continue down this path that I believe is completely wrong. I’m hoping counseling will help us but the wedge just keeps growing.

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Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

I’m pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I want to get it soon…what happened to you? Did it end okay? Was the first shot okay?

Pregnant PP, PLEASE do not listen to anything this poster responds about how the vaccine "made me sick" etc. Drama. Either the PP had some other condition going on or had some allergy to something in the vaccine--which is VERY rare indeed.

OMG my college roommate is an ICU doctor and she says she has had so many pregnant women die in her care the last two months. It is devastating her. And it is calm agonizing way to die.

Please instead read the story in today's Post about this couple who both died of Covid. The wife gave birth to her fifth child and died of Covid three weeks later, leaving behind all those children with no parents. The wife was a nurse yet didn't get vaccinated because she, sadly, seemed leery of the vaccine due to myths about the vaccine and pregnancy. Please read this story.

Yes, it's scary. It should be.

If you cannot open the link, just Google the name Davy Macias.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2021/09/13/davy-daniel-macias-covid-19/

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A pregnant friend of a friend waited to get her vaccine until after the baby was born. Unfortunately, she got COVID towards the end of her pregnancy and died less than two weeks after delivery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would take out extra life insurance on him, in addition to consulting a lawyer. Maybe ask him about his plans? Has he started applying for non fed jobs already?

It's probable kids will eventually bring Covid home from school and he will be much more susceptible than if he was vaccinated.

You can’t take life insurance out on another person.

That's too bad, because his kids may need it if he dies.

Him taking out extra life insurance and short and long term disability insurance on himself would be one of my stipulations for staying. Mainly in order to protect the kids future from being absorbed by his medical bills if he is unlucky.

They will get his social security, retirement, etc. OP wants to divorce, so get divorced areaway. This has nothing to do with covid.

Dp you are wrong. When Your partner is making major decisions that could upend your whole family life it’s very difficult. And yes he is very smart and a good dad. It’s like being married to a gambler or addict. It is scary and it’s hard to know how much to support them vs. creating a separate, stable family life for my kids if he decides to continue down this path that I believe is completely wrong. I’m hoping counseling will help us but the wedge just keeps growing.

And he believes you are wrong. His body, his choice. Get a divorce since you want one.

[Anonymous]

I would tell him to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

I’m pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I want to get it soon…what happened to you? Did it end okay? Was the first shot okay?

Pregnant PP, PLEASE do not listen to anything this poster responds about how the vaccine "made me sick" etc. Drama. Either the PP had some other condition going on or had some allergy to something in the vaccine--which is VERY rare indeed.

Please instead read the story in today's Post about this couple who both died of Covid. The wife gave birth to her fifth child and died of Covid three weeks later, leaving behind all those children with no parents. The wife was a nurse yet didn't get vaccinated because she, sadly, seemed leery of the vaccine due to myths about the vaccine and pregnancy. Please read this story.

Yes, it's scary. It should be.

If you cannot open the link, just Google the name Davy Macias.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2021/09/13/davy-daniel-macias-covid-19/

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A pregnant friend of a friend waited to get her vaccine until after the baby was born. Unfortunately, she got COVID towards the end of her pregnancy and died less than two weeks after delivery.

I’ll take things that never happened for $200, Alex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, all I can say is that I completely sympathize with you. I’m in the exact same boat with my DH, but he is Fed contractor who owns a fed consulting company with employees. I also told him if he gets covid I’m not taking him to the hospital. I think it is so selfish and ignorant not to get the vaccine, and especially with the fed mandate and employees who count on the company.

This is OP, and thanks for your message. I'm pretty surprised at the number of people who think this post is fake...I think a lot of people don't understand what it is like to be married to someone with this belief, and I figured that I'm not the only spouse of a Fed or a Fed contractor in this situation. I completely agree with you about the unbelievable level of self-absorption involved in choosing not to get vaccinated. However, my feelings don't really matter here because they are not changing anything for the better! But I think I'm not getting more helpful advice in this thread because readers that have experience that could be helpful may not be bothering to respond to a post they assume is a troll. I can and will consult an attorney for legal advice, but I was hoping for something more practical. Anyway, I appreciate your sympathy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

I’m pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I want to get it soon…what happened to you? Did it end okay? Was the first shot okay?

Pregnant PP, PLEASE do not listen to anything this poster responds about how the vaccine "made me sick" etc. Drama. Either the PP had some other condition going on or had some allergy to something in the vaccine--which is VERY rare indeed.

Please instead read the story in today's Post about this couple who both died of Covid. The wife gave birth to her fifth child and died of Covid three weeks later, leaving behind all those children with no parents. The wife was a nurse yet didn't get vaccinated because she, sadly, seemed leery of the vaccine due to myths about the vaccine and pregnancy. Please read this story.

Yes, it's scary. It should be.

If you cannot open the link, just Google the name Davy Macias.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2021/09/13/davy-daniel-macias-covid-19/

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A pregnant friend of a friend waited to get her vaccine until after the baby was born. Unfortunately, she got COVID towards the end of her pregnancy and died less than two weeks after delivery.

I’ll take things that never happened for $200, Alex.

This is literally happening all over the country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

I’m pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I want to get it soon…what happened to you? Did it end okay? Was the first shot okay?

Pregnant PP, PLEASE do not listen to anything this poster responds about how the vaccine "made me sick" etc. Drama. Either the PP had some other condition going on or had some allergy to something in the vaccine--which is VERY rare indeed.

Please instead read the story in today's Post about this couple who both died of Covid. The wife gave birth to her fifth child and died of Covid three weeks later, leaving behind all those children with no parents. The wife was a nurse yet didn't get vaccinated because she, sadly, seemed leery of the vaccine due to myths about the vaccine and pregnancy. Please read this story.

Yes, it's scary. It should be.

If you cannot open the link, just Google the name Davy Macias.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2021/09/13/davy-daniel-macias-covid-19/

"

A pregnant friend of a friend waited to get her vaccine until after the baby was born. Unfortunately, she got COVID towards the end of her pregnancy and died less than two weeks after delivery.

I’ll take things that never happened for $200, Alex.

May not be the same story but similar happened. And it’s sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is probably fully vaccinated beyond the covid vaccine and its his choice. If you want to divorce, go for it. You sound really difficult. Just file for divorce, agree to 50/50 custody, move out and find housing for yourself and be done with it. If you threaten divorce, be prepared to follow through. If my spouse filed, there would be no turning back.

Your spouse should file.

My spouse had to take care of everything for three months after I got sick with the second vaccine shot after he pushed me into taking it. He doesn't want to do everything again and values our marriage. If he wants a divorce, he can have one.

I’m pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I want to get it soon…what happened to you? Did it end okay? Was the first shot okay?

Pregnant PP, PLEASE do not listen to anything this poster responds about how the vaccine "made me sick" etc. Drama. Either the PP had some other condition going on or had some allergy to something in the vaccine--which is VERY rare indeed.

Please instead read the story in today's Post about this couple who both died of Covid. The wife gave birth to her fifth child and died of Covid three weeks later, leaving behind all those children with no parents. The wife was a nurse yet didn't get vaccinated because she, sadly, seemed leery of the vaccine due to myths about the vaccine and pregnancy. Please read this story.

Yes, it's scary. It should be.

If you cannot open the link, just Google the name Davy Macias.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2021/09/13/davy-daniel-macias-covid-19/

"

A pregnant friend of a friend waited to get her vaccine until after the baby was born. Unfortunately, she got COVID towards the end of her pregnancy and died less than two weeks after delivery.

I’ll take things that never happened for $200, Alex.

May not be the same story but similar happened. And it’s sad.

Forgot to add the link.

https://www.cnn.com/2021/09/13/us/california-family-covid-death-orphan-five-children/index.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would take out extra life insurance on him, in addition to consulting a lawyer. Maybe ask him about his plans? Has he started applying for non fed jobs already?

It's probable kids will eventually bring Covid home from school and he will be much more susceptible than if he was vaccinated.

I'm not a Fed, but I am a contractor. We will also be required to be vaccinated.

I would start preparing to leave now OP. Consult a lawyer, figure out what housing you can afford, and start making plans. If this is a hill he is going to die on, he will be unemployed soon. He will also contract Covid soon.